My sister wants a homebirth

[Anonymous]

My little sister wanted to give birth at a birthing center with her first. Her water broke and she never went into labor. She tried to decline antibiotics but the birthing center wouldn’t allow her to. 2 days went by and she never went into labor so the birthing center sent her to the hospital where she had to have Pitocin and an episiotomy. My nephew literally came out blue. His temp was low and she refused to let them put him in the warmer. It was terrifying.

She just found out she is pregnant with #2. She wants to have a home birth this time so she can’t be sent to the hospital. I’m terrified. I know it’s none of my business but I can’t stop being fearful for both the baby and her life. I know I can’t change her mind, so how do I cope?

[Anonymous]

Millions of babies were/are born this way it’s fine.

[Anonymous]

MYOB.

[Anonymous]

How do I cope?

Go see a therapist about cognitive behavioral therapy and medication for your anxiety. This response is not healthy.

[Anonymous]

Back way off, is how you cope. Hopefully a health care provider will talk her out of this. It’s not your task.

[Anonymous]

Good for her.

Not your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Millions of babies were/are born this way it’s fine.

Billions really over the course of 100,000+ years of human species. Many born into the dirt and wrapped in dirty animal skins.

[Anonymous]

I get being worried and concerned, but are you seriously unable to cope? That is not normal. Are you currently in therapy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Back way off, is how you cope. Hopefully a health care provider will talk her out of this. It’s not your task.

I don’t say anything. Literally nothing. She doesn’t see a health care provider, nor does my nephew. She sees a naturopath.

[Anonymous]

Home birth is an excellent choice but it’s not your choice so you STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get being worried and concerned, but are you seriously unable to cope? That is not normal. Are you currently in therapy?

Yes, I am. My daughter died at 2 days old, so I very much worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Millions of babies were/are born this way it’s fine.

Omg shut up t idiot women die this way!!! Childbirth is dangerous!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back way off, is how you cope. Hopefully a health care provider will talk her out of this. It’s not your task.

I don’t say anything. Literally nothing. She doesn’t see a health care provider, nor does my nephew. She sees a naturopath.

By “back way off” I don’t mean “change how much you discuss this.” I mean change your proximity to any information about this *at all.*

Despite the survivorship-biased comments above, data demonstrates that it is completely reasonable to be concerned for the outcome of a home birth. But it’s not your work to maintain that concern—it is hers, if anyone is going to do it.

You need to know a lot less until her baby is born, hopefully safely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get being worried and concerned, but are you seriously unable to cope? That is not normal. Are you currently in therapy?

Yes, I am. My daughter died at 2 days old, so I very much worry.

OP you have every right and reason to be concerned however you parents raised a dummy who has no idea what it is to be a mother

Your sister is an adult this is out of your control unfortunately

Nothing you will
Say will change her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Millions of babies were/are born this way it’s fine.

This OP, it’s probably happened thousands of times already today.