Time off request rejected

[Anonymous]

I never ask for time off and normally you are supposed to give two weeks notice, but this is literally the FIRST time in almost 2 years I ask for anything aside from one week of paid vacation. I asked for ONE day off and thought it would be fine with 9 days notice. Today my request was rejected. I am so upset and not really sure what to do at this point. I managed to find a college tour spot for my ds and it's 5 hours away so this is why I am going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never ask for time off and normally you are supposed to give two weeks notice, but this is literally the FIRST time in almost 2 years I ask for anything aside from one week of paid vacation. I asked for ONE day off and thought it would be fine with 9 days notice. Today my request was rejected. I am so upset and not really sure what to do at this point. I managed to find a college tour spot for my ds and it's 5 hours away so this is why I am going.

Eff them and take a sick day instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never ask for time off and normally you are supposed to give two weeks notice, but this is literally the FIRST time in almost 2 years I ask for anything aside from one week of paid vacation. I asked for ONE day off and thought it would be fine with 9 days notice. Today my request was rejected. I am so upset and not really sure what to do at this point. I managed to find a college tour spot for my ds and it's 5 hours away so this is why I am going.

How was it rejected? An automatic system rejection type or your boss actually telling you no?

Either way, the first answer is to have a conversation with your boss to explain why you need the time (if you haven't) and to find out if there is a business problem with you not working that day that you can try to solve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never ask for time off and normally you are supposed to give two weeks notice, but this is literally the FIRST time in almost 2 years I ask for anything aside from one week of paid vacation. I asked for ONE day off and thought it would be fine with 9 days notice. Today my request was rejected. I am so upset and not really sure what to do at this point. I managed to find a college tour spot for my ds and it's 5 hours away so this is why I am going.

How was it rejected? An automatic system rejection type or your boss actually telling you no?

Either way, the first answer is to have a conversation with your boss to explain why you need the time (if you haven't) and to find out if there is a business problem with you not working that day that you can try to solve.

It was rejected by HR, not automatic, and said my managers declined it was well. I am very upset as I never ask for time off and the response was so dry and definitive. They also had me do extra work not within the scope of my responsibilities for the past two weeks, with zero notice. I was expected to be flexible and now they are rigid with me. Talking to my managers will not help as they are the second stop and HR is the first. Now my choice is not do the college tour or take a « sick day » which will be so transparent and is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Why do both parents need to go? I went on a college tour recently and most kids were one parent and some kids came by themselves.

[Anonymous]

I would request a meeting with HR.

[Anonymous]

Take the sick day and update your resume.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take the sick day and update your resume.

+10000. This is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your manager directly and tell him/her that you need this day off. Ask for clarification of why it was rejected. Is there a big meeting going on that day? Something that you absolutely need to be there for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do both parents need to go? I went on a college tour recently and most kids were one parent and some kids came by themselves.

So not the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to your manager directly and tell him/her that you need this day off. Ask for clarification of why it was rejected. Is there a big meeting going on that day? Something that you absolutely need to be there for?

My job isn't like that. We do not have meetings on Fridays and the only work is the same work we always do. We don't have any special deadlines coming up. Many other people do what I do and extra hours are given if someone takes off, which is why I thought it was best to give some notice so someone else could take my hours. So no, it's just about the petty "two week notice" aspect. Now I can see if I were a frequent flyer at this but it is literally the very first time I ask for a personal day.

[Anonymous]

What sort of work do you do? Are you an office worker where you manage your own workload, or are you in a customer-facing role where shifts need to be covered?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to your manager directly and tell him/her that you need this day off. Ask for clarification of why it was rejected. Is there a big meeting going on that day? Something that you absolutely need to be there for?

My job isn't like that. We do not have meetings on Fridays and the only work is the same work we always do. We don't have any special deadlines coming up. Many other people do what I do and extra hours are given if someone takes off, which is why I thought it was best to give some notice so someone else could take my hours. So no, it's just about the petty "two week notice" aspect. Now I can see if I were a frequent flyer at this but it is literally the very first time I ask for a personal day.

Then that's ridiculous. As someone else has said, take a sick day and start looking for a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to your manager directly and tell him/her that you need this day off. Ask for clarification of why it was rejected. Is there a big meeting going on that day? Something that you absolutely need to be there for?

My job isn't like that. We do not have meetings on Fridays and the only work is the same work we always do. We don't have any special deadlines coming up. Many other people do what I do and extra hours are given if someone takes off, which is why I thought it was best to give some notice so someone else could take my hours. So no, it's just about the petty "two week notice" aspect. Now I can see if I were a frequent flyer at this but it is literally the very first time I ask for a personal day.

Then ask your manager why it's rejected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to your manager directly and tell him/her that you need this day off. Ask for clarification of why it was rejected. Is there a big meeting going on that day? Something that you absolutely need to be there for?

My job isn't like that. We do not have meetings on Fridays and the only work is the same work we always do. We don't have any special deadlines coming up. Many other people do what I do and extra hours are given if someone takes off, which is why I thought it was best to give some notice so someone else could take my hours. So no, it's just about the petty "two week notice" aspect. Now I can see if I were a frequent flyer at this but it is literally the very first time I ask for a personal day.

If they’re going to be petty, you can be petty too. Just call out sick. Disrespectful people don’t deserve your respect.