Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

I am on Team OP. She is right! The other woman sounds like a loon!

[Anonymous]

How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

Do you seriously spend time worrying about what other moms at your kids' school will think? I try to do what I think it right in a given circumstance, but what other random moms might say really does not affect me in the least.

[Anonymous]

If they are going to a beach there will be overpriced suits for sale nearby. Tell her to say how much the one she chooses costs and you will PayPal the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

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How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

You're kidding, right?

[Anonymous]

I clicked on this thinking you were going to say that your kid stole something from the house where the party was or took something of sentimental value to another child -- his lovey or autographed football or something.

But 2 private school moms who can afford to pay 30-40k for school having this much angst over a $10-20 bathing suit!? I would NOT be driving 50 min to return that. If school is still in session, your kid can bring it to this kid on Monday; if not you can drop it off/mail it to them next week. If you REALLY feel bad, pay pal her $20. Otherwise make sure you do return it at some point soon -- bc this is the nasty mom who will tell the entire 3rd grade that your son is a thief and you're lazy -- but no need to drive 2 hrs round trip tonight. Seriously -- on the way to the Jersey Shore there are a million Old Navy stores in various strip malls, she can pick up 2-3 bathing suits for about $10 each there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

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How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

You're crazy. I could drive 30 minutes in any direction and find a place to buy a new bathing suit. If the thing was that precious, the mom should have instructed her kid to keep an eye on it and make sure he brings it home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Any reasonable person would not expect her to wake a baby and drive an hour or more round trip at 10 pm to return an easily replaced item. That's much more atonement than necessary in this situation.

And you'd probably spend more on gas than the suit is worth. Target is open at 10 p.m. She can go get a new suit and send you the bill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

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How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

NP here and I would be embarrassed to harass a mom alone with 2 kids (including a baby) while her DH is overseas and demand that she drive 2 hours to return a bathing suit at 10 at night when I could easily pick up a new one the next day. That is the very definition of a self-centered jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I've learned a new term in this thread: venmo.

Thanks once again, DCUM, for keeping me up with the times!

+1

[Anonymous]

Yikes, my son has done this before, but no one was ever in a rush to get the item back. I always wash it and return it the next time I see the parents. I would have gone to target to get a new suit or given your situation driven to your house to pick it up. This is not normal OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

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How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

Yeah, not too worried about that.....we have been at the school for many years and are super-involved know everyone personally......it's a wonderful community and we love it.
They are new, and live an hour away, and no one knows them....and now I guess I know why.

[Anonymous]

Omg this party is in NW? Please OP we know who you are. Get in the car and return the suit. It is not about money it is about how entitled you are. I would have already returned this. Now you look even more crazy than usual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Any reasonable person would not expect her to wake a baby and drive an hour or more round trip at 10 pm to return an easily replaced item. That's much more atonement than necessary in this situation.

It might not be as easily replaced as you think. If the kids are the same age and one is size 6 and the other is size 10, then the 10 is husky and probably needs a certain kind of fit. That sort of thing might be the reason the mom is freaking out.

Regardless, you should have simply returned it. We all know the baby would have fallen back asleep in the car. And what are you teaching your careless son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

?

How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

Yeah, not too worried about that.....we have been at the school for many years and are super-involved know everyone personally......it's a wonderful community and we love it.
They are new, and live an hour away, and no one knows them....and now I guess I know why.

Good! Now relax!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

?

How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

Yeah, not too worried about that.....we have been at the school for many years and are super-involved know everyone personally......it's a wonderful community and we love it.
They are new, and live an hour away, and no one knows them....and now I guess I know why.

I hope you are a troll. You sound unhinged. Entitled, self-centered, and unhinged.