Getting out of the friend zone and into...

[Anonymous]

A guy on another thread wrote about he got a woman to have sex with him after he had been put in the friend zone. Once he moved from friend zone to end zone, they had lots of wild sex.

How often has this happened? Were you the one who put someone else in the friend zone or were you the one who got out?

[Anonymous]

Just no. Leave her alone. Why isn’t she good enough as a friend?

[Anonymous]

It's happened to me a few times. Usually there was some mutual attraction but we just didn't seem compatible for some reason. In all of those situations, the sex was very satisfying, at least for me, and the woman wanted to see me again.

Unfortunately , in one of those situations, I got hurt pretty badly with one of the women because she went back to another guy who was very different from me. One of the women ended up having feelings for me and felt bad when we broke up even though she knew we weren't compatible.

In one case i was very compatible with the woman but not that attracted to her. We lasted a few months and had great sex once but we had terrible sex a bunch of times. I started to have ED (which went away when I started seeing someone else). I ended the relationship and she was pretty upset. I ruined a really good friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just no. Leave her alone. Why isn’t she good enough as a friend?

She might be good enough as a friend, but if the attraction is strong and the affection is genuine, staying just friends can be tough.

[Anonymous]

I’m the guy who posted in the other forum about getting out of the friendzone. I was squarely in the friendzone and she was staying with me for a few days and then going back home. Her bf and friends had even dropped her off at my place and spent the night before heading off on the rest of their trip. She had been hanging out for days didn’t seem to have any interest in me. Plus, she did kinda have a boyfriend.

I guess I kind of tricked her. I set it up where she would happen upon some extra large condoms while going through my things. That night we went out to a clube and when we went to the bar I noticed she was rubbing her booty. Like it was pretty blatant but I had forgotten about the condom thing from earlier. Then when we left and got to my car she prettt much jammed her tongue doen my throat. After that is was on. So, not proud of it because I tricked her but she was a gorgeous girl and was amazing in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the guy who posted in the other forum about getting out of the friendzone. I was squarely in the friendzone and she was staying with me for a few days and then going back home. Her bf and friends had even dropped her off at my place and spent the night before heading off on the rest of their trip. She had been hanging out for days didn’t seem to have any interest in me. Plus, she did kinda have a boyfriend.

I guess I kind of tricked her. I set it up where she would happen upon some extra large condoms while going through my things. That night we went out to a clube and when we went to the bar I noticed she was rubbing her booty. Like it was pretty blatant but I had forgotten about the condom thing from earlier. Then when we left and got to my car she prettt much jammed her tongue doen my throat. After that is was on. So, not proud of it because I tricked her but she was a gorgeous girl and was amazing in bed.

Wow. You are disgusting.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe this needs to be said, but if you have to convince, trick, coerce, browbeat, intoxicate or otherwise to get someone to sleep with you, it’s rape.

If you are only friends with women because you think you can f*** them, definitely do us all a favor and leave us alone. Women want actual friends, not fake losers who have to trick women into sleeping with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the guy who posted in the other forum about getting out of the friendzone. I was squarely in the friendzone and she was staying with me for a few days and then going back home. Her bf and friends had even dropped her off at my place and spent the night before heading off on the rest of their trip. She had been hanging out for days didn’t seem to have any interest in me. Plus, she did kinda have a boyfriend.

I guess I kind of tricked her. I set it up where she would happen upon some extra large condoms while going through my things. That night we went out to a clube and when we went to the bar I noticed she was rubbing her booty. Like it was pretty blatant but I had forgotten about the condom thing from earlier. Then when we left and got to my car she prettt much jammed her tongue doen my throat. After that is was on. So, not proud of it because I tricked her but she was a gorgeous girl and was amazing in bed.

Wow. You are disgusting.

Why? This is how it's done.

[Anonymous]

Happened to me once. It really was that I just matured and realized what a good boyfriend he would make. I'd dated the hot but bad guys in college. We dated from 22-24 but then realized our plans for the future were just too different. Met DH a year later and there was no looking back. There was no tricking or anything. He was genuinely a nice guy and for whatever reason didn't give up on wanting to date me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the guy who posted in the other forum about getting out of the friendzone. I was squarely in the friendzone and she was staying with me for a few days and then going back home. Her bf and friends had even dropped her off at my place and spent the night before heading off on the rest of their trip. She had been hanging out for days didn’t seem to have any interest in me. Plus, she did kinda have a boyfriend.

I guess I kind of tricked her. I set it up where she would happen upon some extra large condoms while going through my things. That night we went out to a clube and when we went to the bar I noticed she was rubbing her booty. Like it was pretty blatant but I had forgotten about the condom thing from earlier. Then when we left and got to my car she prettt much jammed her tongue doen my throat. After that is was on. So, not proud of it because I tricked her but she was a gorgeous girl and was amazing in bed.

Wow. You are disgusting.

Why? This is how it's done.

What’s the tricking part. You’re not XL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happened to me once. It really was that I just matured and realized what a good boyfriend he would make. I'd dated the hot but bad guys in college. We dated from 22-24 but then realized our plans for the future were just too different. Met DH a year later and there was no looking back. There was no tricking or anything. He was genuinely a nice guy and for whatever reason didn't give up on wanting to date me.

That isn’t a friend. That is a dude not giving up on trying to bang you.

I feel like these men have never had real friends.

[Anonymous]

I moved a guy from friend zone to boyfriend. When I met him many years ago, he was a man child. I didn't take him seriously at all as a prospect. We'd hang out over the years but only in groups while drinking. Then I ran into him this year, he asked me to lunch, and I realized he'd grown up a lot and I like the person he's grown into. It's been a few months, we're exclusive and the sex is great. Our friends think the whole thing is hilarious - they like us both but never considered us a match.

I know another couple who were just friends for years and they finally started dating a year ago. I don't know what happened to change things but they are a great match.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happened to me once. It really was that I just matured and realized what a good boyfriend he would make. I'd dated the hot but bad guys in college. We dated from 22-24 but then realized our plans for the future were just too different. Met DH a year later and there was no looking back. There was no tricking or anything. He was genuinely a nice guy and for whatever reason didn't give up on wanting to date me.

That isn’t a friend. That is a dude not giving up on trying to bang you.

I feel like these men have never had real friends.

Oh whatever the same could be said of her, it's the basis of nearly every romcom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the guy who posted in the other forum about getting out of the friendzone. I was squarely in the friendzone and she was staying with me for a few days and then going back home. Her bf and friends had even dropped her off at my place and spent the night before heading off on the rest of their trip. She had been hanging out for days didn’t seem to have any interest in me. Plus, she did kinda have a boyfriend.

I guess I kind of tricked her. I set it up where she would happen upon some extra large condoms while going through my things. That night we went out to a clube and when we went to the bar I noticed she was rubbing her booty. Like it was pretty blatant but I had forgotten about the condom thing from earlier. Then when we left and got to my car she prettt much jammed her tongue doen my throat. After that is was on. So, not proud of it because I tricked her but she was a gorgeous girl and was amazing in bed.

Wow. You are disgusting.

Why am I disgusting? She’s the one who changed her mind after finding out I’m well endowed. She’s the one who made the first move and made it sexual. It really wasn’t much more than a social experiment on my part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happened to me once. It really was that I just matured and realized what a good boyfriend he would make. I'd dated the hot but bad guys in college. We dated from 22-24 but then realized our plans for the future were just too different. Met DH a year later and there was no looking back. There was no tricking or anything. He was genuinely a nice guy and for whatever reason didn't give up on wanting to date me.

That isn’t a friend. That is a dude not giving up on trying to bang you.

I feel like these men have never had real friends.

Oh whatever the same could be said of her, it's the basis of nearly every romcom.

No. There is a difference between people who are friends to be friends, and people who keep women in their orbit hoping they can trick them into f***ing.