I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any how problems in your original post doesn't require you to worry anymore because in two months, he'll be home in his childhood bedroom, no college life issues and no girlfriend issues. Everything would be back to normal and y'all can happily cook gourmet meals and watch late night television.

Lol

[Anonymous]

What does the father think about his son’s depression, girlfriend and post-graduation plans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any how problems in your original post doesn't require you to worry anymore because in two months, he'll be home in his childhood bedroom, no college life issues and no girlfriend issues. Everything would be back to normal and y'all can happily cook gourmet meals and watch late night television.

Now read the OP with genders reversed. OP's DD got back together with BF and dropped everyone else, stopped calling and texting her mom and siblings. Would you be glad she will be home after graduating or try and push her away further? Btw what's wrong with cooking meals at home with your child?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've seen this. She's likely a narcissist or has some other controlling personality disorder and he's choosing to accommodate her rather than honor who he was and the other people in his life. Her insecurities will mean she's constantly testing him and he has to keep choosing her over other people and other interests.

Some people wise up, but it's after children and marriages have suffered. Some people live like this forever. I don't really know how to get someone "out of the fog" of such relationships. It is painful to watch.

OP here. I do not want to focus on the GF and what she is doing. I am concerned about his change of personality, attitude and habits. I am worried that he is not focusing on his own well being, his won interests, family and friends.

Such a drastic change would most likely mean, drugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any how problems in your original post doesn't require you to worry anymore because in two months, he'll be home in his childhood bedroom, no college life issues and no girlfriend issues. Everything would be back to normal and y'all can happily cook gourmet meals and watch late night television.

Now read the OP with genders reversed. OP's DD got back together with BF and dropped everyone else, stopped calling and texting her mom and siblings. Would you be glad she will be home after graduating or try and push her away further? Btw what's wrong with cooking meals at home with your child?!

Everyone gets busy when embarking on a new relationship. We've all been there or seen it with friends, give them their space.

As for a rule where college grads have to move back home with Mommy and work around there. No one I knew had that. One Greek American friend had a big fight with her parents when they tried to force her to live at home and commute to college all four years. She did 2 at home, it sukked, and then 2 in apartments with friends, which was much better for everyone. And she was a great student.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any how problems in your original post doesn't require you to worry anymore because in two months, he'll be home in his childhood bedroom, no college life issues and no girlfriend issues. Everything would be back to normal and y'all can happily cook gourmet meals and watch late night television.

Now read the OP with genders reversed. OP's DD got back together with BF and dropped everyone else, stopped calling and texting her mom and siblings. Would you be glad she will be home after graduating or try and push her away further? Btw what's wrong with cooking meals at home with your child?!

Everyone gets busy when embarking on a new relationship. We've all been there or seen it with friends, give them their space.

As for a rule where college grads have to move back home with Mommy and work around there. No one I knew had that. One Greek American friend had a big fight with her parents when they tried to force her to live at home and commute to college all four years. She did 2 at home, it sukked, and then 2 in apartments with friends, which was much better for everyone. And she was a great student.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/brendarichardson/2022/08/30/many-young-adults-who-moved-back-home-during-the-pandemic-still-live-there/amp/


https://finance.yahoo.com/news/moving-back-parents-common-now-120000981.html

[Anonymous]

This is anecdotal but I know of 20+ family friends whose kids have moved back to start new job in DMV area!

[Anonymous]

He sounds like an incel loser. Hopefully she dumps him and finds a real man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is anecdotal but I know of 20+ family friends whose kids have moved back to start new job in DMV area!

Indian or similar culture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like an incel loser. Hopefully she dumps him and finds a real man.

Are you in the wrong thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is anecdotal but I know of 20+ family friends whose kids have moved back to start new job in DMV area!

Indian or similar culture?

Some (three) are Indian Americans, but a good mix of many different cultures (Chinese, Vietnamese, Greek, Italian, and Spanish, to name a few).

[Anonymous]

Surprising! In my circle (22-30 age group, mostly from T20 schools), nobody moved back to suburbia in their childhood bedrooms. Only people moving back are ones who can't afford to live on their own or lack adult skills to survive on their own.

[Anonymous]

The son of the OP must enhance his skills in order to broaden his opportunities. A woman should enhance his life, rather than be the sole focus. Men who possess talents have a wider range of choices when it comes to relationships.

[Anonymous]

She sounds abusive and a narcissist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds abusive and a narcissist.

There is no woman in this thread who sounds abusive and a narcissist. Why did you resort to psychological diagnosis without any explanation?