Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

She has mental problems. Seriously. Clearly the kids go to private school and so I'm sure she can afford to buy a new suit at the beach. One bathing suit doesn't really work for a beach vacation so she should have been headed to the store for another one anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is your son's fault.

I'm pretty sure OP knows that.

It's OP job to "fix" it.

Easy to say, but something tells me you wouldn't have woken up your baby and traveled 50 minutes either

50 mins is crazy time. Does amazon do 1 hr delivery?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is your son's fault.

I'm pretty sure OP knows that.

It's OP job to "fix" it.

Easy to say, but something tells me you wouldn't have woken up your baby and traveled 50 minutes either

If it was my kid's fault, I certainly will.

[Anonymous]

Well, I've learned a new term in this thread: venmo.

Thanks once again, DCUM, for keeping me up with the times!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 7 year old son went went to a pool party and was chaperoned and driven home by his friend's mom. Later that night I get a text from a classmate's mom, who I have never met. It says that my son took her son's bathing suit. I check my son's bag, and yes, the suit is a size 10. My son's is a size 6. I tell her I am sorry, I will bring it over in the morning. (My son left first, and picked a bathing suit off the drying rack - so he took the wrong one.) she says she needs it that evening because they leave on a trip in the morning and he only has one. I say ok, I have a sleeping baby already (DH overseas) but I will wake baby if necessary (hoping she'll say don't bother, but she doesn't )and ask for address. I map it, and it is 50 minutes away. I ask to meet at the school (10 minutes from me) and she says no. She offers a second location, 30 minutes for each of us, but only at 10 pm, and at that point I just say, look, I'm really sorry, but I can't wake sleeping baby and drive 30 minutes at 10 pm. I know it's my kids fault but I cannot return it until the morning and I hope they understand.
She continues to insist that it's the only bathing suit they have.
Eventually she hangs up.
They are going to the jersey beaches so clearly they can buy one.
its from target - nothing special.
And they have plenty of money. So it's not a money thing.
I think she was being a bit ridiculous.

Don't sweat it - this needs to be a lesson for her - always have a spare. She could drive to Target in less than that 30 minutes to the meeting point and buy a suit.

This is one of those things that it just happened at a bad time for everyone. I think most people would have just gone and gotten another suit.

[Anonymous]

No way. If the woman can drive 30 minutes to pick it up from you, she can drive to a store and buy a new one. Hell, any place that requires a bathing suit will have places that sell them nearby.

A reasonable person would be embarassed to make a request like that.

[Anonymous]

I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

[Anonymous]

we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

Who cares what she's thinking or why she feels the way she does? You aren't going to wake your baby and drive 2 hours total to return this bathing suit. And that's that.

[Anonymous]

How did she know that your son had the bathing suit? Was your son's left there so that's how they knew? Similar suit? Seems weird to me that she knew to call you.
Also, how is it that she lives 50 minutes away? Are you in the DC area? That would be like her living in Baltimore but her kid goes to DC birthday parties.

She is being unreasonable, imo. Yes, your kid made a mistake but it's not a major non-replaceable item.

How did this turn out?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't return it tonight under the circumstances described, but I also wouldn't care what she thought or said about me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

The fact that you'll meet eventually is precisely why she should be embarassed.

Who only has one bathing suit, anyway? I've never heard of such a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Lady, you are either a troll or a real piece of work.

OP, apologize, have a glass of wine and don't drive to return. Really, accidents happen. She will find a new suit and you can reimburse her. PERIOD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

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How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Any reasonable person would not expect her to wake a baby and drive an hour or more round trip at 10 pm to return an easily replaced item. That's much more atonement than necessary in this situation.