My ex is getting remarried on what would've been our anniversary!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. That really sucks, but all she's getting are your leftovers. But can we stop with the ragging on Jamaica? Some of us call it home...

If it is so awesome, why did you leave? Oh let me guess, because it is a 3rd world dump.

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I think this is either:

1. Deliberate to forget his past by stamping it out with another wedding.

2. Or simply what the best available date was, and he's not the kind of person to care about piddling stuff like that.

In either case, it's probably not personally spiteful against you.

If I were you, I really don't think I'd care. I even forget the date of my own anniversary, and I'm happily married!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I think this is either:

1. Deliberate to forget his past by stamping it out with another wedding.

2. Or simply what the best available date was, and he's not the kind of person to care about piddling stuff like that.

In either case, it's probably not personally spiteful against you.

If I were you, I really don't think I'd care. I even forget the date of my own anniversary, and I'm happily married!

NP: Yeah, one's feelings about wedding anniversaries tend to be a little different as a happily married than as a my spouse cheated and now we're divorced.

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Ugh. He sounds like such a loser! OP, on that date do something really fun and/or self-pampering with a friend, and have a champagne toast to the fact that you aren't married to that sad jerk.

Love the idea of dropping hints about a kid's name. Haven't you always loved the name Larla, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should "let slip" a name you'd like to use for your future child. Make sure it's something awful and trashy for him to steal from you as well.

They've already accomplished that: they are getting married in Jamaica.

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Anonymous wrote:Does she know it's your anniversary too? Maybe his parents aren't coming because they don't support his marriage to a home wrecker.
Good miss on your part OP. What are you jealous of?

Yeah she knows, obviously she doesn't care. I guess I'm feeling a little jealous that she's going to have my dream wedding.

I'm sorry OP. It sounds like he's a jackass and she's a tacky whore. The only reason he's doing all this is to screw with your head. When jerks play these kind of games, the only way to win is not to play. I'd keep all communication about the children to text and email only and anytime he tries to engage about anything else, either ignore it or shut it down with "I'm not interested in discussing your personal life with you. Please only contact me when you need to talk about the children."

[Anonymous]

OP-- Based on what you have said, here is my prediction... Your ex will soon be her ex. Done!

[Anonymous]

Hey my ex left me for a woman with same name as me. I said and thought you must be doing it in subconscious way to remember me. Feel same way about your ex and shared anniversary.

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This is just weird

[Anonymous]

OP, I'd laugh and make joke to him about having the same anniversary for both marriages. That's awkward FOR HIM. What an idiot!

I do think I'd be bratty and try to find a way to tell the woman. Or at least ask him if he's told his fiance that it's the same anniversary. No WAY that woman knows. And if she did she'd move it for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, why do you guys hate Jamaica? I've been there before and I loved it!

It's a shit hole third world country.

I don't get the pull of resorts. You don't experience Jamaica at a resort. You experience a bunch of people feeding at a troth and a ton of sickening sweet watered down drinks. I've been to a dozen resorts and they are all exactly the same. Only positive is that Mexico always has the best food. That's it.

So what exactly did you experience in Jamaica? Other than the bus ride from the airport to Montego Bay? Which from the view out the windows is about as shitty as inner city Baltimore.

So you've been to a dozen resorts

but don't get the pull of resorts?

And it's a trough, not a troth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd laugh and make joke to him about having the same anniversary for both marriages. That's awkward FOR HIM. What an idiot!

I do think I'd be bratty and try to find a way to tell the woman. Or at least ask him if he's told his fiance that it's the same anniversary. No WAY that woman knows. And if she did she'd move it for sure.

Her best bet is writing him off and truly moving forward. Only allow him to text regarding the child drop off's etc.

Don't have any conversation with the whore, and you should get in your court order that his new wife cannot watch your child alone. My friend did this.

Finally who cares what they do!!

[Anonymous]

I think the same thing happened to a friend of mine - the cheating husband remarried on his anniversary with the previous wife.

The best case scenario I can imagine is that he has a shitty memory for dates and figures if he has the same anniversary date he's already had to remember, he won't forget it and get in trouble.

Any way you can mention the same wedding date thing when the current woman is present? The last thing I'd want is the same anniversary. It would make the marriage seem doomed. You have to let the resort thing go, though.

[Anonymous]

This guy deserves a brick through the window on Xmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the same thing happened to a friend of mine - the cheating husband remarried on his anniversary with the previous wife.

The best case scenario I can imagine is that he has a shitty memory for dates and figures if he has the same anniversary date he's already had to remember, he won't forget it and get in trouble.

Any way you can mention the same wedding date thing when the current woman is present? The last thing I'd want is the same anniversary. It would make the marriage seem doomed. You have to let the resort thing go, though.

He did the date and location on purpose. She needs to let it go and stop talking to him. Therein lies the bigger problem, she is too involved with their life for some reason.