I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining

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Don’t be bitter ladies. You should have chosen husbands who make more money.

I dunno. The people I know who have 3+ kids actually the ones that have the least money and can't afford child care for all the kids, etc.

+1. It's always the "oops" baby who is some women's golden ticket to not having to go back to work. I know at least four women who have straight up told me as much, and I suspect it of many others.

There are people that do this? What alternate universe have I stumbled into? *heads back to real estate & schools fora*

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If you want to talk about something other than complaints about parenthood, then people get really pissy with you. I mean, there are many crises happening. You not having a sitter for the day the preschool told you school will be closed back I. August is not one of them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:s/o from the pool life thread. But it extends everywhere. You had three kids by choice. You knew what the repercussions would be for your kids and yourselves. Not as many activities, harder in public places in the younger years etc. You can’t make the defining soccer game because one parent has to travel and you don’t arrange backup? Then don’t sign up for the team, and don’t complain when the coach only selects the “committed” players to move up. It’s your kids that are suffering. Either manage it or don’t but stop complaining about your own choices. Rant over.

Why don’t you ignore, myob or find some empathy? If doesn’t affect you.

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Anonymous wrote:Ha I posted a different vent recently about 3 kids and all their activities. I’m a SAHM and have a part time sitter. DH actually suggested I get full time help. I don’t need full time help. It is still a shit show getting kid(s) to sports in the middle of rush hour. I think the worst part is that we live in a highly congested traffic area. If everything were 5 minutes away, it would be fine. We have to drive 2-3 miles and it often takes 30+ minutes smack in the middle of dinner time.

Now my kids have camps and my toddler naps when they need to get picked up. I’m sure my toddler will survive getting her nap cut short.

I don’t mean to come off like I’m complaining. I also complain about traffic, heat, etc. I’m not trying to one up anyone about the number of kids and activities. I’m sure I would complain if I had one kid and had to drive in rush hour to sports too.

Full time help and being a SAHM?! Smh.

She has 3 kids... you cannot expect her to do it alone. She probably also has a housekeeper and yard service. Between mom, dad, and nanny you'd think they could figure it out. And, she probably has poor toddler in no activities so how hard can it be.

Don’t be bitter ladies. You should have chosen husbands who make more money.

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We have plenty of money, I just don’t understand how a SAHM could possibly need full time help....unless the Mom is completely helpless. Maybe the husbands should have chosen more capable wives?

Pp here. For the record, I declined full time help. I do know SAHMs who have full time help. It isn’t like you hand off all the kids full time. You leave baby home so you can go to older kid’s school, take middle kid to dance without lugging other 2. Sure, you can have a little break to work out or get your nails done but it isn’t like you go hang out by yourself all day.

I do have a pt sitter and pt housekeeper. I still get my kids going in the morning, take my youngest to her activities when big kids are at school and then take older kids to activities after school and weekends. I usually work out twice a week, run an errand and either get a mani pedi or massage once per week so half sitter hours are for me and other half is so I can take other kids out without dragging youngest.

DH suggested I get help everyday vs the 2 I have now. I declined.

You don’t have to explain yourself. Having extra help is wonderful. Glad you can afford it.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sick of everyone completely lacking empathy these days. It's like no one lets you complain or have a rough day without being a bitch about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Don’t be bitter ladies. You should have chosen husbands who make more money.

I dunno. The people I know who have 3+ kids actually the ones that have the least money and can't afford child care for all the kids, etc.

+1. It's always the "oops" baby who is some women's golden ticket to not having to go back to work. I know at least four women who have straight up told me as much, and I suspect it of many others.

There are people that do this? What alternate universe have I stumbled into? *heads back to real estate & schools fora*

Of course! Its rampant in the SAHM circles. You can always tell because the first few kids are 2-3 years apart. Then as the last one enters K, mom announces surprise! I'm pregnant. Oops!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sick of everyone completely lacking empathy these days. It's like no one lets you complain or have a rough day without being a bitch about it.

Its because no one feels supported. Everyone is overworked and under-rested and just burnt out. Life is so full of just sucking it up that I can't stand listening to people who can't seem to just suck it up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so sick of everyone completely lacking empathy these days. It's like no one lets you complain or have a rough day without being a bitch about it.

Its because no one feels supported. Everyone is overworked and under-rested and just burnt out. Life is so full of just sucking it up that I can't stand listening to people who can't seem to just suck it up.

Everyone is not overworked and under-rested. They make their choices in life and its about priorities.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so sick of everyone completely lacking empathy these days. It's like no one lets you complain or have a rough day without being a bitch about it.

Its because no one feels supported. Everyone is overworked and under-rested and just burnt out. Life is so full of just sucking it up that I can't stand listening to people who can't seem to just suck it up.

Everyone is not overworked and under-rested. They make their choices in life and its about priorities.

I know. That is my point. I made all of the choices in my life and I'm putting on my big girl panties and dealing with them. I just wish others would do the same. I don't want to hear about your man-baby husband or 3rd kid who is a runner.

[Anonymous]

I have three kids and have found the opposite...people are constantly questioning how I do it or referring to me as a saint (I’m not). It’s not that much more difficult than two kids (transition to one was actually the hardest). I don’t over schedule my kids, balance one-on-one time between my spouse, myself, and children, and realize certain days will suck the life out of me. Looking forward to holidays when they’re older and hopefully have their own families...focusing on raising good, strong people and realize that can’t happen if I paint myself as a martyr. I feel society sort of expects mom’s of 2+ to be exhausted all the time and to complain; my kids were all planned and I don’t need sympathy.

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I agree. I’m a mom of three and I don’t complain about my kids. They’re amazing and all three very much wanted! I work and people are always offering to help, babysit, saying how they don’t know how I do it all, etc. It’s not that hard if you’re organized and keep a calendar.

[Anonymous]

This thread underscores why I tend to avoid talking to moms.

I'm not a snob. I'm not aloof. I'm not shy. I'm not introverted. Rather, I recognize that so many moms are judgmental jerks...who tend to project their own insecurities, unhappiness, jealousy, etc. on other women for the most bizarre reasons. Did everyone catch the weird reference to soccer and being committed? That's classic weirdo mommy behavior.

Signed,

Mother of 4 who will smile and briefly chat before quickly moving along

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread underscores why I tend to avoid talking to moms.

I'm not a snob. I'm not aloof. I'm not shy. I'm not introverted. Rather, I recognize that so many moms are judgmental jerks...who tend to project their own insecurities, unhappiness, jealousy, etc. on other women for the most bizarre reasons. Did everyone catch the weird reference to soccer and being committed? That's classic weirdo mommy behavior.

Signed,

Mother of 4 who will smile and briefly chat before quickly moving along

What are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP. I know someone with five kids and she’s late to everything. She doesn’t ever volunteer to help. She’s selfish. She acts as if these children are some huge burden bestowed upon her and we must all bow down to her for doing the Lord’s work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. I know someone with five kids and she’s late to everything. She doesn’t ever volunteer to help. She’s selfish. She acts as if these children are some huge burden bestowed upon her and we must all bow down to her for doing the Lord’s work

By volunteering to help, that probably means she needs to get a babysitter. That isn’t selfish. She is raising her kids.