Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that the lady was crazy.

However, if it was me, I would have made sure that she gets it somehow. Even if I had to send my neighbor on Uber to drop it at her house or something. Mainly because it was my DS's fault. After that I would have never had any communication with that person because best to leave toxic people out of your life. This would be called taking the high road.

Agreed. Her unreasonable request should not outweigh taking responsibility for an unfortunate mistake.

You teach your kids to take responsibility for someone else's mistake?

javascript:emoticon(''); The kid took the swimsuit. He needs to fix this mistake. Since he is a kid, his parents need to fix the kid's mistake. You are teaching the kid to take responsibility for his own mistake. The other lady did not commit a mistake. She also offered alternatives to the OP, that the OP refused.

OP is entitled. She will raise entitled brats.

OP husband is gone away. She is alone with an infant and 6 year old. You do not ask a mom to drive alone with an infant and 6 year old to meet that distance. You either drive and get your suit or buy another one. She is not entitled. Her child and the mom driving the child made a mistake. Mistakes happen. OP can return the suit on Monday. Other mom can return the suit on Monday. OP can do a Target instore pick up or fedex the suit... lots of options but its not ok to ask someone to drive at that hour.

[Anonymous]

While it was your son's fault, I think the other mother should have just let it go.

Your son made an honest mistake, kids & adults alike have done this one time or another.

A good compromise would have been for her to purchase another suit on their trip, then ask for reimbursement when she returns.

To expect you to drive w/two young children at such a late hour is outrageous over a child's honest mistake.

[Anonymous]

This story has so many holes. OP won't explain how the other mom knew her son had the suit, yet no one knows this family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that the lady was crazy.

However, if it was me, I would have made sure that she gets it somehow. Even if I had to send my neighbor on Uber to drop it at her house or something. Mainly because it was my DS's fault. After that I would have never had any communication with that person because best to leave toxic people out of your life. This would be called taking the high road.

Agreed. Her unreasonable request should not outweigh taking responsibility for an unfortunate mistake.

You teach your kids to take responsibility for someone else's mistake?

javascript:emoticon(''); The kid took the swimsuit. He needs to fix this mistake. Since he is a kid, his parents need to fix the kid's mistake. You are teaching the kid to take responsibility for his own mistake. The other lady did not commit a mistake. She also offered alternatives to the OP, that the OP refused.

OP is entitled. She will raise entitled brats.

Quite possible. The other woman is crazy and will raise crazy brats, if they take after their mother.

OP should return the suit tonight, load the kids into the car and go. The other woman should think for a second, realize that's an absurd request, and tell OP not to return the suit, that they'll get one tomorrow on the way. That's how it should all play out, if they are all reasonable human beings.

[Anonymous]

Op is it 50 minutes to their house AND 50 minutes back so total time an hour and 40 minutes in the car? Or 25 minutes there 25 back?
No way would I drive an hour and 50 minutes to return a boys bathing suit. Worse case scenario he can wear some dry fit shorts to the beach and they can buy another one at the beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This story has so many holes. OP won't explain how the other mom knew her son had the suit, yet no one knows this family?

They're a new family that lives an hour away from the school? Why is the poor kid going there?

[Anonymous]

The first thought that ran through my mind was my mom would give me HELL if she found out I asked someone to drive 50 minutes with a baby at 10pm over a swimsuit. I can hear it now "That baby should be in bed, not driving around at night over a swimsuit that can be easily replaced. What were you thinking?!"

[Anonymous]

OP, why do you care what DCUM thinks?

Your child took someone's swimsuit, and you did not return it to the other person. Both these acts (your son taking something, and you not returning it in time) has already happened. Why do you need DCUM to approve or disapprove? We do not know you. The other person knows you somewhat, and she does not have a good impression of you. Worry about her impression because she knows you IRL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first thought that ran through my mind was my mom would give me HELL if she found out I asked someone to drive 50 minutes with a baby at 10pm over a swimsuit. I can hear it now "That baby should be in bed, not driving around at night over a swimsuit that can be easily replaced. What were you thinking?!"

Sure, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you care what DCUM thinks?

Your child took someone's swimsuit, and you did not return it to the other person. Both these acts (your son taking something, and you not returning it in time) has already happened. Why do you need DCUM to approve or disapprove? We do not know you. The other person knows you somewhat, and she does not have a good impression of you. Worry about her impression because she knows you IRL.

I think once the crazy lady's request starts getting out there, she's going to be the one who has to worry what people think of her.

Over a bathing suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you care what DCUM thinks?

Your child took someone's swimsuit, and you did not return it to the other person. Both these acts (your son taking something, and you not returning it in time) has already happened. Why do you need DCUM to approve or disapprove? We do not know you. The other person knows you somewhat, and she does not have a good impression of you. Worry about her impression because she knows you IRL.

I think once the crazy lady's request starts getting out there, she's going to be the one who has to worry what people think of her.

Over a bathing suit.

She sounds self-absorbed. There will be more stories, after this one, I imagine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you care what DCUM thinks?

Your child took someone's swimsuit, and you did not return it to the other person. Both these acts (your son taking something, and you not returning it in time) has already happened. Why do you need DCUM to approve or disapprove? We do not know you. The other person knows you somewhat, and she does not have a good impression of you. Worry about her impression because she knows you IRL.

I think once the crazy lady's request starts getting out there, she's going to be the one who has to worry what people think of her.

Over a bathing suit.

She sounds self-absorbed. There will be more stories, after this one, I imagine.

How can she be self-absorbed, when it wasn't her suit that was taken by mistake? I don't think there's anything crazy about asking for a stolen by accident item to be returned immediately. OP doesn't want to return it immediately, which means she should keep closer tabs on her child who takes other people's things, if she doesn't want to be doing this for the next 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op is it 50 minutes to their house AND 50 minutes back so total time an hour and 40 minutes in the car? Or 25 minutes there 25 back?
No way would I drive an hour and 50 minutes to return a boys bathing suit. Worse case scenario he can wear some dry fit shorts to the beach and they can buy another one at the beach.

If the woman lives near Baltimore then yes this is the scenario the OP is describing. I can't believe the number of posters that think she should drive 50 minutes each way to return the swimsuit. The boy can wear a pair shorts as a swimsuit if they are unable to get to a target on the way to the beach but there are always stores at the beach. The other woman is bat shit crazy.

[Anonymous]

You can request an item be returned, but you have to be reasonable. It's not always possible for someone to return it immediately or at the exact date/time you specify. If someone accidentally took your sweater from the office, would it be ok to call and ask them to return it at 10pm because you really need it? Of course not.

[Anonymous]

I think the other mom's request is unreasonable but I still would have driven to return the suit. Maybe she has other stressful things going on and this just put her over the edge?

I like the suggestions to either overnight the suit, uber it over or send her money to replace.