Why do you let your kid run around at a restaurant?

[Anonymous]

I feel like practicing a little empathy goes a long way to making me a happier person and diner. You can't control other people, but you can control your reaction to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not surprised this devolved into another round of "Bash the SN mom." Always DCUM's favorite stress reliever.

Come on down off your high horse before you get hurt. It isn't bashing a SN mom. It is a bashing a mom who refuses to take any number of reasonable steps (including standing up to her inlaws) to avoid creating a danger and disturbance in restaurants. And she, or others, have openly said she will do what is easiest for her and to hell with others.

Nor is this really a SN issue. There are plenty of NT kids who are difficult in restaurants and I would expect parents to take the same sort of remedial steps to make sure their kid isn't doing wind sprints through a restaurant. It sucks when I have to pick up and leave if one of my kids is causing a danger or a disturbance, but I do it because I don't think the world revolves around me or my kid and I don't always get to do what is more convenient for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not surprised this devolved into another round of "Bash the SN mom." Always DCUM's favorite stress reliever.

Bash the SN mom who has an inability to set boundaries.

Like I said, "bash the SN mom."

Meaning if you have a SN child, you are exempt from having to set boundaries with your husband and in laws?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tea doesn't grow in trees! Duh!

But then where does tea trea oil come from?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tea doesn't grow in trees! Duh!

But then where does tea trea oil come from?

ARGH! Tea TREE!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not surprised this devolved into another round of "Bash the SN mom." Always DCUM's favorite stress reliever.

Come on down off your high horse before you get hurt. It isn't bashing a SN mom. It is a bashing a mom who refuses to take any number of reasonable steps (including standing up to her inlaws) to avoid creating a danger and disturbance in restaurants. And she, or others, have openly said she will do what is easiest for her and to hell with others.

Nor is this really a SN issue. There are plenty of NT kids who are difficult in restaurants and I would expect parents to take the same sort of remedial steps to make sure their kid isn't doing wind sprints through a restaurant. It sucks when I have to pick up and leave if one of my kids is causing a danger or a disturbance, but I do it because I don't think the world revolves around me or my kid and I don't always get to do what is more convenient for me.

+1000 to your last paragraph

[Anonymous]

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So people who have no apparent disabilities, and are paying customers, get no consideration in your view?

Which needs are being accommodated here?

All of this talk of rights and entitlements is absurd anyway. We're talking about going out to eat at a restaurant. Customers who bring children, please try to be considerate of the other customers. Other customers, please be tolerant of parents who are probably doing what they can -- and if they're not, please recognize that this is one meal at one restaurant, not a matter of life and death.

The problem is that some customers with children are considerate of only themselves and their families.

Yes, some people (with children, or without children) are inconsiderate. This is a thing you have to deal with when you go out in public. How you deal with it is up to you.

Now, I figure that I will try to be considerate of other people, whether or not they seem to be considerate of me, and I hope that they will be considerate of me, even when I am inadvertently inconsiderate of them. It's a mutual thing. But other people have other opinions.

So what do you do when other people are being inconsiderate of you, inadvertently or deliberately?

[Anonymous]

I admire fine restaurants that ban small children. Eat at McDonalds if you think little Bobby has the right to run around the dining room and interrupt my dinner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If this is the only burning issue in your life, you are blessed. I grew up with only mashed potatoes to eat once a day for many years in my childhood. Now I'm thankful to have three meals a day and I can afford to eat at Komi everyday if I need to. So calm down ladies. Be glad you can afford to have a meal at a restaurant whether with raging kids or without.

No, sorry, do you work for the money that feeds you? I do, I'm not a SAHM, and I am not going to spend my money on an evening out and just suck up misbehavior by other diners.

Then don't. Talk to the manager. Or yell at the parents (I don't recommend this, though).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tea doesn't grow in trees! Duh!

But then where does tea trea oil come from?

ARGH! Tea TREE!

There is no such thing as tea tree silly! Show me if you can. Duh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So people who have no apparent disabilities, and are paying customers, get no consideration in your view?

Which needs are being accommodated here?

All of this talk of rights and entitlements is absurd anyway. We're talking about going out to eat at a restaurant. Customers who bring children, please try to be considerate of the other customers. Other customers, please be tolerant of parents who are probably doing what they can -- and if they're not, please recognize that this is one meal at one restaurant, not a matter of life and death.

The problem is that some customers with children are considerate of only themselves and their families.

Yes, some people (with children, or without children) are inconsiderate. This is a thing you have to deal with when you go out in public. How you deal with it is up to you.

Now, I figure that I will try to be considerate of other people, whether or not they seem to be considerate of me, and I hope that they will be considerate of me, even when I am inadvertently inconsiderate of them. It's a mutual thing. But other people have other opinions.

So what do you do when other people are being inconsiderate of you, inadvertently or deliberately?

I try to move on, instead of fixating on it. I also remind myself that everybody has hard days, and maybe this is one of them, and that they're likely not being inconsiderate at me personally, and that their behavior is not under my control, but my behavior is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tea doesn't grow in trees! Duh!

But then where does tea trea oil come from?

ARGH! Tea TREE!

There is no such thing as tea tree silly! Show me if you can. Duh!

Hmmmmm.... actually where does tea come from? No seriously from where?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tea doesn't grow in trees! Duh!

But then where does tea trea oil come from?

ARGH! Tea TREE!

There is no such thing as tea tree silly! Show me if you can. Duh!

Sure there is. Melaleuca alternifolia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tea doesn't grow in trees! Duh!

But then where does tea trea oil come from?

ARGH! Tea TREE!

There is no such thing as tea tree silly! Show me if you can. Duh!

Hmmmmm.... actually where does tea come from? No seriously from where?

Tea -- the tea we drink -- comes from a shrub/small tree, Camellia sinensis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So people who have no apparent disabilities, and are paying customers, get no consideration in your view?

Which needs are being accommodated here?

All of this talk of rights and entitlements is absurd anyway. We're talking about going out to eat at a restaurant. Customers who bring children, please try to be considerate of the other customers. Other customers, please be tolerant of parents who are probably doing what they can -- and if they're not, please recognize that this is one meal at one restaurant, not a matter of life and death.

The problem is that some customers with children are considerate of only themselves and their families.

Yes, some people (with children, or without children) are inconsiderate. This is a thing you have to deal with when you go out in public. How you deal with it is up to you.

Now, I figure that I will try to be considerate of other people, whether or not they seem to be considerate of me, and I hope that they will be considerate of me, even when I am inadvertently inconsiderate of them. It's a mutual thing. But other people have other opinions.

So what do you do when other people are being inconsiderate of you, inadvertently or deliberately?

I try to move on, instead of fixating on it. I also remind myself that everybody has hard days, and maybe this is one of them, and that they're likely not being inconsiderate at me personally, and that their behavior is not under my control, but my behavior is.

Translated, that means you are a doormat and would allow a 6 year old child to continue to disrupt your restaurant meal. Do you think you are not allowed to have nice things, or that you have no control over what happens to you?