Fiance - Cat Tension

[Anonymous]

A lot of pp who are destined to be cast ladies

[Anonymous]

I love all animals but would never have another cat.

They are mean, aloof, and they stink. They also track litter around your house via their paws. Just gross.

That being said, OP, your cats are likely very attached to you and view the fiance as a threat.

Other PP's have suggested cameras and that your fiance is abusing your cats. They will be cat ladies till they go on to Glory. Their suggestions are crazy.

Finally, my dog has a very good sense about who is a good person and who is a bad person. She may also be a bit nuts. But she has snapped at people who are questionable and is always nice to the good, kind-hearted souls.

So, I think the best first steps is to have your fiance spend time with the cats without you present.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Do cats really stink more than dogs?

[Anonymous]

That's not unusual cat behavior. They will adjust eventually. Tell him to be the one to feed them for a few weeks. They may warm up to him faster. That said, I did have one male cat who never liked me, but he didn't like anything else except my wife. I was not sad when he died.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

Cats should be kept indoors. They’re a nuisance to your neighbors and have driven many native species to extinction. Plus they get hit by cars. That’s why shelters make you (and we did too) sign something saying you’ll keep the cat indoors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many men who just hate cats.

That is why there are many “Cat Ladies” abound.

No, that’s not why.

I am almost 100% positive that he is mistreating them in your absence.

Based on telepathy?

LOL! I was reading that post thinking exactly the same things. Give up your fiancé for a cat? Somebody got hit bad by the toxoplasmosis oocytes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are many men who just hate cats.

That is why there are many “Cat Ladies” abound.
When men become old & are alone, they rarely collect cats.

In my opinion, keep the felines ->> Let the fiance go.
Your fiance can NEVER provide you w/the type of unconditional love + loyalty that ALL humans deserve.

Whoever advised you to get rid of them should go away.

Cats can be a**es I admit.
But so can humans.
Cats despise change.
Just adding in a new set of furniture can stress them out.

Plus if they have always been okay w/your DF being around, but now one is aggressive while the other one is hiding.....

I am almost 100% positive that he is mistreating them in your absence.
I could understand if your DF just appeared out of nowhere but your cats knew him prior.
I would secretly NAnny.....Uh....Kitty cam your “Dear” fiance.

OMG. Dogs give unconditional love but cats are aloof. I have a cat and parrots right now. The parrots give me more unconditional love than the cat (parrots are flock creatures).

But anyway, this misses the whole point. Can you vent about politics to your cat? Can you take a romantic vacation to Greece with your cat? Does your cat cook dinner when you’ve had a long day at work? Does your cat meet, you know, your needs? Will your cat nurse you through disease? No, no, no, no, and no.

Keep the fiancé. Make the cat adjust; help it to adjust through some of the saner suggestions here. Ignore the cat ladies who claim that your cat’s natural instinct to be territorial somehow translates into needing nanny cams to prove your fiancé is a psychopath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

Cats should be kept indoors. They’re a nuisance to your neighbors and have driven many native species to extinction. Plus they get hit by cars. That’s why shelters make you (and we did too) sign something saying you’ll keep the cat indoors.

Its the circle of life. They are natural predators and it is more cruel to keep them locked up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

Cats should be kept indoors. They’re a nuisance to your neighbors and have driven many native species to extinction. Plus they get hit by cars. That’s why shelters make you (and we did too) sign something saying you’ll keep the cat indoors.

Its the circle of life. They are natural predators and it is more cruel to keep them locked up.

No, it isn’t “natural.” Cats are invasive species—they originally come from the Middle East. Native small mammals and songbirds haven’t evolved to deal with your cat—think of our native fledglings who spend days on the ground before learning to fly. Cats have already driven dozens of species to extinction and are threatening many, many more species. Not to mention the nuisance to your neighbors when your cat pees and poops and fights in their yards. And then your cat gets hit by a car. Plus, you feed your cat, right, so it doesn’t need to go out and torture fledglings purely for the “fun” of torturing other animals.

The real “cruelty” in many forms comes from letting your cat outside.

I get so sick and tired of crazy cat ladies who insist that their cats’ “fun” outweighs all the needs of their neighbors and other species.

Yes, I’m a cat owner. Get off the couch and play with your damn cat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

Cats should be kept indoors. They’re a nuisance to your neighbors and have driven many native species to extinction. Plus they get hit by cars. That’s why shelters make you (and we did too) sign something saying you’ll keep the cat indoors.

My outdoor cats are healthy and happy and yes, they kill birds. Meanwhile, no species of bird within a mile of my home is in any danger of going extinct. They really just cull out the dumber, slower birds, bats, chipmunks, rabbits, mice, etc. All of which continue to be in abundance around my property. After man years outside, they have learned to avoid cars and things that may prey on them. I wouldn't have an indoor cat. The ones I see are usually fat and kind of dumb from being deprived of the outdoors.

This claim of, "driven many native species to extinction" is BS. Maybe on some island somewhere but not in this country. Birds are all going to die anyway. They don't live that long. The few that cats kill, and I've seen the wildly exaggerated numbers, hardly make any difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

Cats should be kept indoors. They’re a nuisance to your neighbors and have driven many native species to extinction. Plus they get hit by cars. That’s why shelters make you (and we did too) sign something saying you’ll keep the cat indoors.

My outdoor cats are healthy and happy and yes, they kill birds. Meanwhile, no species of bird within a mile of my home is in any danger of going extinct. They really just cull out the dumber, slower birds, bats, chipmunks, rabbits, mice, etc. All of which continue to be in abundance around my property. After man years outside, they have learned to avoid cars and things that may prey on them. I wouldn't have an indoor cat. The ones I see are usually fat and kind of dumb from being deprived of the outdoors.

This claim of, "driven many native species to extinction" is BS. Maybe on some island somewhere but not in this country. Birds are all going to die anyway. They don't live that long. The few that cats kill, and I've seen the wildly exaggerated numbers, hardly make any difference.

This sort of self-serving, ignorant BS is why we can’t get coherent conservation and environmental policies in this country. I bet you don’t believe climate change is “real,” either.

Hundreds of species are near extinction, and some of them live or migrate through your neighborhood. https://abcbirds.org/threat/extinction/. Just because you only notice the robins and cardinals on your way from your door to your car doesn’t mean that’s all that’s out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

Cats should be kept indoors. They’re a nuisance to your neighbors and have driven many native species to extinction. Plus they get hit by cars. That’s why shelters make you (and we did too) sign something saying you’ll keep the cat indoors.

My outdoor cats are healthy and happy and yes, they kill birds. Meanwhile, no species of bird within a mile of my home is in any danger of going extinct. They really just cull out the dumber, slower birds, bats, chipmunks, rabbits, mice, etc. All of which continue to be in abundance around my property. After man years outside, they have learned to avoid cars and things that may prey on them. I wouldn't have an indoor cat. The ones I see are usually fat and kind of dumb from being deprived of the outdoors.

This claim of, "driven many native species to extinction" is BS. Maybe on some island somewhere but not in this country. Birds are all going to die anyway. They don't live that long. The few that cats kill, and I've seen the wildly exaggerated numbers, hardly make any difference.

This sort of self-serving, ignorant BS is why we can’t get coherent conservation and environmental policies in this country. I bet you don’t believe climate change is “real,” either.

Hundreds of species are near extinction, and some of them live or migrate through your neighborhood. https://abcbirds.org/threat/extinction/. Just because you only notice the robins and cardinals on your way from your door to your car doesn’t mean that’s all that’s out there.

A study by the Smithsonian and the US Fish and Wildlife Service (two staid institutions that hardly produce “wildly exaggerated” estimates like you claim) found that cats kill between 1.3 to 3.7 billion birds and 6.3 to 22.3 billion mammals annually. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_predation_on_wildlife

And let’s be clear what we mean by “kill.” Your cat tortures these animals and birds for the “fun” you think it “needs” to have. Then your cat leaves most of the bodies uneaten because, of course, you already fed it.

So sick of this self-serving BS. Get your cat some toys and a fence, leash or catio. And SPEND SOME TIME WITH YOUR PET. Yep, all pets need enrichment, but that doesn’t translate into a bs “need” to torture small animals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

Cats should be kept indoors. They’re a nuisance to your neighbors and have driven many native species to extinction. Plus they get hit by cars. That’s why shelters make you (and we did too) sign something saying you’ll keep the cat indoors.

Its the circle of life. They are natural predators and it is more cruel to keep them locked up.

Do you go out to your neighbors’ yards and pick up all the cat sh*t your cat leaves behind? Because it’s happening, and one day I’m going to put it on your front porch in a flaming bag, you inconsiderate f—-

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do cats really stink more than dogs?

They don't stink at all. They groom themselves constantly and are very clean. That said, the whole litter box thing is a real pain and can really stink if not properly tended to. Mine go outside for that so no litter box here and no cat odors of any kind.

Cats should be kept indoors. They’re a nuisance to your neighbors and have driven many native species to extinction. Plus they get hit by cars. That’s why shelters make you (and we did too) sign something saying you’ll keep the cat indoors.

Its the circle of life. They are natural predators and it is more cruel to keep them locked up.

Do you go out to your neighbors’ yards and pick up all the cat sh*t your cat leaves behind? Because it’s happening, and one day I’m going to put it on your front porch in a flaming bag, you inconsiderate f—-

Cats unlike dogs bury their sh*t. It generally doesn't require lifting especially if its in a yard.

You have some serious anger issues.