Dating an autistic woman - What should I know?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been dating for a few weeks now. She’s diagnosed ADHD/ high functioning Autism. I don’t know a lot about the high functioning type of autism, so I’d like any tips and advice on being a great understanding partner.

[Anonymous]

That it’s highly hereditary

[Anonymous]

That would should probably stop dating her and find someone NT.

[Anonymous]

Troll post.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I don't know what those symptoms are. I might be on the spectrum. DD thinks I have ocd, and I'm also a perfectionist. DS said lovingly that I was a difficult person, but he still loves me LOL.

But, I think our marriage has been mostly fine for the past 23 years.

It's a sliding scale. I would definitely not rush into anything.

[Anonymous]

AudADHD common symptoms are easy to look up. The fact that your early days date even told you about their Dxs is either encouraging or a precursor. Depends if they are managing their symptoms well.

List of common symptoms, any or all of the below, on a chronic basis:

Executive functioning deficiencies
Emotional dysregulation
Stimming
Lack of empathy (ability to see or understand another’s view or situation)
Lack of communication skills
Hyperactivity
Inattentiveness (ie lack of ability to focus)
Hyperfocuses on special interests

[Anonymous]

The "explosion" in autism is because it's genetic. With treatment, people marry and have kids. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "explosion" in autism is because it's genetic. With treatment, people marry and have kids. Sorry.

Well, actually the “explosion” is due to safe screen jobs and other enhanced ways to easily live (take out, apt rentals, Ubers, social media socializing), so previous people who frequently endangered themselves are safe and sound, making an income and living longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

There is something about him that has always creeped me out when I've seen clips of them. She seems like she genuinely wants to help others by telling her own experiences. He almost seems exploitative and talks to her like he thinks she's "slow" or like she's a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That it’s highly hereditary

Is it more that, than environmental when a fetus/child? Most studies show how prenatal envirotoxins, toxoplasmosis and other parasites, etc. are a huge factor.

[Anonymous]

So he won't marry her and she's been in a relationship with him, did she say, 6 years? She lives with him with no commitment.

That's going to mess with anyone's head! He doing her NO favors

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been dating for a few weeks now. She’s diagnosed ADHD/ high functioning Autism. I don’t know a lot about the high functioning type of autism, so I’d like any tips and advice on being a great understanding partner.

If you know one person with Autism than you know one person..we are all different! Nice that you wanr to support her but talk to her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AudADHD common symptoms are easy to look up. The fact that your early days date even told you about their Dxs is either encouraging or a precursor. Depends if they are managing their symptoms well.

List of common symptoms, any or all of the below, on a chronic basis:

Executive functioning deficiencies
Emotional dysregulation
Stimming
Lack of empathy (ability to see or understand another’s view or situation)
Lack of communication skills
Hyperactivity
Inattentiveness (ie lack of ability to focus)
Hyperfocuses on special interests

People wuth autism do not like empathy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been dating for a few weeks now. She’s diagnosed ADHD/ high functioning Autism. I don’t know a lot about the high functioning type of autism, so I’d like any tips and advice on being a great understanding partner.

Ask her.