Please, don’t take away a play date with my kid as a consequence

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Anonymous wrote:First time moms of only children are so cute.

Please. I have three kids and still think what the friend did is rude, especially with so little explanation. The people I'm friends with keep their promises, or they are close enough with me to share exactly why they can't. I don't maintain friendships with poor communicators (and I have plenty of friends).

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree. Plus disappointment is apart of life. It's unfortunate but may as well get your kid used to it now. My daughter had a sleep over for her birthday and one of the moms cancelled due to her daughter's bad behavior. Yes I was disappointed but I wasn't about to get upset over her properly parenting her child. Bad behavior does not deserve a reward.

It genuinely surprises me how few people in this thread think this. I’m with you. If my kid is acting like a jerk, I will not regard them with outings and play dates. If that’s a bummer for your kid then that sucks but I’m responsible for raising MY kids.

It's not an either or here though is it? You can surely find another way to punish or discipline your child that doesn't punish somebody else.?

I remember very clearly being in eighth grade and heading over to a sleepover party with a sense of dread. my mom let me go because we had committed to it but I knew the punishment was coming the next day.

So your mom found another way to punish you, still et you go to the sleepover, and still you’re complaining.

So clearly the alternative punishment worked. Which is exactly what it was supposed to do.

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Anonymous wrote:Your friend was rude to cancel the playdate for that reason.

Certainly there were other immediate high value things that she could have taken away from her son right then and there.

Maybe at 3 pm when the play date was still on she did that and then the kid kept going so she had to take something bigger.

OP here and in that case, she should have told me that at 3pm! “Yes, we are still on for tomorrow, but so you know Sammy has been acting out and if he continues this behavior he will lose the trip tomorrow. I am so sorry. I hope he turns it around. I will let you know by 5 PM.”

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Anonymous wrote:First time moms of only children are so cute.

Please. I have three kids and still think what the friend did is rude, especially with so little explanation. The people I'm friends with keep their promises, or they are close enough with me to share exactly why they can't. I don't maintain friendships with poor communicators (and I have plenty of friends).

OP here and I don’t know if you mean me, or my friend is “cute”. I am not a first time mom. My 4 year old is actually the oldest of 3. And the other mom has a 3 year old, in addition to the older child.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to see Larlo today.

No, you aren’t. Remember yesterday when you kept _______ and I told you to stop. But you didn’t. Now you can’t see Larlo.

Lightbulb moment even for a four year old.

I'm going to see Becky today.

No. Becky's mom Karen cancelled the playdate.

Lightbulb moment for even a 4 year.. Karen is flaky.

Karen can be flaky to your 4 year old. Big whoop. However, Karen’s four year now knows Karen means business.

Obviously not if she keeps having to cancel to prove to herself that her kid is going to listen!
Ah, maybe someday she’ll figure it out...

I only had to do it once. So I guess my kid is smarter than Karen’s.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to see Larlo today.

No, you aren’t. Remember yesterday when you kept _______ and I told you to stop. But you didn’t. Now you can’t see Larlo.

Lightbulb moment even for a four year old.

I'm going to see Becky today.

No. Becky's mom Karen cancelled the playdate.

Lightbulb moment for even a 4 year.. Karen is flaky.

Karen can be flaky to your 4 year old. Big whoop. However, Karen’s four year now knows Karen means business.

Obviously not if she keeps having to cancel to prove to herself that her kid is going to listen!
Ah, maybe someday she’ll figure it out...

I only had to do it once. So I guess my kid is smarter than Karen’s.

Yup, you did it. You fixed him. He'll never misbehave ever again. Enjoy his stress free teen years!