My sister wants a homebirth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My little sister wanted to give birth at a birthing center with her first. Her water broke and she never went into labor. She tried to decline antibiotics but the birthing center wouldn’t allow her to. 2 days went by and she never went into labor so the birthing center sent her to the hospital where she had to have Pitocin and an episiotomy. My nephew literally came out blue. His temp was low and she refused to let them put him in the warmer. It was terrifying.

She just found out she is pregnant with #2. She wants to have a home birth this time so she can’t be sent to the hospital. I’m terrified. I know it’s none of my business but I can’t stop being fearful for both the baby and her life. I know I can’t change her mind, so how do I cope?

You need to mind your own business. This literally doesn't affect you in any way. I feel bad that your sister is related to you bc you are clearly an imbecile.

[Anonymous]

Stop bringing your stupid trauma onto your sister. Who cares where she has her baby- it’s HER baby. Get over yourself!

[Anonymous]

I know more people that had home births than hospital births, your sister will not be the first. It’s not something you should concern yourself with, she doesn’t need your stress. Let her be.

[Anonymous]

Wow I don’t know what has people so fired up in this thread. I agree with the poster above to stop the flow of information - and probably get off this thread.

[Anonymous]

I love a home birth! So much more relaxing than a hospital birth.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend whose baby died during a home birth and they have so much regret as they know he could have survived with a quick c section.. BUT I would not say a word to your sister. It is completely her choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for her.

Not your business.

Not good for her
Mortality in childbearing is horrifying without a hospital
Then again one less maga anti vaxer works well sorry OP

So you think everyone giving birth at home is maga and anti vax? Are all democrats as dumb as you?

My sister is anti-vax

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose baby died during a home birth and they have so much regret as they know he could have survived with a quick c section.. BUT I would not say a word to your sister. It is completely her choice.

I have a friend whose baby died during a quick c section at the hospital. They regret not having a home birth.. BUT I would not say a word to your sister. It is completely her choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get being worried and concerned, but are you seriously unable to cope? That is not normal. Are you currently in therapy?

Yes, I am. My daughter died at 2 days old, so I very much worry.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I wanted unmedicated births, and did them in hospital. Thank goodness, because the first time my son was in danger and came out grey, and the second I lost too much blood and nearly died.

Morons who think it's fine because women have done this for centuries forget the extremely high mortality rates during childbirth.

You should continue to push for a midwife-assisted hospital birth. I worked with a midwife practice, and they were fully ready to support me at the hospital. I had full liberty of movement, no one bothered me, the environment was satisfactory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get being worried and concerned, but are you seriously unable to cope? That is not normal. Are you currently in therapy?

Yes, I am. My daughter died at 2 days old, so I very much worry.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I wanted unmedicated births, and did them in hospital. Thank goodness, because the first time my son was in danger and came out grey, and the second I lost too much blood and nearly died.

Morons who think it's fine because women have done this for centuries forget the extremely high mortality rates during childbirth.

You should continue to push for a midwife-assisted hospital birth. I worked with a midwife practice, and they were fully ready to support me at the hospital. I had full liberty of movement, no one bothered me, the environment was satisfactory.

You’re missing the key element of IT’S HER CHOICE! My body my choice right?

[Anonymous]

Hopefully she won’t end up with a dead baby. Seconds usually one faster though.

[Anonymous]

We had the owner of a local midwife center die giving birth at her midwife center. She refused to be sent to the hospital despite having complications giving birth. By the time she was sent to the local emergency room it was too late and she died. I think they managed to save the baby.

This was big news in our state.

[Anonymous]

I think she was already dead or very close to death when she was finally sent to the ER.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she was already dead or very close to death when she was finally sent to the ER.

Shit happens, still her choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get being worried and concerned, but are you seriously unable to cope? That is not normal. Are you currently in therapy?

Yes, I am. My daughter died at 2 days old, so I very much worry.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I wanted unmedicated births, and did them in hospital. Thank goodness, because the first time my son was in danger and came out grey, and the second I lost too much blood and nearly died.

Morons who think it's fine because women have done this for centuries forget the extremely high mortality rates during childbirth.

You should continue to push for a midwife-assisted hospital birth. I worked with a midwife practice, and they were fully ready to support me at the hospital. I had full liberty of movement, no one bothered me, the environment was satisfactory.

DP access to such a hospital setting is varied. In many cases the laboring woman is confined to her bed because it is easier for the nurses to monitor all the babies from a central location so they need to hook up all the moms to the monitoring equipment. I am glad you were able to advocate for liberty of movement. For many people that is simply unavailable.

US birth outcomes are worse than most other high income countries, and we have a much lower proportion of births attended by midwives. Our absurdly high maternal and infant death rates are not a result of too many women having home births.

Home births and birthing centers can be safe if the midwives have appropriate procedures in place for hospital transfers and if the mother is willing to transfer to the hospital if needed.