Why do you let your kid run around at a restaurant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So people who have no apparent disabilities, and are paying customers, get no consideration in your view?

Which needs are being accommodated here?

All of this talk of rights and entitlements is absurd anyway. We're talking about going out to eat at a restaurant. Customers who bring children, please try to be considerate of the other customers. Other customers, please be tolerant of parents who are probably doing what they can -- and if they're not, please recognize that this is one meal at one restaurant, not a matter of life and death.

The problem is that some customers with children are considerate of only themselves and their families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So people who have no apparent disabilities, and are paying customers, get no consideration in your view?

Which needs are being accommodated here?

All of this talk of rights and entitlements is absurd anyway. We're talking about going out to eat at a restaurant. Customers who bring children, please try to be considerate of the other customers. Other customers, please be tolerant of parents who are probably doing what they can -- and if they're not, please recognize that this is one meal at one restaurant, not a matter of life and death.

Of course it's not life or death. But when will people stop making excuses for the bad behavior? "Aw, c'mon, sure Larlo bumped into your table and sent your $60 lobster flying, only after he tripped the waiter and that pot of hot coffee landed in your lap...lighten up! Things could be worse!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is the only burning issue in your life, you are blessed. I grew up with only mashed potatoes to eat once a day for many years in my childhood. Now I'm thankful to have three meals a day and I can afford to eat at Komi everyday if I need to. So calm down ladies. Be glad you can afford to have a meal at a restaurant whether with raging kids or without.

No, sorry, do you work for the money that feeds you? I do, I'm not a SAHM, and I am not going to spend my money on an evening out and just suck up misbehavior by other diners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So people who have no apparent disabilities, and are paying customers, get no consideration in your view?

Which needs are being accommodated here?

All of this talk of rights and entitlements is absurd anyway. We're talking about going out to eat at a restaurant. Customers who bring children, please try to be considerate of the other customers. Other customers, please be tolerant of parents who are probably doing what they can -- and if they're not, please recognize that this is one meal at one restaurant, not a matter of life and death.

The problem is that some customers with children are considerate of only themselves and their families.

Ding ding ding - we have a winner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not surprised this devolved into another round of "Bash the SN mom." Always DCUM's favorite stress reliever.

Bash the SN mom who has an inability to set boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is the only burning issue in your life, you are blessed. I grew up with only mashed potatoes to eat once a day for many years in my childhood. Now I'm thankful to have three meals a day and I can afford to eat at Komi everyday if I need to. So calm down ladies. Be glad you can afford to have a meal at a restaurant whether with raging kids or without.

As we used to say growing up -
And what does this have to do with the price of tea in China?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have given up on actually parenting their kids. Of course they will be posting on the teens and older kids forum when little Susie who wasn't given any boundaries at 4 is now a complete train wreck at 16

Truer words have never been spoken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is a saint in restaurants. I don't feel like it's anything we've done as parents, so I'm not going to give myself a cramp by trying to pat myself on the back.

Seeing as I feel like I've had little to do with the toddler phenomenon of being well-behaved in a restaurant, I similarly assume people with crazy children just have children with "spirited" temperaments. Could those kids use more parental direction? Probably. But I can cut people a little slack when it looks like that's their day in and day out existence that seems much more trying than my own.

Are you talking about lunch at a fast casual place, or dinner at Fiola Mare?

Pp here. Ok, I wouldn't take my kid to Fiola Mare because I assume that's where are people are going to be somewhere that children aren't. We do take our 3 year old to decent sit down places, but at odd times, like 430 on a Sunday. I wouldn't expect kids to be running around Le Diplomate at any time. The local pizza place or brewery? I cut lots of slack.

I agree, and that's my point. A pizza place or brewery requires less investment of money and time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is the only burning issue in your life, you are blessed. I grew up with only mashed potatoes to eat once a day for many years in my childhood. Now I'm thankful to have three meals a day and I can afford to eat at Komi everyday if I need to. So calm down ladies. Be glad you can afford to have a meal at a restaurant whether with raging kids or without.

No, sorry, do you work for the money that feeds you? I do, I'm not a SAHM, and I am not going to spend my money on an evening out and just suck up misbehavior by other diners.

Okay. I'm a neuroscientist if that counts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is the only burning issue in your life, you are blessed. I grew up with only mashed potatoes to eat once a day for many years in my childhood. Now I'm thankful to have three meals a day and I can afford to eat at Komi everyday if I need to. So calm down ladies. Be glad you can afford to have a meal at a restaurant whether with raging kids or without.

No, sorry, do you work for the money that feeds you? I do, I'm not a SAHM, and I am not going to spend my money on an evening out and just suck up misbehavior by other diners.

Okay. I'm a neuroscientist if that counts.

Okay what, you work or you don't work? In any event, I would like to think we all get value for our money.

[Anonymous]

Yo let's turn this to another SAHM vs WOHM thing shall we? Didn't have one of those lately here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is the only burning issue in your life, you are blessed. I grew up with only mashed potatoes to eat once a day for many years in my childhood. Now I'm thankful to have three meals a day and I can afford to eat at Komi everyday if I need to. So calm down ladies. Be glad you can afford to have a meal at a restaurant whether with raging kids or without.

As we used to say growing up -
And what does this have to do with the price of tea in China?!?

Seriously, do they grow tea trees in china?

[Anonymous]

Tea doesn't grow in trees! Duh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not surprised this devolved into another round of "Bash the SN mom." Always DCUM's favorite stress reliever.

Bash the SN mom who has an inability to set boundaries.

Like I said, "bash the SN mom."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So people who have no apparent disabilities, and are paying customers, get no consideration in your view?

Which needs are being accommodated here?

All of this talk of rights and entitlements is absurd anyway. We're talking about going out to eat at a restaurant. Customers who bring children, please try to be considerate of the other customers. Other customers, please be tolerant of parents who are probably doing what they can -- and if they're not, please recognize that this is one meal at one restaurant, not a matter of life and death.

The problem is that some customers with children are considerate of only themselves and their families.

Yes, some people (with children, or without children) are inconsiderate. This is a thing you have to deal with when you go out in public. How you deal with it is up to you.

Now, I figure that I will try to be considerate of other people, whether or not they seem to be considerate of me, and I hope that they will be considerate of me, even when I am inadvertently inconsiderate of them. It's a mutual thing. But other people have other opinions.