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Anonymous
I'm so sorry you're going through this. |
Anonymous
| I slept with a random guy from one of my classes last night. I'm the professor. |
Anonymous
Well, if this was an undergraduate class, then as a parent, I have a problem with that even if the guy was legally of age. If this was a graduate class, I guess the big issue would be the integrity of the grade you ultimately award this student. Wow. |
Anonymous
Not the professor, but just curious: Why? |
Anonymous
| I'd have a problem if the professor is married. |
Anonymous
| I'd have a problem if they did it on my couch. |
Anonymous
Because by definition, there is a power imbalance. Most colleges and universities have policies against this. |
Anonymous
| PP here - not only is there a power imbalance; there is also an inherent conflict of interest. |
Anonymous
| My daughter is 4 and never had sex my husband since then.. I know it's not normal but... whatever! |
Anonymous
OMG! This breaks my heart. God is our healer! Keep clinging to His promises. He loves you! |
Anonymous
| I have gained so much weight because of medical reasons. I hate myself. My husband says that I'm beautiful. I don't believe him. I have come very close to driving off the bridge several times. |
Anonymous
| PP you are very depressed. Please get help! Your husband loves you and wants you around for a long time. Virtual Hug. |
Anonymous
NP here. Yes, this can blow up big time in a professor's face. An assistant professor colleague of mine got drunk and got a blow job from a grad student in his class. He said it was consensual. She said he pressured her into it. The dean sided with her and he was gone the very next year. The power imbalance can be especially destructive in relationships between graduate students and faculty. Personal recommendations can be key in getting a job interview (and later a job offer) in what has been for decades a terrible job market for professors generally. While an undergrad may be less mature than a grad student and suffer more at the time, undergrads don't usually have their whole professional life wrapped up in their relations with the faculty. There is a dynamic where newly hired assistant professors fresh out of grad school have a hard time coming to grips with the fact that they're not grad students anymore but faculty and they have to act differently. It's a bit lonely but they need to reflect on their responsibility as faculty. On the other hand, I've heard of lecherous older faculty who have been out there pressuring grad students for years before they've been brought to account -- if ever. Prof poster -- please be careful with your career and please be more responsible towards your students! |
Anonymous
| Here's my confession: I love my MIL more than my Mom. And I love my SIL and BILs more than either of my actual sisters. My family would be crushed if they knew this but I kind of think they already do. |
Anonymous
| My confession: I'm a teacher in DC. I teach all low-income Latino and African American children. I think about changing schools in order to serve a more diverse community including white children (I'm white)... but I'm afraid to switch because of having to deal with all the judgmental and overbearing white DCUM mothers, all of whom have "gifted" children. |