My sister wants a homebirth

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Home birth is always a clusterf*ck discussion on DCUM.

I had a homebirth attended by 2 midwives and a midwife in training. Labor itself was insanely hard, the hardest thing physically I have ever done, and I totally understand and support other people wanting an epidural or any other birth that is right for their situation.

However, the maternal care and attention I received was top notch, I was in the privacy of my home with my husband, and my newborn nursed and latched right away.

It was a low risk pregnancy and everyone was ready to transfer to a nearby hospital if any issues arose.

I find the people who come down on the side of the "hospital is the only place for all births" are generally dismissive of the trauma women experience with substandard care during labor and postpartum. It's a lot of "well as long as there is a healthy baby" at the end of a patronizing, highly medicalized process then the women should STFU and deal with the way they were treated. There are a LOT of women out there who have had terrible hospital births.

I reject that a healthy baby is the only thing that matters. The mother is not just a vessel and the way she is cared for during labor matters too.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m physician and I am so sorry. People on this thread making these statements and citing all the stats are ignoring so many confounding variables. They’ve obviously never had to comfort women who lost their infants bc they waited too long to go to the hospital.

That being said, you don’t get to make this decision. The best thing you can do is be there for your niece or nephew and if things start going south encourage proper care.

Tragically, many more maternal and infant deaths occur before/during/after hospital births than home births.

Are you talking in absolute terms? Because i hope you understand that there are millions more births in hospitals than home births.

Obviously.

My point is that hospitals can be and often are unsafe places to give birth.

This is straight up propaganda.

Nope. Hospitals are increasingly understaffed. We have horrible maternal and infant mortality rates in the US and the vast majority of births are in hospitals.

I have nothing specifically against hospital births, I myself had my daughter in a hospital but I think it's completely insane to bash women who choose an alternative setting for their birth, given how appalling the hospital outcomes are.

the only place more understaffed than a hospital is your house. no doctors or nurses there.

Actually having a professional trained in facilitating childbirth who is with you continuously is more than most people get in the hospital. People have had babies the hospital without a single medical attendant in the room.

Yes, there are bad midwives and bad OBs out there. A good midwife knows when a transfer to the hospital is needed.

Homebirth midwives are laughably untrained compared to OBs and even L&D nurses. You’re much better off with a doctor overseeing multiple laboring women at once than one crunchy “birth workers” with you all day.

In other developed countries midwives deliver most babies and they have much better birth outcomes in those countries.

Every other developed country has universal health care which is why they have much better birth outcomes in those countries.

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Anonymous wrote:If you know when she's gone into labor call the cops on them.

It’s legal to have a home birth. What do you think the police will do, arrest her? Is a back of a police car birth somehow preferable?

It's not when you're using an unqualified midwife and she's also deliberately endangering a child
And if something is going wrong they can get them to a hospital more quickly

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Anonymous wrote:Home birth is always a clusterf*ck discussion on DCUM.

I had a homebirth attended by 2 midwives and a midwife in training. Labor itself was insanely hard, the hardest thing physically I have ever done, and I totally understand and support other people wanting an epidural or any other birth that is right for their situation.

However, the maternal care and attention I received was top notch, I was in the privacy of my home with my husband, and my newborn nursed and latched right away.

It was a low risk pregnancy and everyone was ready to transfer to a nearby hospital if any issues arose.

I find the people who come down on the side of the "hospital is the only place for all births" are generally dismissive of the trauma women experience with substandard care during labor and postpartum. It's a lot of "well as long as there is a healthy baby" at the end of a patronizing, highly medicalized process then the women should STFU and deal with the way they were treated. There are a LOT of women out there who have had terrible hospital births.

I reject that a healthy baby is the only thing that matters. The mother is not just a vessel and the way she is cared for during labor matters too.

And you or your baby would have died had there been an actual emergency. You don't have the the time to transfer to a hospital.

You want to talk about trauma? Let's discuss telling a mother her baby is going to die because her perfectly normal pregnancy ended in a difficult labor and delivery and the 5 minute trip from home to hospital wasn't quick enough.
But hey she got to munch on brioche.

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Anonymous wrote:Millions of babies were/are born this way it’s fine.

And a large percentage of those babies, and mothers, died in childbirth. It’s insane to say “it’s fine”

Far too many babies and mothers today die before, during or after hospital births. It is insane to suggest hospital births are all safe and home births are all unsafe. There is a lot of variability among hospitals and among midwives that attend home births.

I worked for years in a NICU. Without a doubt, home births have a way higher relative risk of neonatal complications than hospital births. The vast majority of HIE cases were home births. Only a handful were hospital births.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Home birth is always a clusterf*ck discussion on DCUM.

I had a homebirth attended by 2 midwives and a midwife in training. Labor itself was insanely hard, the hardest thing physically I have ever done, and I totally understand and support other people wanting an epidural or any other birth that is right for their situation.

However, the maternal care and attention I received was top notch, I was in the privacy of my home with my husband, and my newborn nursed and latched right away.

It was a low risk pregnancy and everyone was ready to transfer to a nearby hospital if any issues arose.

I find the people who come down on the side of the "hospital is the only place for all births" are generally dismissive of the trauma women experience with substandard care during labor and postpartum. It's a lot of "well as long as there is a healthy baby" at the end of a patronizing, highly medicalized process then the women should STFU and deal with the way they were treated. There are a LOT of women out there who have had terrible hospital births.

I reject that a healthy baby is the only thing that matters. The mother is not just a vessel and the way she is cared for during labor matters too.

And you or your baby would have died had there been an actual emergency. You don't have the the time to transfer to a hospital.

You want to talk about trauma? Let's discuss telling a mother her baby is going to die because her perfectly normal pregnancy ended in a difficult labor and delivery and the 5 minute trip from home to hospital wasn't quick enough.
But hey she got to munch on brioche.

Let them eat brioche!

Your dismissive and contemptuous attitude does nothing to improve birth outcomes or care for women.

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That’s amazing OP! Good for her! She sounds like a great mom to be.

[Anonymous]

OP, you cope by minding your own business. You have shown from your post that you are ignorant of standard American midwifery practices. It’s not your child or your body so not your decision.

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Anonymous wrote:Home birth is always a clusterf*ck discussion on DCUM.

I had a homebirth attended by 2 midwives and a midwife in training. Labor itself was insanely hard, the hardest thing physically I have ever done, and I totally understand and support other people wanting an epidural or any other birth that is right for their situation.

However, the maternal care and attention I received was top notch, I was in the privacy of my home with my husband, and my newborn nursed and latched right away.

It was a low risk pregnancy and everyone was ready to transfer to a nearby hospital if any issues arose.

I find the people who come down on the side of the "hospital is the only place for all births" are generally dismissive of the trauma women experience with substandard care during labor and postpartum. It's a lot of "well as long as there is a healthy baby" at the end of a patronizing, highly medicalized process then the women should STFU and deal with the way they were treated. There are a LOT of women out there who have had terrible hospital births.

I reject that a healthy baby is the only thing that matters. The mother is not just a vessel and the way she is cared for during labor matters too.

And you or your baby would have died had there been an actual emergency. You don't have the the time to transfer to a hospital.

You want to talk about trauma? Let's discuss telling a mother her baby is going to die because her perfectly normal pregnancy ended in a difficult labor and delivery and the 5 minute trip from home to hospital wasn't quick enough.
But hey she got to munch on brioche.

Let them eat brioche!

Your dismissive and contemptuous attitude does nothing to improve birth outcomes or care for women.

And I can't take you seriosully because your feel you" birht trauma: trumps actual safety as well as your ignorance to how quickly it can all go wrong. But hey as long as you have your flute playing doula and your pics in the tub with hubby

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you cope by minding your own business. You have shown from your post that you are ignorant of standard American midwifery practices. It’s not your child or your body so not your decision.

Standard AMerican Midwerfy would in no way condone what OP's sister ist doing so you can kindly STFU antivaxxer, and sciecer and woman hater

[Anonymous]

She's sounds stupid have her also do a home cancer treatment