s/o what is the solution to lack of desire?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Why not a pill to calm a man's libido?

Because sex feels amazing when you want it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Why not a pill to calm a man's libido?

Why not get divorced and find someone that meets your current needs? Life changes, ya know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Viagra produces boners. A female pill would have to produce the feeling you have when there is more than enough money in your accounts, your body and your partner's body look amazing and are healthy, the kids are doing great and they are asleep, the house is clean and everything is set for tomorrow, etc...etc...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Viagra produces boners. A female pill would have to produce the feeling you have when there is more than enough money in your accounts, your body and your partner's body look amazing and are healthy, the kids are doing great and they are asleep, the house is clean and everything is set for tomorrow, etc...etc...

Jeez - everyone complains about being too busy...too exhausted. It's amazing how much time you can free up if you shut down your computer, turn off Roseanne and Netflix. Take a hot bath, sip a glass of wine and it's amazing what can happen....even if only once a week!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Viagra produces boners. A female pill would have to produce the feeling you have when there is more than enough money in your accounts, your body and your partner's body look amazing and are healthy, the kids are doing great and they are asleep, the house is clean and everything is set for tomorrow, etc...etc...

So, you are punishing him by withholding sex because he doesn't earn enough money? You knew this when you married him. If it was a condition of your marriage vows, then this should have been clearly spelled out before marriage.

"I will cut off sex after 10 years if you don't earn enough money."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Why not a pill to calm a man's libido?

Why not get divorced and find someone that meets your current needs? Life changes, ya know.

My DH meets them but thanks for your concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Viagra produces boners. A female pill would have to produce the feeling you have when there is more than enough money in your accounts, your body and your partner's body look amazing and are healthy, the kids are doing great and they are asleep, the house is clean and everything is set for tomorrow, etc...etc...

So, you are punishing him by withholding sex because he doesn't earn enough money? You knew this when you married him. If it was a condition of your marriage vows, then this should have been clearly spelled out before marriage.

"I will cut off sex after 10 years if you don't earn enough money."

I was inspired by a pp who wrote about the difference 10 years can make. Truth is, I enjoy sex and could probably get down even if the house was on fire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Viagra produces boners. A female pill would have to produce the feeling you have when there is more than enough money in your accounts, your body and your partner's body look amazing and are healthy, the kids are doing great and they are asleep, the house is clean and everything is set for tomorrow, etc...etc...

So, you are punishing him by withholding sex because he doesn't earn enough money? You knew this when you married him. If it was a condition of your marriage vows, then this should have been clearly spelled out before marriage.

"I will cut off sex after 10 years if you don't earn enough money."

I was inspired by a pp who wrote about the difference 10 years can make. Truth is, I enjoy sex and could probably get down even if the house was on fire.

Well sure. Because female desire just isn't contingent on all that crap any more than male desire is. Those distractions are mostly an after-the-fact rationalization for why she doesn't want to have sex with her husband. Find a woman an affair partner, get those novelty hormones flowing, and all the hectic life stuff magically fades into the background.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Viagra produces boners. A female pill would have to produce the feeling you have when there is more than enough money in your accounts, your body and your partner's body look amazing and are healthy, the kids are doing great and they are asleep, the house is clean and everything is set for tomorrow, etc...etc...

So, you are punishing him by withholding sex because he doesn't earn enough money? You knew this when you married him. If it was a condition of your marriage vows, then this should have been clearly spelled out before marriage.

"I will cut off sex after 10 years if you don't earn enough money."

I was inspired by a pp who wrote about the difference 10 years can make. Truth is, I enjoy sex and could probably get down even if the house was on fire.

Well sure. Because female desire just isn't contingent on all that crap any more than male desire is. Those distractions are mostly an after-the-fact rationalization for why she doesn't want to have sex with her husband. Find a woman an affair partner, get those novelty hormones flowing, and all the hectic life stuff magically fades into the background.

To be fair, those things can make a person feel stressed and not in the mood. I think there are people who prioritize intimacy, just like there are people who prioritize healthy living and fitness. Some people prioritize all three. Those people have frequent, satisfying sex and look fantastic while doing so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Why not a pill to calm a man's libido?

Because sex feels amazing when you want it.

It does but it feels just as amazing when it happens once every three weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Why not a pill to calm a man's libido?

Because sex feels amazing when you want it.

It does but it feels just as amazing when it happens once every three weeks.

There may come a time when having sex isn't an option, due to illness, injury, age, divorce. You may regret not taking advantage of a willng partner who is literally in your bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Why not a pill to calm a man's libido?

Because sex feels amazing when you want it.

It does but it feels just as amazing when it happens once every three weeks.

There may come a time when having sex isn't an option, due to illness, injury, age, divorce. You may regret not taking advantage of a willng partner who is literally in your bed.

This logic doesn't work with food and it doesn't work with sex, either.

[Anonymous]

My solution was easy - I divorced my ex and my desire for sex returned almost immediately. Funny how that works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Why not a pill to calm a man's libido?

Because sex feels amazing when you want it.

It does but it feels just as amazing when it happens once every three weeks.

There may come a time when having sex isn't an option, due to illness, injury, age, divorce. You may regret not taking advantage of a willng partner who is literally in your bed.

This logic doesn't work with food and it doesn't work with sex, either.

+1. lol. I think some men on DCUM are addicted to sex and are entitled to their addiction.

Anyway, the unmarried versions of these men should tell their potential spouses that they require sex 3 times a week(or however often) in order to be in a happy marriage.

I know that such information would have been useful to me and some women. I would run for the hills if a man told me that.

Thank goodness I do not have that problem. I am the high libido and very understanding spouse in my marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to invent a pill, like viagra for the female libido.

Viagra produces boners. A female pill would have to produce the feeling you have when there is more than enough money in your accounts, your body and your partner's body look amazing and are healthy, the kids are doing great and they are asleep, the house is clean and everything is set for tomorrow, etc...etc...

In the words of a scientist working on a female version of viagra -- "you can't fix a$$hole", or something like that. Women's libido are much more complicated.