What would you do if your spouse drank every night?

[Anonymous]

Not talking huge amounts, but habitual daily drinking? He's 42 and is still drinking beer daily... college was fun, but that was more than two decades ago, why won't he grow up?

[Anonymous]

One beer or three or five?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One beer or three or five?

Depends on the night, but I don't have time to drink anything. I'm a grown-up.

[Anonymous]

Don’t have a problem with it unless it’s excessive. A beer is fine. Three is not. I prefer nightly scotch.

[Anonymous]

Of course you have time. Many people have a glass of wine at dinner or a beer after work. One is no big deal it becomes a problem when it creeps to 2 or 3 or more and they get that fat alcohol belly. One a night is fine.

[Anonymous]

I have a glass or 2-3 each night and I’m a 49F.
What’s the problem? Is he not stepping up in other areas? Neglecting other responsibilities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One beer or three or five?

Depends on the night, but I don't have time to drink anything. I'm a grown-up.

Only grown ups can legally drink. It’s definitely a grown up thing to do.

I assume you knew he drank alcohol when you met him? If you are anti drinking you should have married someone who also didn’t drink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course you have time. Many people have a glass of wine at dinner or a beer after work. One is no big deal it becomes a problem when it creeps to 2 or 3 or more and they get that fat alcohol belly. One a night is fine.

No, I don't have time. By the time the kids are off to bed, the house is cleaned up, the dog is walked, I want to get in bed and read a book, not get a buzz on.

[Anonymous]

That's so unattractive.

Divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One beer or three or five?

Depends on the night, but I don't have time to drink anything. I'm a grown-up.

Only grown ups can legally drink. It’s definitely a grown up thing to do.

I assume you knew he drank alcohol when you met him? If you are anti drinking you should have married someone who also didn’t drink.

I'm not anti-drinking, I'm just in my mid-40s. I enjoy the taste of cocktails and wine and some beer, and if we're out to dinner or hanging with friends, it's nice to have some, but who just drinks at home for no reason?

Also, now that we're learning about the link between alcohol and cancer and seeing how many 40-somethings who were "fun" in their 20s and 30s are now turning into functioning (sometimes) alcoholics, I am kind of becoming anti-alcohol. Aren't you?

[Anonymous]

One drink every night is not great for your health. Is he under a lot of stress?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One drink every night is not great for your health. Is he under a lot of stress?

Same as any other adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One beer or three or five?

Depends on the night, but I don't have time to drink anything. I'm a grown-up.

Only grown ups can legally drink. It’s definitely a grown up thing to do.

I assume you knew he drank alcohol when you met him? If you are anti drinking you should have married someone who also didn’t drink.

I'm not anti-drinking, I'm just in my mid-40s. I enjoy the taste of cocktails and wine and some beer, and if we're out to dinner or hanging with friends, it's nice to have some, but who just drinks at home for no reason?

Also, now that we're learning about the link between alcohol and cancer and seeing how many 40-somethings who were "fun" in their 20s and 30s are now turning into functioning (sometimes) alcoholics, I am kind of becoming anti-alcohol. Aren't you?

Lots of people drink at home for no reason and they will tell you all day it’s no big deal. It’s definitely not great for your health to drink daily.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand anyone who drinks every night. Drink a glass of water before bed. wtf is the point of a beer every night? Sorry, I would have a serious talk with him about it. If he could not cut it out, then I would divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you have time. Many people have a glass of wine at dinner or a beer after work. One is no big deal it becomes a problem when it creeps to 2 or 3 or more and they get that fat alcohol belly. One a night is fine.

No, I don't have time. By the time the kids are off to bed, the house is cleaned up, the dog is walked, I want to get in bed and read a book, not get a buzz on.

This is different than not having time. It’s actually possible to have a beer WHILE reading a book.