Confessions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Yeah but there is more to my profile. I am African American and we tend to go with the status quo with education so long as the training is not too deficient. I know there are tons of black families who value education but there is a cut off point when it comes to paying for secondary schools. We will go all out for college but not for HS. We are middle class for sure. Educated but still quite middle class, at least in the DC area. Down south we lived much better and ran in some really cool circles. A great private school did not exceed $18000.00. Here the big number is $30,000.00 and all of my freinds think I'm crazy for constantly calculating how I am going to get this done when college will be right around the corner. I get tired of hearing, "Your crazy, just go to Damatha and save money for college where it will really count.". I am obsessed with getting him there. I mean making sure that he has the best test scores and grades, sports,music and scouting profile AND trying to arrange a way to pay. He is in 7th grade and I think of this day and night. It is a confession. Really. Well it is my horrible confession. If anyone out there understands let me know.

Grammar typos- you are striving for your kid to do what you couldn't or had no opportunity to have ($$)- ease up on pressure and putting yourself in debt. Nowhere did you describe how bright your child was an needed it- it was clearly about you (not that your son isn't bright). Putting yourself in debt isn't necessary or a way to secure your child will succeed. Many successful people went to county high schools and state schools. If it is that irrational- you may want to consider talking to a counselor to help with whatever issues you have. Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Yeah but there is more to my profile. I am African American and we tend to go with the status quo with education so long as the training is not too deficient. I know there are tons of black families who value education but there is a cut off point when it comes to paying for secondary schools. We will go all out for college but not for HS. We are middle class for sure. Educated but still quite middle class, at least in the DC area. Down south we lived much better and ran in some really cool circles. A great private school did not exceed $18000.00. Here the big number is $30,000.00 and all of my freinds think I'm crazy for constantly calculating how I am going to get this done when college will be right around the corner. I get tired of hearing, "Your crazy, just go to Damatha and save money for college where it will really count.". I am obsessed with getting him there. I mean making sure that he has the best test scores and grades, sports,music and scouting profile AND trying to arrange a way to pay. He is in 7th grade and I think of this day and night. It is a confession. Really. Well it is my horrible confession. If anyone out there understands let me know.

Grammar typos- you are striving for your kid to do what you couldn't or had no opportunity to have ($$)- ease up on pressure and putting yourself in debt. Nowhere did you describe how bright your child was an needed it- it was clearly about you (not that your son isn't bright). Putting yourself in debt isn't necessary or a way to secure your child will succeed. Many successful people went to county high schools and state schools. If it is that irrational- you may want to consider talking to a counselor to help with whatever issues you have. Best wishes.

I agree that there are many, many things which factor into the future success of any human being. Sometimes kids who are too pressured end up rejecting everything their parents want for them. However, I do think it is great that mom is willing to really sacrifice to pay for son's education.

Funny though....we are an Vietnemese family live in PG County and really think highly of DeMatha and are saving our money to send our boys there. We definitely don't see it as a "settle" school.

[Anonymous]

BlogDahlia here-----

Most of y'all are plain vanilla when in the secret transgressions dept. , more like girls scouts who have failed to make their sales quota than closet Sopranos.

That said: the Confessional Cup goes to the Mom who was distressed that her new born's babybonics would be some choice mutterings that would unhinge the nanny (or at least fritz her early admission chances to Beauvoir). 5 LOL's for that one!

Followed close behind with a runner-up ConCup is the gal who immortalized okra. Anybody bothered by a vegan should let this one fly.

And little ConCups to the several who let it be known that MIL's would not be sorely missed.

***A note of advice to said MIL's to have rear view mirrors installed in their Eric Javits, kevlar lining in their Lily P's and avoid all flagons with dragons and wisely give a wide berth to their DIL's when they look borderline Lizzie Borden.

Have the occasions of sin totally fizzled out?

[Anonymous]

PP - I say let the high ticket payers find out for themselves. No retirement for them. And no, you are not guaranteeing that DC will NOT put you in a home down the road, either.

[Anonymous]

I confess that although I believe most of the DCUM posts are absurd, I come back for more. WHY?!?!?!

[Anonymous]

I don't care what your opinionS are about any of the prior confessions. You sound like a judgemental snob. The right wingers are supposed to be angry, no you.

[Anonymous]

I have was diagnosed with cancer and treated and then diagnosed with a recurrence of cancer 8 months later. Sometimes I am scared I will die of cancer and I'm not even 35 years old yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am young (22), pregnant with my second child by 2 different men, not married (soon to be engaged I am suspecting!), work full time, live pretty much paycheck to paycheck, rent the upstairs of my grandmothers old house and have 3 bedrooms, 1 1/2 bath and a big beautiful yard (uncle lives downstairs-but never see or hear from him), have no college education (and won't until the newest baby gets a little older), send my DD to a great private daycare acadamy for working lower income families (you couldn't tell this school from a school you would pay 17k a year for),and yet am happier and MORE GRATEFUL than 98% of these sahm and 1.2 mil dollar home owning moms!! What is with you guys? You have children, be blessed. Who cares if you work or sah? You do what it takes to care for your kids and everyone has different means of doing that! Just be lucky and thankful!!! I love my life and no matter how much it may be frustrating or trying to work and juggle kids and bills and everything else I can't wait ot have more. It's about LOVE-not money or status. Maybe all of you are the ones that shouldn't have kid, as ungrateful as you are. YOU MAKE ME SICK!

Your private day care is being paid for by people like me and my husband who make over 250K a year. Our taxes allow your born out of wedlock children to go to the "great" daycare for lower income families that makes you "so happy!" If you actually worked for everything you have - the private day care, a "real" home - not grandma's attic, you might experience some of the financial stress that the rest of us feel and have difficulty striking that balance. Who in their right mind goes on to have a SECOND baby when they need city assistance just to send the first child to day care????????? YOU are selfish.

[Anonymous]

PP here - my previous post was just plain mean. I confess that I am sorry. It was mean spirited and could have been worded better.

[Anonymous]

I confess that I LIKE my job but I hate by co-worker and I can't wait to see her fired. As a matter effect she needs the job so bad and I can find another one better -paid next day.

I also confess that I would love to have a second baby but I really rather have a better life financially with 1 baby that struggled with 2.

I want to post here that I REALLY need/want to loose 20 pounds and I'm sad about it.

[Anonymous]

I am 30 pounds over my ideal weight and sometimes daydream that I'll have to get my jaw wired shut so that in a couple months I'll have a beautiful smile and be 30 lb lighter! So messed up, lol

[Anonymous]

22:45pm here.

I think I will start with a huge salad ...water and eat more nuts!

I will take my baby for stroll and buy/eat diet chocolate.I hope it works. I really want to fit on my pair of pants n.6 again.
and maybe my husband will think Im sexier..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am jealous of people who can afford to have a third kid. I just dont think we can

I had a terrible guilty feeling watching Christina Applegate on Oprah when she talked about her double mastectomy. I thought to myself that one silver lining for me if i got diagnosed would be that i could get insurance to reimburse me for a boob job. Terrible terrible thought and i regret it. But I sure do hate my obscenely saggy boobs

i have been in applegates shoes - trust me, you don't want that. ever.

[Anonymous]

Um, you people watch WAY too much Oprah.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, there we go again. Keep your judgements to yourself. Confess or shut up.