What did you do to help your sons become good husbands and fathers?
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Anonymous
| How can parents teach their sons to become good husbands and fathers so they are happy in their lives and so are their spouses and children? |
Anonymous
| Set the best example I could. Ultimately it’s up to them. |
Anonymous
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As a mother, I am really struggling with this.
My high school son didn't acknowledge Mother's Day. I cooked him dinner that day and all he could do was show me some garments he was hoping I could patch the holes of. My daughter called from college though, unprompted. The son has also let his impolite friends talk crap about me for, say, reaching out to them to invite their families to graduation dinner. I got a lot of flak from family members for paving the way for the son and his friends to spend spring break at a family property unaccompanied by adults. And these snarky kids give me crap. The son also complains about me contacting his college for info on his student visa application so that we can start the application sooner than later so that I can book the plane tickets with confidence that the matricultion won't be botched. I worry if I continue to be the helpful mom, I am creating an entitled a-hole. I should just shrug my shoulders and not do anything? |
Anonymous
Follow up to the above - and he will end up divorced and his won't be able to stand him. |
Anonymous
It sounds like you are creating an entitled a-hole and you need to make a change. Don't just not do anything, find your backbone and intervene. You should tell him what you told us. In a neutral tone, "It was rude of you to forget Mother's Day." It's your job to teach him manners! If the kids were rude to you, definitely do not allow them to use the family property again. Obviously! Tell your son the reason and stick to it, don't give in. It's best for him to learn that behavior has consequences. As for the visa, tell him that as long as you are paying for college you have every right to contact them whenever you want. If he wants you to bring him there, then this is what you have to do. If he doesn't like it he can stay home and go to community college. Grow a spine and stand up to your child. He is being ridiculous. |
Anonymous
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-work (boys who grow up with working moms are smarter, happier and more equal partners in the future)
-make sure he does chores (no son of mine will expect a woman to do his laundry etc) -teach him to cook |
Anonymous
Mother of entitled HS son here - I work, I sew, I do plumbing and electrical work. I soldered his Nintendo DS board back to normal after a piece came rattling loose. I was pissed off enough to say to him for the first time ever after his griping about the graduation dinner and my deeply inappropriate text inviting his friend's family - F^^^ YOU. |
Anonymous
| This thread feels like remedial clickbait. |
Anonymous
| OP here- Teaching them to be kind, caring, empathetic, responsible, independent seems to be the basics. Avoiding debt, drinking, drugs, misogyny and anger also important. What else? |
Anonymous
| They are lovely boys, but I'm hoping they stay single and get a dog. |
Anonymous
| Being kind and respectful towards spouse's family is an easy way to make spouse happy, giving kids more people who live them and giving spouse more reason to do the same towards your family is a valuable lesson. |
Anonymous
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You SHOW him how NO means NO. How?
You never go back on your word when you already told him NO. Otherwise, you teach your boys to ignore women/girls when they say no. You all know where that goes, right? |
Anonymous
| *love them |
Anonymous
| Chose a testosterone filled father. |
Anonymous
Good point. |