How awful would it be if my DD didn't attend her dad's wedding?

[Anonymous]

After all updates by OP, I say, unless he threatens to stop paying child support, why on earth should that poor kid go? Does she even spend time with him? It seems that her presence came somewhere after china, flowers and food to be served!
"Oh, what could we do to decorate even nicer! let's have Maggie here and put her in a gorg dress!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why there is NO ONE who will know or have connections to your daughter *at her dads wedding.”

???

Presumably because it's wedding #4 and all the relatives excused themselves.

OP, I don't know why others are criticizing. I would never let my three year old attend in the situation you describe.

Neither would I.

Why is DD not invited to the wedding? She should be the flower girl and go home after wedding photos and before the reception. She is three. She will likely melt down shortly into the reception (long before dinner is served) as it will be her bed time and she doesn't know anyone except her father who will be making the rounds as the groom. Doesn't seem like the dad has done much to accomodate his daughter.

The new wife probably doesn’t want remnants of the previous seven wives in her ‘real’ wedding photos.

Just forget it. They don’t want her there, you don’t want her there, and the little girl would rather be asleep like she should be.

[Anonymous]

Who wants to bet OP's ex forgets his dd is showing up, and doesn't even go out to meet his own kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why there is NO ONE who will know or have connections to your daughter *at her dads wedding.”

???

Presumably because it's wedding #4 and all the relatives excused themselves.

OP, I don't know why others are criticizing. I would never let my three year old attend in the situation you describe.

Neither would I.

Why is DD not invited to the wedding? She should be the flower girl and go home after wedding photos and before the reception. She is three. She will likely melt down shortly into the reception (long before dinner is served) as it will be her bed time and she doesn't know anyone except her father who will be making the rounds as the groom. Doesn't seem like the dad has done much to accomodate his daughter.

The new wife probably doesn’t want remnants of the previous seven wives in her ‘real’ wedding photos.

Just forget it. They don’t want her there, you don’t want her there, and the little girl would rather be asleep like she should be.

The whole thing is sad. If op isn’t trolling, then she should be the flower girl or play some part in the wedding and not just be invited to the reception. The ceremony is the important part. Everything else is just extra.

[Anonymous]

Once the new wife is pregnant dad will be out of your daughters life. I would sip it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why there is NO ONE who will know or have connections to your daughter *at her dads wedding.”

???

Presumably because it's wedding #4 and all the relatives excused themselves.

OP, I don't know why others are criticizing. I would never let my three year old attend in the situation you describe.

Neither would I.

Why is DD not invited to the wedding? She should be the flower girl and go home after wedding photos and before the reception. She is three. She will likely melt down shortly into the reception (long before dinner is served) as it will be her bed time and she doesn't know anyone except her father who will be making the rounds as the groom. Doesn't seem like the dad has done much to accomodate his daughter.

The new wife probably doesn’t want remnants of the previous seven wives in her ‘real’ wedding photos.

Just forget it. They don’t want her there, you don’t want her there, and the little girl would rather be asleep like she should be.

The whole thing is sad. If op isn’t trolling, then she should be the flower girl or play some part in the wedding and not just be invited to the reception. The ceremony is the important part. Everything else is just extra.

I think they “invited” her to the reception knowing it would be past her bedtime and/or OP would just veto the whole idea due to the lack of supervision. They MUST know she wouldn’t drop off a three year old to be supervised by no one at a party full of drunk adults, most of whom have no idea who she is. But that way they can say “well we invited her!”

This is a good indication of how the future will be.

[Anonymous]

Honestly just drop her off, let the grandma take care of her, and stay nearby and tell them your cell in case they need you. It’s not fair to you but the amount of time that will take for you is less than the energy and time you will spend on saying no and pushing back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly just drop her off, let the grandma take care of her, and stay nearby and tell them your cell in case they need you. It’s not fair to you but the amount of time that will take for you is less than the energy and time you will spend on saying no and pushing back

Have you even read a single response? Nobody would be supervising the 3 year old. She’s an unwanted afterthought. What kind of parent are you, that you’d still drop her off anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once the new wife is pregnant dad will be out of your daughters life. I would sip it.

Considering how fast this wedding is planned, I bet the woman is pregnant already.

[Anonymous]

Not attending the ceremony, only 3 years old, evening wedding and night reception, child doesn't know anyone -- including other kids--except the people getting married, and hard to think new wife will be THAT interested in making daddy's little girl a highlight of her evening, sounds like an awful thing for a kid to be subjected to.

[Anonymous]

You take DD to the wedding, wear a nice dress, and stay to keep an eye on her. They'll probably take a few pictures and gratefully hand her back to you. Hopefully you can snap a quick pic of DD and Dad on your phone, so she'll have that when she's older. Say congratulations and leave. I bet you can be in and out in 20 minutes.

It's sucks, but do for your DD. It's one night, and it's her father's wedding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once the new wife is pregnant dad will be out of your daughters life. I would sip it.

Considering how fast this wedding is planned, I bet the woman is pregnant already.

Happened to a friend. Very similar circumstances. They had a toddler and were coparenting. He met a woman, was engaged in under two months and about two weeks later married. Later, my friend did the math and realized the bride must have been about four weeks along. They said nothing until the fifth month and the new wife was showing. But the dad completely ghosted on the toddler after the new baby arrived.

[Anonymous]

10:01, Page 7’s advice is the best for what you’re dealing with OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly just drop her off, let the grandma take care of her, and stay nearby and tell them your cell in case they need you. It’s not fair to you but the amount of time that will take for you is less than the energy and time you will spend on saying no and pushing back

Have you even read a single response? Nobody would be supervising the 3 year old. She’s an unwanted afterthought. What kind of parent are you, that you’d still drop her off anyway?

Op said the grandma had agreed to look after her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who wants to bet OP's ex forgets his dd is showing up, and doesn't even go out to meet his own kid?

eh, he needs the kid there for picture purposes. Building memories and all that...