Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you guys are missing the a big point. NO ONE IS THE WRONGED PARTY!! A kid accidentally took another kids swim suit. A Target suit swim suit!

I'm sure the OP wishes now that she had just offered to pay for a new one and then replace the old one latter.

This shouting prompts me to ask WHO ONLY HAS ONE BATHING SUIT FOR THEIR KID?!!

Doesn't matter. The wronged party does not have to meet your criteria for what is acceptable to deem them worthy of getting their item back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For a kids bathing suit.. Yeah she can pick another one up at target on the way to the beach. If it was an adult bathing suit I would be more understanding. I'm a heavier woman and I have exactly 3 bathing suits that don't draw attention to my ass and hips, so yeah I would be pissed if you "stole" one. But a kid... Don't sweat it.


I do think people are tearing into you because of your excuses. Honestly you didn't owe her an excuse. You could have just said no.

Ugh, what a selfish person. I hope someone else is in charge of teaching your children morals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a kids bathing suit.. Yeah she can pick another one up at target on the way to the beach. If it was an adult bathing suit I would be more understanding. I'm a heavier woman and I have exactly 3 bathing suits that don't draw attention to my ass and hips, so yeah I would be pissed if you "stole" one. But a kid... Don't sweat it.


I do think people are tearing into you because of your excuses. Honestly you didn't owe her an excuse. You could have just said no.

Ugh, what a selfish person. I hope someone else is in charge of teaching your children morals.

Morals? We aren't discussing abortion or the death penalty. This was an honest mistake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you guys are missing the a big point. NO ONE IS THE WRONGED PARTY!! A kid accidentally took another kids swim suit. A Target suit swim suit!

I'm sure the OP wishes now that she had just offered to pay for a new one and then replace the old one latter.

I disagree. The Mom is inconvenienced. And she's certainly wronged now that she's out the swimsuit that OP offered to drive to her.

The offer to paypal or venmo the money is brilliant, for emergency Jersey Shore bathing suit mixups like these.

No, it's not. Maybe she's traveling with family and won't have a way to stop for a suit. Maybe the suit belonged to a family member up there and she wanted to return it. Maybe it's the suit of a relative and has sentimental value and she wanted it for the trip. We don't know her reasons. Assuming you can solve problems with money is NOT a good lesson to teach our children. OP sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a kids bathing suit.. Yeah she can pick another one up at target on the way to the beach. If it was an adult bathing suit I would be more understanding. I'm a heavier woman and I have exactly 3 bathing suits that don't draw attention to my ass and hips, so yeah I would be pissed if you "stole" one. But a kid... Don't sweat it.


I do think people are tearing into you because of your excuses. Honestly you didn't owe her an excuse. You could have just said no.

Ugh, what a selfish person. I hope someone else is in charge of teaching your children morals.

Morals? We aren't discussing abortion or the death penalty. This was an honest mistake.

And you are to CORRECT your mistakes. It's not just the big problems we should have a moral code about, you know. Or maybe you don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

OK where did stealing come into it ...weirdo! No you do not drive almost 2 hours roundtrip. She can buy another suit, you can send her $15 if she goes bonkers about it. Loon!

OK. I understand/ respect that you can't read very well. I said stole/ removed. Maybe the kid thought it was his, and it wasn't. Irrelevant- OP is responsible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a kids bathing suit.. Yeah she can pick another one up at target on the way to the beach. If it was an adult bathing suit I would be more understanding. I'm a heavier woman and I have exactly 3 bathing suits that don't draw attention to my ass and hips, so yeah I would be pissed if you "stole" one. But a kid... Don't sweat it.


I do think people are tearing into you because of your excuses. Honestly you didn't owe her an excuse. You could have just said no.

Ugh, what a selfish person. I hope someone else is in charge of teaching your children morals.

Morals? We aren't discussing abortion or the death penalty. This was an honest mistake.

And you are to CORRECT your mistakes. It's not just the big problems we should have a moral code about, you know. Or maybe you don't know.

What code of morals are you following? I believe the flipside to that is practicing forgiveness, being kindness and allowing for people to be human... Correcting this mistake could have also happened by returning the trunks Monday or fedexing them... There's typically more than one solution.

[Anonymous]

Is t the ocean too cold to swim in right now anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a kids bathing suit.. Yeah she can pick another one up at target on the way to the beach. If it was an adult bathing suit I would be more understanding. I'm a heavier woman and I have exactly 3 bathing suits that don't draw attention to my ass and hips, so yeah I would be pissed if you "stole" one. But a kid... Don't sweat it.


I do think people are tearing into you because of your excuses. Honestly you didn't owe her an excuse. You could have just said no.

Ugh, what a selfish person. I hope someone else is in charge of teaching your children morals.

Morals? We aren't discussing abortion or the death penalty. This was an honest mistake.

And you are to CORRECT your mistakes. It's not just the big problems we should have a moral code about, you know. Or maybe you don't know.

I'm the "heavier woman" pp. I would of course make an effort to give her $ for a replacement or return the suit on Monday, probably both. Actually, in my current situation I would totally be up for a drive at 10 pm. Not so much if I had an infant asleep and a 7 year old who probably should be asleep as well.

I might ask a close neighbor to watch the kids while I drove but seeing as it's not a life or death emergency (a pp mentioned inhaler, or medication, or epi pen) I would think that it can be dealt with by just getting another swimsuit and I'll reimburse you for it and return your old suit.

[Anonymous]

OP your only fault was continuing to discuss with her. I would have apologized and told her I'd mail the suit to her the next day. When she told me she needed it tonight I'd have offered to leave it on my porch. If she asked me to drive it to her I would have said I'm sorry I can't. Period. It is an effing bathing suit, for crying out loud!

[Anonymous]

If it were a 15 minute drive, sure. But an hour at 10 pm with 2 kids? Bullshit.

If this thread isn't some sociology experiment with multiple trolls spouting the same illogical "morality" to get a reaction, then I'd say the kid who lost his shorts purposefully swapped with the other kid, hoping that he wouldn't have to go anywhere with his freak of a mom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that the lady was crazy.

However, if it was me, I would have made sure that she gets it somehow. Even if I had to send my neighbor on Uber to drop it at her house or something. Mainly because it was my DS's fault. After that I would have never had any communication with that person because best to leave toxic people out of your life. This would be called taking the high road.

Agreed. Her unreasonable request should not outweigh taking responsibility for an unfortunate mistake.

You teach your kids to take responsibility for someone else's mistake?

javascript:emoticon(''); The kid took the swimsuit. He needs to fix this mistake. Since he is a kid, his parents need to fix the kid's mistake. You are teaching the kid to take responsibility for his own mistake. The other lady did not commit a mistake. She also offered alternatives to the OP, that the OP refused.

OP is entitled. She will raise entitled brats.

[Anonymous]

OP, email her and offer to do an instore pick up if they have the exact suit at the target of her choosing. They open at 8 am tomorrow. That way you can prepay, email her the receipt, and put her name for pick up. I don't see the issue. Kid has a suit, its probably a 2 day trip. It can wait till Monday. If it is an epi pen or something important, yes, but not a swim suit at 10 PM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

I agree with this. I also can't believe people are blaming the "victim" for not having more than 1 suit. Who cares? The kid took it and the mom should make it right. It won't kill her kids to sleep in the car for a bit. The 3rd grader will think it's a great adventure to be out at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that the lady was crazy.

However, if it was me, I would have made sure that she gets it somehow. Even if I had to send my neighbor on Uber to drop it at her house or something. Mainly because it was my DS's fault. After that I would have never had any communication with that person because best to leave toxic people out of your life. This would be called taking the high road.

Agreed. Her unreasonable request should not outweigh taking responsibility for an unfortunate mistake.

You teach your kids to take responsibility for someone else's mistake?

javascript:emoticon(''); The kid took the swimsuit. He needs to fix this mistake. Since he is a kid, his parents need to fix the kid's mistake. You are teaching the kid to take responsibility for his own mistake. The other lady did not commit a mistake. She also offered alternatives to the OP, that the OP refused.

OP is entitled. She will raise entitled brats.

When I was growing up, if I didn't take care of my own things it was MY mistake and my mom would never call someone else's mom to fix that.