I hate the other woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OW didn't make vows, your husband did. So sick of women constantly blaming the ow.

If the husband is the root of all scumbaggery, why is this OW who is posting out to get the wife instead of the actual cause of all this -- the MM. if the MM didn't lie to HER she states she would have never gotten involved. Why is it okay for this OW to target the wife when the MM was the one who tricked both of them? Seems more reasonable to make him suffer some consequences.

I still think it's a troll, but go ahead and have fun with it.

[Anonymous]

That's right. This OW just flipped it around to blame the wife for her misfortune when her anger should be directed at the MM. Just sick.

[Anonymous]

Oh the irony pp

[Anonymous]

To the OW troll, even if you were real, you deserve everything you have coming to you. Things you never thought of - you get pregnant, you're not the only side piece, you miss your chance with the ONE when he finds out you were a skank and can't respect you, or he can't put up with the STD you picked up from MM. Or MM just gets tired of you, finds a new tighter piece and kicks you out of whatever place he's paying for. The wife goes batsh!t and shows up to put an end to her mister and you're the collateral damage. Maybe it's you who underestimated. Karma is a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Or the OW just gets old and used then who wants that? At least the DW has half the assets and her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the OW troll, even if you were real, you deserve everything you have coming to you. Things you never thought of - you get pregnant, you're not the only side piece, you miss your chance with the ONE when he finds out you were a skank and can't respect you, or he can't put up with the STD you picked up from MM. Or MM just gets tired of you, finds a new tighter piece and kicks you out of whatever place he's paying for. The wife goes batsh!t and shows up to put an end to her mister and you're the collateral damage. Maybe it's you who underestimated. Karma is a bitch.

Wow. No wonder your ex cheated on you. Cray cray!!

[Anonymous]

I'll be crazy with half of everything and Child support. I'll be fine, I just needed to vent. DW will be driving a 15 year old wreck and living in a trailer park with his classy OW.

[Anonymous]

NP. I honestly don't get the hatred towards OW. Shit happens. Husbands fall out of love and leave. That's life. Whatever negative feelings you harbor will only hurt you. I guess it's okay to believe in karma if that helps you get through the day, but it rarely works in real life. (Or maybe American way of looking at karma is way out of wack.)

Anyway, my advice to you: don't be hating. Move on and be happy. Doing well is the best revenge

[Anonymous]

It's really difficult to figure out what is happening in this thread. It looks like multiple DW's and OW's posting.

You know, the statistical probability of a husband actually leaving his wife for an OW is very, very low. I think the husbands are usually just looking for a sexual outlet and not much more than that.

So, if you're the wife, and you found out your dh was cheating, it's not that he's leaving you for her. He obviously doesn't want to leave you, otherwise he would have done that instead of having an affair.

If you kick him out, he probably won't even date the OW, at least not for long. Men "affair down" and once they're single they have a different selection and might want someone different from the OW for a life partner.

As for the OWs, they are really very unhappy women with a huge fear of intimacy and commitment. I think women picture these highly sexual Jessica Rabbit type women, but they're not. They're usually just normal moms with average looks who happened to make a connection. If they're unmarried, they spend evenings, weekends and holidays alone. They're not these sassy creatures out to steal your man. In fact, if they really wanted a long-term relationship they wouldn't be dating married men.

Also, the vitriol towards the women who dated a married man without knowing he was married - that woman is not what I would even call an OW. She was just hoodwinked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I honestly don't get the hatred towards OW. Shit happens. Husbands fall out of love and leave. That's life. Whatever negative feelings you harbor will only hurt you. I guess it's okay to believe in karma if that helps you get through the day, but it rarely works in real life. (Or maybe American way of looking at karma is way out of wack.)

Anyway, my advice to you: don't be hating. Move on and be happy. Doing well is the best revenge

As a cheated-on wife, I think the above is appropriate for a couple years out from the affair. But for someone a couple months out from having her life completely upended? I don't think an emotionally healthy person has a (in my case) ten year relationship end due to cheating and just turns on a dime and says "shit happens." I'm working through my sadness, thinking a lot about who I have been and who I want to be in a relationship, and also feeling angry. Those are all feelings that are very appropriate to the situation. Move on is good advice for the long term, but in the short term you need to engage with the pain and anger in order to become a stronger/better/more emotionally mature person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the OW troll, even if you were real, you deserve everything you have coming to you. Things you never thought of - you get pregnant, you're not the only side piece, you miss your chance with the ONE when he finds out you were a skank and can't respect you, or he can't put up with the STD you picked up from MM. Or MM just gets tired of you, finds a new tighter piece and kicks you out of whatever place he's paying for. The wife goes batsh!t and shows up to put an end to her mister and you're the collateral damage. Maybe it's you who underestimated. Karma is a bitch.

Lol you sound mad. If i got pregnant I have options. If I caught an std with a condom DW has one too. If she gets a divorce her life will be fantastic with said std and she's now a single mother. Good luck getting remarried! Especially in D.C. lol
Who cares if MM gets tired of me. It's not that deep. I don't know why you seem to think that it is. If it was then maybe I'd care if hw was fucking someone else. Like I said before let her show up, I'll be ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OW troll, even if you were real, you deserve everything you have coming to you. Things you never thought of - you get pregnant, you're not the only side piece, you miss your chance with the ONE when he finds out you were a skank and can't respect you, or he can't put up with the STD you picked up from MM. Or MM just gets tired of you, finds a new tighter piece and kicks you out of whatever place he's paying for. The wife goes batsh!t and shows up to put an end to her mister and you're the collateral damage. Maybe it's you who underestimated. Karma is a bitch.

Lol you sound mad. If i got pregnant I have options. If I caught an std with a condom DW has one too. If she gets a divorce her life will be fantastic with said std and she's now a single mother. Good luck getting remarried! Especially in D.C. lol
Who cares if MM gets tired of me. It's not that deep. I don't know why you seem to think that it is. If it was then maybe I'd care if hw was fucking someone else. Like I said before let her show up, I'll be ready.

She won't get the STD because you said he doesn't touch her any more. Moron and troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. I honestly don't get the hatred towards OW. Shit happens. Husbands fall out of love and leave. That's life. Whatever negative feelings you harbor will only hurt you. I guess it's okay to believe in karma if that helps you get through the day, but it rarely works in real life. (Or maybe American way of looking at karma is way out of wack.)

Anyway, my advice to you: don't be hating. Move on and be happy. Doing well is the best revenge

As a cheated-on wife, I think the above is appropriate for a couple years out from the affair. But for someone a couple months out from having her life completely upended? I don't think an emotionally healthy person has a (in my case) ten year relationship end due to cheating and just turns on a dime and says "shit happens." I'm working through my sadness, thinking a lot about who I have been and who I want to be in a relationship, and also feeling angry. Those are all feelings that are very appropriate to the situation. Move on is good advice for the long term, but in the short term you need to engage with the pain and anger in order to become a stronger/better/more emotionally mature person.

Five stars*****. This actually captures what is going on the best.

[Anonymous]

Hate hurts no one but self.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OW troll, even if you were real, you deserve everything you have coming to you. Things you never thought of - you get pregnant, you're not the only side piece, you miss your chance with the ONE when he finds out you were a skank and can't respect you, or he can't put up with the STD you picked up from MM. Or MM just gets tired of you, finds a new tighter piece and kicks you out of whatever place he's paying for. The wife goes batsh!t and shows up to put an end to her mister and you're the collateral damage. Maybe it's you who underestimated. Karma is a bitch.

Lol you sound mad. If i got pregnant I have options. If I caught an std with a condom DW has one too. If she gets a divorce her life will be fantastic with said std and she's now a single mother. Good luck getting remarried! Especially in D.C. lol
Who cares if MM gets tired of me. It's not that deep. I don't know why you seem to think that it is. If it was then maybe I'd care if hw was fucking someone else. Like I said before let her show up, I'll be ready.

She won't get the STD because you said he doesn't touch her any more. Moron and troll.

But if he's sleeping with me and he's sleeping with a bunch of other women he's probably been doing this for years MORON.