My Son Told Us He's Proposing

[Anonymous]

They are so good together. It's been 2 years. They are 25 and 26. Soft and kind and respectful and passionate. I'm biased (a bit) but I think they will have a lovely marriage.

He asked her parents first. It was more an act of respect than it was a request for permission. They very happily gave their blessing.

And then the mom started demanding to know when the proposal was coming. My son was having the ring custom made and artists are flakey so it could be a month.

His future MIL has told pretty much all the family and I'm stunned the bride to be doesnt know yet.

I am livid.

[Anonymous]

A) that's terrible that MIL won't keep her mouth shut, and honestly it's kind of a red flag for your son... that kind of interference is just getting started and it WILL affect the marriage.

B) stay out of it, one MIL meddling is bad enough.

[Anonymous]

Agree Red flag & MYOB - stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Eh. It doesn't matter that she told everyone. As the bride, or the other mother, I wouldn't mind at all.

However I agree that this indicates she's impulsive and tends to overshare. I might throw a word in my son's ear to warn him not to share too much confidential and private information with his in-laws... although maybe his wife will do that for him. It's something they'll need to figure out.

[Anonymous]

1. there's most likely more to the story than your son has shared with you.

2. not all artists are flaky your son has chosen a flake or he's not being completely honest about the ring situation.

3. what your son's soon to be mil does is not your concern.

4. it's a red flag that mil is doing all this it's also a red flag that your son is running to you with this.

5. myob

[Anonymous]

That sucks. I feel bad for your son; it seems like his new MIL is going to be a real PITA.

[Anonymous]

Your snarky remark about artists makes me think you're a bit of a red flag too.

[Anonymous]

Custom rings can take a month, BUT NOT BECAUSE ARTISTS ARE FLAKY.

You're not a very nice person, are you?

[Anonymous]

Get over yourself, op.

[Anonymous]

God help him if she is like her mom. What a witch.

[Anonymous]

Congrats to your son on his starter marriage! It sounds like the Mother's involved are tough...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh. It doesn't matter that she told everyone. As the bride, or the other mother, I wouldn't mind at all.

However I agree that this indicates she's impulsive and tends to overshare. I might throw a word in my son's ear to warn him not to share too much confidential and private information with his in-laws... although maybe his wife will do that for him. It's something they'll need to figure out.

No, it's a big deal. Maybe it's okay for her to share, but it's not her decision—it's the son and daughter's decision.

MIL has to be a real harpy to think she has any right to share that beautiful news.

[Anonymous]

You guys are nuts, it doesn’t sound like the future mil told the future ride-she probably told the girls aunts or something. Genuinely-who cares? You sound like a mother of the groom-zilla.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh. It doesn't matter that she told everyone. As the bride, or the other mother, I wouldn't mind at all.

However I agree that this indicates she's impulsive and tends to overshare. I might throw a word in my son's ear to warn him not to share too much confidential and private information with his in-laws... although maybe his wife will do that for him. It's something they'll need to figure out.

Why? MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eh. It doesn't matter that she told everyone. As the bride, or the other mother, I wouldn't mind at all.

However I agree that this indicates she's impulsive and tends to overshare. I might throw a word in my son's ear to warn him not to share too much confidential and private information with his in-laws... although maybe his wife will do that for him. It's something they'll need to figure out.

No, it's a big deal. Maybe it's okay for her to share, but it's not her decision—it's the son and daughter's decision.

MIL has to be a real harpy to think she has any right to share that beautiful news.

SMH. You guys are nuts. White people?