Why do you let your kid run around at a restaurant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was recently at a restaurant in South Carolina and this couple had two young boys and a nursing baby. He baby nursed under a blanket and was quiet the whole time. The other boys played with crayons quietly and when the father asked the kid to scooch his chair in the boy said "yes sir" so politely. It was wonderful, those kids are clearly being raised right, from the very beginning.

Eh...I find children calling their own parents "sir/ma'am" to be pretty weird and off-putting. My guess is those kids are spanked much more severely than any kid should be (And I don't mean bc that's the only way they get them to use ma'am/sir. It's just the kind of thing that goes hand in hand with that (very southern) mentality)

Do not project your inability to parent your children onto people who can parent their children. The fact that you think children behave and use manners only as a result of spanking shows how little you know how to parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Is this thread about a stupid jasmine rice or kids in restaurants? Have all here gone nuts? WTF?

It is jasmine tea and kids running around in restaurants. Please stay focused.

So it's my fault now?

Well....it's really about your parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was recently at a restaurant in South Carolina and this couple had two young boys and a nursing baby. He baby nursed under a blanket and was quiet the whole time. The other boys played with crayons quietly and when the father asked the kid to scooch his chair in the boy said "yes sir" so politely. It was wonderful, those kids are clearly being raised right, from the very beginning.

Eh...I find children calling their own parents "sir/ma'am" to be pretty weird and off-putting. My guess is those kids are spanked much more severely than any kid should be (And I don't mean bc that's the only way they get them to use ma'am/sir. It's just the kind of thing that goes hand in hand with that (very southern) mentality)

Do not project your inability to parent your children onto people who can parent their children. The fact that you think children behave and use manners only as a result of spanking shows how little you know how to parent.

Your reading comprehension score: 0.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was recently at a restaurant in South Carolina and this couple had two young boys and a nursing baby. He baby nursed under a blanket and was quiet the whole time. The other boys played with crayons quietly and when the father asked the kid to scooch his chair in the boy said "yes sir" so politely. It was wonderful, those kids are clearly being raised right, from the very beginning.

Eh...I find children calling their own parents "sir/ma'am" to be pretty weird and off-putting. My guess is those kids are spanked much more severely than any kid should be (And I don't mean bc that's the only way they get them to use ma'am/sir. It's just the kind of thing that goes hand in hand with that (very southern) mentality)

Do not project your inability to parent your children onto people who can parent their children. The fact that you think children behave and use manners only as a result of spanking shows how little you know how to parent.

Your reading comprehension score: 0.

DP. I think PP comprehended your inane post just fine. To suggest that saying sir and ma'am goes hand in hand with corporal punishment is absurd. And I say this as a parent of kids who most certainly do not say sir and ma'am.

[Anonymous]

One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

You managed to get to page 20 and have no appreciation of the safety hazard your child poses to himself and others in the restaurant when he runs around? Or did you just read the first post, ignore everything that came after and assume you'd be offering some brilliant new insight because you're just that amazing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

You win the SN martyr queen crown today PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

You managed to get to page 20 and have no appreciation of the safety hazard your child poses to himself and others in the restaurant when he runs around? Or did you just read the first post, ignore everything that came after and assume you'd be offering some brilliant new insight because you're just that amazing?

I read the first page and the last several pages. There was a lot of extraneous material. If you had bothered to read my post which was right in front of you, you would note that I was referring to the past tense when my child moved around a restaurant (at least twice that I can remember and perhaps a few times more). He does not do that any longer. He used to go to other tables and smile or try to otherwise engage to get attention. He never bothered the servers intentionally. Most people seemed to think it was cute but certainly not everyone. Some people do not understand that a human child can make decisions faster than even a dedicated parent can defend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

You managed to get to page 20 and have no appreciation of the safety hazard your child poses to himself and others in the restaurant when he runs around? Or did you just read the first post, ignore everything that came after and assume you'd be offering some brilliant new insight because you're just that amazing?

I read the first page and the last several pages. There was a lot of extraneous material. If you had bothered to read my post which was right in front of you, you would note that I was referring to the past tense when my child moved around a restaurant (at least twice that I can remember and perhaps a few times more). He does not do that any longer. He used to go to other tables and smile or try to otherwise engage to get attention. He never bothered the servers intentionally. Most people seemed to think it was cute but certainly not everyone. Some people do not understand that a human child can make decisions faster than even a dedicated parent can defend.

Are you for real? What makes you think that other paying customers want to be bothered by your child? Either you're clueless, selfish, or both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. I see this all the time and it really annoys me. Many of today's parents just don't care to teach their children pubic manners.

A person has to have manners before they can teach them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

You win the SN martyr queen crown today PP

If you have kids, perhaps you should teach them to have some compassion for their classmates with special needs (or start by developing some compassion yourself). And if you want to dine out without any risk of interacting with an unruly child, go to a place where there is no kids' menu or eat any time after 8 pm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

You managed to get to page 20 and have no appreciation of the safety hazard your child poses to himself and others in the restaurant when he runs around? Or did you just read the first post, ignore everything that came after and assume you'd be offering some brilliant new insight because you're just that amazing?

I read the first page and the last several pages. There was a lot of extraneous material. If you had bothered to read my post which was right in front of you, you would note that I was referring to the past tense when my child moved around a restaurant (at least twice that I can remember and perhaps a few times more). He does not do that any longer. He used to go to other tables and smile or try to otherwise engage to get attention. He never bothered the servers intentionally. Most people seemed to think it was cute but certainly not everyone. Some people do not understand that a human child can make decisions faster than even a dedicated parent can defend.

Are you for real? What makes you think that other paying customers want to be bothered by your child? Either you're clueless, selfish, or both.

I would get him as soon as I could but he is a human being. I do not control his behavior. It could take a few minutes to get him back to his seat. Through patience, this is not a problem any longer and has not been for years. If you have mastered how to control the human behavior of others, I would be most interested in your brilliant insight. Actually I wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. I see this all the time and it really annoys me. Many of today's parents just don't care to teach their children pubic manners.

A person has to have manners before they can teach them.

Bingo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

You win the SN martyr queen crown today PP

If you have kids, perhaps you should teach them to have some compassion for their classmates with special needs (or start by developing some compassion yourself). And if you want to dine out without any risk of interacting with an unruly child, go to a place where there is no kids' menu or eat any time after 8 pm.

My children and I have compassion for all of their classmates, whether special needs or not. One way in which they have learned compassion is to refer to themselves and their classmates as "children" rather than the gutter term "kids." Although I appreciate your desire to dictate to others -- being the martyr queen that you are -- we choose to dine where and when we want. You apparently do the same without any of the compassion you recommend to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids has run around restaurants in the past (but is mostly just inappropriately loud at times due to his disability), and my other two kids have been better behaved. But I am not "letting" the boy run around or raise his voice. He is a sentient being. I do not control what he thinks or does at all times. If you do not understand that, you either do not have kids or are raising robots that will go totally wild the moment they get away from your protective gaze. Thank you for your patience, and if you are not patient, I really do not care because my money is just as good as yours when my spouse and I are dining out and we probably tip better for any inconvenience of the server. If you want to be away from children, you still have plenty of dining options in the DMV.

You managed to get to page 20 and have no appreciation of the safety hazard your child poses to himself and others in the restaurant when he runs around? Or did you just read the first post, ignore everything that came after and assume you'd be offering some brilliant new insight because you're just that amazing?

I read the first page and the last several pages. There was a lot of extraneous material. If you had bothered to read my post which was right in front of you, you would note that I was referring to the past tense when my child moved around a restaurant (at least twice that I can remember and perhaps a few times more). He does not do that any longer. He used to go to other tables and smile or try to otherwise engage to get attention. He never bothered the servers intentionally. Most people seemed to think it was cute but certainly not everyone. Some people do not understand that a human child can make decisions faster than even a dedicated parent can defend.

Are you for real? What makes you think that other paying customers want to be bothered by your child? Either you're clueless, selfish, or both.

I would get him as soon as I could but he is a human being. I do not control his behavior. It could take a few minutes to get him back to his seat. Through patience, this is not a problem any longer and has not been for years. If you have mastered how to control the human behavior of others, I would be most interested in your brilliant insight. Actually I wouldn't.

You're on a roll tonight. I have one word for what I call controlling your little human beings: parenting! Unfortunately, curbing your child's behavior seemed to be a low priority for you, so it's no wonder he didn't learn public manners.