My ex is getting remarried on what would've been our anniversary!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex husband called me to let me know that he was getting remarried on October 15th.
That would've been our 5 year anniversary. To make matters worse they're having a destination wedding in Jamaica at the same resort I told him five years ago I wanted to get married, but he was against the idea because he wanted to make sure his family was there. I'm a little annoyed and maybe even a little jealous about their upcoming nuptials! This woman was originally his AP (the reason we got divorced) and now she seems to be getting my dream wedding. Ok, I'm done venting now.

Why on earth are you talking to this scumbag? If it's because you have kids..forget it. I would nip that right now. Text only and do the kid exchanges with little communication (only kids)..otherwise I would write his ass off. Happiness is the best revenge so work on that, seriously 86 this turd.

He called to let me know he was getting a passport for our child and wanted to make sure I was ok with her attending his wedding.

Yikes.

This alone would worry me.

He called to tell you "he was getting a passport"? Don't you have to sign the paperwork too before he can make that decision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn I feel bad for his new wife. Recycling the date and location idea- how embarrassing!

I was going to say this too but I actually was assuming it was new wife's idea because she is THAT insecure about her hold on OP. She' have to be. I think she somehow must feel a need to prove that she is the one who was truly meant to be with OP's husband. And replacing OP and hubby's wedding date with her own wedding to him will help her claim that date for herself and "erase" his wedding date with OP.

Look OP, your DH can marry her all he wants, but new wife knows he cheated on you and that marriage doesn't really mean anything to this guy. (Or, at least, it certainly doesn't correlate to fidelity for him.) So she has to be feeling incredibly insecure. It's just a given.

It's a crappy move, and it hurts that he cheated with her and now he is marrying her ON your wedding date and in a location that you wanted to be with him, but maybe take some solace in knowing that she will likely never feel secure in her relationship with him and still feels like she has to make overtures like that in order to stake her claim. Ick.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex married his 3rd wife on the same date we did. I’m his first wife I think it’s amusing. We married 10/14/2002, they married 10/14/2017. It blew my mind when it saw it but just wondered why??? lol

My ex of 8 yrs had a baby due with his current gf slash fiance on my birthday. How in the heck did he plan that out?

THIS IS AN OLD THREAD FROM 2016

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does she know it's your anniversary too? Maybe his parents aren't coming because they don't support his marriage to a home wrecker.
Good miss on your part OP. What are you jealous of?

Yeah she knows, obviously she doesn't care. I guess I'm feeling a little jealous that she's going to have my dream wedding.

It’s not a dream wedding though - she’s marrying HIM. The AP is still trying to get him to leave you/erase your existence by having her wedding on your anniversary and at the location you wanted! That’s seriously so sad - for her. Hugs to you OP. You should go away to a new dream destination on your old anniversary date. You are free of him AND you have an amazing DD. The AP is jealous of YOU!

Men wear tuxedos at wedding because women just need placeholders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I know what happened. Your ex is uncreative and doesn’t know how to please a woman so he borrows ideas you gave him when together.

My ex never traveled or got me gifts or anything even though I bore 3 children and raised them and cooked and did everything I was supposed to as a wife. I get to observe his new girlfriend, by all accounts my look-alike, get treated to things I would’ve liked when we were married - dates, outdoor adventures, vacations, etc.

I have been jealous but not because she’s with him. It’s more of a - why didn’t he do this when we were together, our relationship and our kids would’ve had better lives? But the reality is he’s the same person and I actually feel sorry for her because once he takes her for granted like he did me, I’m sure it will wear off. And she is, as others mentioned, getting my “leftovers”. If I were her I’d be terrified that he was dating someone who looked so much like his ex!

The best way to get over feelings of jealousy for past dreams is to create new dreams for yourself. You can bring yourself to Jamaica without a man. You can travel and create new anniversaries for yourself, like your divorce-aversery or something untied to his existence at all. Make yourself happy and forget them, that’s the best revenge.

I guess you aren't so unique.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Damn I feel bad for his new wife. Recycling the date and location idea- how embarrassing!

It sounds weird and nuts. Do not engage.

This is a surprisingly common man move. They find another woman who looks similar and might even have the same ethnic background, down to the specific country, the ex girlfriend has a culture in and date the new woman. Everything can be recycled. I've seen men date doppelgangers as the next girlfriend and one even proposed to the new girlfriend with the same ring he had previously proposed to other women with! They will make plans the same as they did with the first girlfriend and move at lightning speed with MISS right now.

I'm the PP with the ex who found someone who looks like me, but 10 years younger. My kids told me she looks like me too, and so have mutual friends. I wasn't offended, I found it hilarious. I wouldn't want to be her, at all.

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Anonymous wrote:They knew this would piss you off. Just forget it and move on, I'd have little to do with him after this.

Unfortunately I still have to have some contact with him, we have a child together.

OMG. I am so sorry.

I hope you have a good attorney on your side. He sounds more than a little narcissistic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex married his 3rd wife on the same date we did. I’m his first wife I think it’s amusing. We married 10/14/2002, they married 10/14/2017. It blew my mind when it saw it but just wondered why??? lol

My ex of 8 yrs had a baby due with his current gf slash fiance on my birthday. How in the heck did he plan that out?

THIS IS AN OLD THREAD FROM 2016

OMG you're right.

Did the narcissistic ex bump it up? Who else would know it was here?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I know what happened. Your ex is uncreative and doesn’t know how to please a woman so he borrows ideas you gave him when together.

My ex never traveled or got me gifts or anything even though I bore 3 children and raised them and cooked and did everything I was supposed to as a wife. I get to observe his new girlfriend, by all accounts my look-alike, get treated to things I would’ve liked when we were married - dates, outdoor adventures, vacations, etc.

I have been jealous but not because she’s with him. It’s more of a - why didn’t he do this when we were together, our relationship and our kids would’ve had better lives? But the reality is he’s the same person and I actually feel sorry for her because once he takes her for granted like he did me, I’m sure it will wear off. And she is, as others mentioned, getting my “leftovers”. If I were her I’d be terrified that he was dating someone who looked so much like his ex!

The best way to get over feelings of jealousy for past dreams is to create new dreams for yourself. You can bring yourself to Jamaica without a man. You can travel and create new anniversaries for yourself, like your divorce-aversery or something untied to his existence at all. Make yourself happy and forget them, that’s the best revenge.

I guess you aren't so unique.

Lol troll. Are you trying to make me feel bad? The new gf and I are extremely different in personality and I feel bad for her. I’ve moved on.

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Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Omg this is so funny. Sorry for bumping up an old post, but I experienced something very similar. Ex husband of 17 years married a girl 15 years younger than him, on /around the same day of our wedding anniversary. Then it got better, they then had a child five months later on the day of my child's birthday! And they named her similar to my name, lol...... people are just so weird.

[Anonymous]

Be glad to be rid of him. Second marriages have a very high divorce rate, and for good reason. I pity his next victim. Move on and don't look back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex husband called me to let me know that he was getting remarried on October 15th.
That would've been our 5 year anniversary. To make matters worse they're having a destination wedding in Jamaica at the same resort I told him five years ago I wanted to get married, but he was against the idea because he wanted to make sure his family was there. I'm a little annoyed and maybe even a little jealous about their upcoming nuptials! This woman was originally his AP (the reason we got divorced) and now she seems to be getting my dream wedding. Ok, I'm done venting now.

Why on earth are you talking to this scumbag? If it's because you have kids..forget it. I would nip that right now. Text only and do the kid exchanges with little communication (only kids)..otherwise I would write his ass off. Happiness is the best revenge so work on that, seriously 86 this turd.

Ok OP I’m in a similar situation but not as egregious. What this behavior means in my case is that my ex and the AP (who was very involved in the divorce!!!) are very much still focused on revenge and punishment because they certainly screwed themselves up big time.

Yours is likely only trying to get your attention because their new life isn’t working out very well. There are huge problems which he’s spackling over with money and flashy sh$t. He’d feel far better about his crappy new life…….if he could at least use the “good” details to hurt you. Sound like he’s in control of things? Nah.

Don’t lose ANY sleep over this. In fact, pat yourself on the back and go hang out with your friends/family. You won.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband called me to let me know that he was getting remarried on October 15th.
That would've been our 5 year anniversary. To make matters worse they're having a destination wedding in Jamaica at the same resort I told him five years ago I wanted to get married, but he was against the idea because he wanted to make sure his family was there. I'm a little annoyed and maybe even a little jealous about their upcoming nuptials! This woman was originally his AP (the reason we got divorced) and now she seems to be getting my dream wedding. Ok, I'm done venting now.

It’s your dream wedding, but I hope that the guy that would cheat on you and then purposefully carry the AP into the shadow of the life he could have had isn’t your dream guy.

How sad for her that she thinks she won some kind of prize, but she’s really just a proxy for you.

I know it hurts like hell, but there’s really no good coming her way, despite how much fun she has on that day.

[Anonymous]

Your EX is a train wrecks. Be very glad you got away from that mess.