Why are some girls so lucky in love and others struggle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Luck, but also being pretty and charming help.

I’ve been proposed to three times, married (and divorced) once, and am moving in with my boyfriend, whom I am planning to marry. I’m attractive, but I think what makes me most appealing is that I’m fun, empathetic, and witty. Pretty is nice, but personality goes a long way.

You’re also so incredibly humble - the perfect woman. Wow jealous of your boyfriend

And you’re so incredibly kind.

[Anonymous]

Some women have unrealistic standards and look for superficial traits in a husband. There was a group of women in my sorority, 30 years ago, who would only consider a mate who was really wealthy, well connected, tall and handsome. They rejected anyone who didn't fit that mold. They are still single today. I don't know if they are happy being single but I see that the dream husband did not materialize.

[Anonymous]

Here’s a hot take:

There are far more girlfriend/wife-material women than there are boyfriend/husband-material men.

Women have higher rates of degree acquisition, take better care of themselves physically and mentally, and generally don’t have/can’t get away with common flaws we see in men (commitmentphobia; cheating; sexual addiction or dysfunction; underachievement; violent tendencies).

It’s a matter of supply and demand. There’s an oversupply of qualified women and an undersupply of qualified men.

[Anonymous]

“Girls?”

Girls don’t fall in long-term love and have long-term relationships. Women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a hot take:

There are far more girlfriend/wife-material women than there are boyfriend/husband-material men.

Women have higher rates of degree acquisition, take better care of themselves physically and mentally, and generally don’t have/can’t get away with common flaws we see in men (commitmentphobia; cheating; sexual addiction or dysfunction; underachievement; violent tendencies).

It’s a matter of supply and demand. There’s an oversupply of qualified women and an undersupply of qualified men.

Well we gave up on the young boys long ago while focusing on all girl programs in schools—girls in STEM, girls on the run, bring your daughters to work day (which after much, much pushback it was moved to “child”). Laura Bush as an educator saw how much boys were truly lagging in early education/reading behind girls but people didn’t pick up the slack. Women now outnumber men 60% to 40% at 4-year Universities.

Hmmmm….I wonder why there is a shortage of “quality” young men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a hot take:

There are far more girlfriend/wife-material women than there are boyfriend/husband-material men.

Women have higher rates of degree acquisition, take better care of themselves physically and mentally, and generally don’t have/can’t get away with common flaws we see in men (commitmentphobia; cheating; sexual addiction or dysfunction; underachievement; violent tendencies).

It’s a matter of supply and demand. There’s an oversupply of qualified women and an undersupply of qualified men.

Well we gave up on the young boys long ago while focusing on all girl programs in schools—girls in STEM, girls on the run, bring your daughters to work day (which after much, much pushback it was moved to “child”). Laura Bush as an educator saw how much boys were truly lagging in early education/reading behind girls but people didn’t pick up the slack. Women now outnumber men 60% to 40% at 4-year Universities.

Hmmmm….I wonder why there is a shortage of “quality” young men.

+1. And society (yes- women too!) has perpetuated “toxic masculinity”.

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-toxic-masculinity-5075107

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a hot take:

There are far more girlfriend/wife-material women than there are boyfriend/husband-material men.

Women have higher rates of degree acquisition, take better care of themselves physically and mentally, and generally don’t have/can’t get away with common flaws we see in men (commitmentphobia; cheating; sexual addiction or dysfunction; underachievement; violent tendencies).

It’s a matter of supply and demand. There’s an oversupply of qualified women and an undersupply of qualified men.

Well we gave up on the young boys long ago while focusing on all girl programs in schools—girls in STEM, girls on the run, bring your daughters to work day (which after much, much pushback it was moved to “child”). Laura Bush as an educator saw how much boys were truly lagging in early education/reading behind girls but people didn’t pick up the slack. Women now outnumber men 60% to 40% at 4-year Universities.

Hmmmm….I wonder why there is a shortage of “quality” young men.

Are you suggesting that investing in girls and women is the reason there are so few eligible men? What’s your alternative? Compulsory education for women only through year six and marrying them off to the highest bidder as teenagers?

Let me guess, you’re a salty boomer yearning for the good old days of marital rape and the economic subjugation of women.

Perhaps young men should focus on taking full advantage of the myriad, systemic advantages they have at their disposal instead of blaming women for their shortcomings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a hot take:

There are far more girlfriend/wife-material women than there are boyfriend/husband-material men.

Women have higher rates of degree acquisition, take better care of themselves physically and mentally, and generally don’t have/can’t get away with common flaws we see in men (commitmentphobia; cheating; sexual addiction or dysfunction; underachievement; violent tendencies).

It’s a matter of supply and demand. There’s an oversupply of qualified women and an undersupply of qualified men.

Well we gave up on the young boys long ago while focusing on all girl programs in schools—girls in STEM, girls on the run, bring your daughters to work day (which after much, much pushback it was moved to “child”). Laura Bush as an educator saw how much boys were truly lagging in early education/reading behind girls but people didn’t pick up the slack. Women now outnumber men 60% to 40% at 4-year Universities.

Hmmmm….I wonder why there is a shortage of “quality” young men.

Are you suggesting that investing in girls and women is the reason there are so few eligible men? What’s your alternative? Compulsory education for women only through year six and marrying them off to the highest bidder as teenagers?

Let me guess, you’re a salty boomer yearning for the good old days of marital rape and the economic subjugation of women.

Perhaps young men should focus on taking full advantage of the myriad, systemic advantages they have at their disposal instead of blaming women for their shortcomings.

That was quite a bit of a stretch and shows a complete unwillingness to even consider why boys in this day and age have fallen sooooo far behind girls.

The same “woke” feminists are the first ones to call a man a p@say if he doesn’t act in a gender-stereotyped way and they cheat on the nice guys in marriages and relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a hot take:

There are far more girlfriend/wife-material women than there are boyfriend/husband-material men.

Women have higher rates of degree acquisition, take better care of themselves physically and mentally, and generally don’t have/can’t get away with common flaws we see in men (commitmentphobia; cheating; sexual addiction or dysfunction; underachievement; violent tendencies).

It’s a matter of supply and demand. There’s an oversupply of qualified women and an undersupply of qualified men.

Well we gave up on the young boys long ago while focusing on all girl programs in schools—girls in STEM, girls on the run, bring your daughters to work day (which after much, much pushback it was moved to “child”). Laura Bush as an educator saw how much boys were truly lagging in early education/reading behind girls but people didn’t pick up the slack. Women now outnumber men 60% to 40% at 4-year Universities.

Hmmmm….I wonder why there is a shortage of “quality” young men.

Are you suggesting that investing in girls and women is the reason there are so few eligible men? What’s your alternative? Compulsory education for women only through year six and marrying them off to the highest bidder as teenagers?

Let me guess, you’re a salty boomer yearning for the good old days of marital rape and the economic subjugation of women.

Perhaps young men should focus on taking full advantage of the myriad, systemic advantages they have at their disposal instead of blaming women for their shortcomings.

That was quite a bit of a stretch and shows a complete unwillingness to even consider why boys in this day and age have fallen sooooo far behind girls.

The same “woke” feminists are the first ones to call a man a p@say if he doesn’t act in a gender-stereotyped way and they cheat on the nice guys in marriages and relationships.

+1 and hence why they lament “they can’t find a good man”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obesity

+1 Low percent of men want overweight women. Lose weight, you’ll get a husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some women have unrealistic standards and look for superficial traits in a husband. There was a group of women in my sorority, 30 years ago, who would only consider a mate who was really wealthy, well connected, tall and handsome. They rejected anyone who didn't fit that mold. They are still single today. I don't know if they are happy being single but I see that the dream husband did not materialize.

If they insisted on being called "they," that explains it all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a hot take:

There are far more girlfriend/wife-material women than there are boyfriend/husband-material men.

Women have higher rates of degree acquisition, take better care of themselves physically and mentally, and generally don’t have/can’t get away with common flaws we see in men (commitmentphobia; cheating; sexual addiction or dysfunction; underachievement; violent tendencies).

It’s a matter of supply and demand. There’s an oversupply of qualified women and an undersupply of qualified men.

Supply of women qualified for what, boasting about their degrees? I don’t care. That’s not what relationships are about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a hot take:

There are far more girlfriend/wife-material women than there are boyfriend/husband-material men.

Women have higher rates of degree acquisition, take better care of themselves physically and mentally, and generally don’t have/can’t get away with common flaws we see in men (commitmentphobia; cheating; sexual addiction or dysfunction; underachievement; violent tendencies).

It’s a matter of supply and demand. There’s an oversupply of qualified women and an undersupply of qualified men.

This issue has existed in the black community for 40+ years and no one showed compassion for black women. Smh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely believe it is luck -- right place/right time to meet someone who likes you back, luck that you grow together rather than apart, luck to nab a partner who's going to put up with your entitled, nagging, asexual self (just described at least half of my friends) 15 years in, luck that your partner doesn't develop mental or physical health issues that change them, etc.

But I'll get a lot of pushback because people usually prefer to take credit for their wisdom and foresight rather than acknowledge their luck.

Found the love of my life at 21. Worked at the same place. Married at 25. Both utterly in love. Two kids. So happy. Then, he changed, quite dramatically. Not the same person. Cheated. Rejected me. It all was quite shocking to me and all who know him. We are divorcing. Kids and I are traumatized. Point is, you just never know in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely believe it is luck -- right place/right time to meet someone who likes you back, luck that you grow together rather than apart, luck to nab a partner who's going to put up with your entitled, nagging, asexual self (just described at least half of my friends) 15 years in, luck that your partner doesn't develop mental or physical health issues that change them, etc.

But I'll get a lot of pushback because people usually prefer to take credit for their wisdom and foresight rather than acknowledge their luck.

Found the love of my life at 21. Worked at the same place. Married at 25. Both utterly in love. Two kids. So happy. Then, he changed, quite dramatically. Not the same person. Cheated. Rejected me. It all was quite shocking to me and all who know him. We are divorcing. Kids and I are traumatized. Point is, you just never know in life.

Similar story. It’s creepy how somebody you (and everyone around you knew/even family) turns out to have a side and character and behavior you never would have imagined in a million years.