Bullying at NCS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God, this school is riddled with problems! Just when I conclude it's just my DD's "bad class", I hear of yet another troublesome class. Just how many "bad classes" will it take for the top administration to step in? Or for prospective parents to get the picture and stop applying until the culture improves? What's apparent to me is that the kind of parents who have heard of its reputation (and who hasn't?) and apply in spite of it are too hyper competitive to care.

I've spoken to a lot of moms over the years, and not a single one says they would send their daughters again if they could do over.

Did you read 16:58? It looks like the school administration is being very pro-active.

[Anonymous]

If I could do it all over again I would send both my daughters back to NCS. Current parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God, this school is riddled with problems! Just when I conclude it's just my DD's "bad class", I hear of yet another troublesome class. Just how many "bad classes" will it take for the top administration to step in? Or for prospective parents to get the picture and stop applying until the culture improves? What's apparent to me is that the kind of parents who have heard of its reputation (and who hasn't?) and apply in spite of it are too hyper competitive to care.

I've spoken to a lot of moms over the years, and not a single one says they would send their daughters again if they could do over.

My DD is an alum who graduated a few years ago, she nor many of the girls from her class no longer have anything to do with NCS. I'm glad that dd's maintained friendships with a couple of the girls. If I had to do it all over again no way would I send her there and I don't recommend the school to anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I could do it all over again I would send both my daughters back to NCS. Current parent.

Have either hit 11th or 12th grade? I would have said the same until that point. The toxicity was brewing beforehand but I didn't recognize it until it surfaced. My sense from the discussions that I was a part of with the school, that they blame individual girls for their unhappiness and never accept that the culture of the school is to blame.

[Anonymous]

I have a current 7th grader who is quite happy at NCS. I am familiar with the situation as described and I think the 3 girls at different times were no longer welcomed in the poplular group because the girls in that group felt that those 3 girls were not being nice. Sort of ironic because that popular group often displays that queen bee exclusive behavior. I think the school and the counselor are being very proactive about dealing with this issue. There was a middle school chapel dedicated to it and the counseler has been having conversations about kindness. I also think that there has been an outpouring from other 7th grade girls to forgive and embrace the 3 girls realizing that everyone makes mistakes and they should be forgiven not shunned. That popular group is slowing becoming the not so popular group. I think this is par for the course in middle school and especially among girls (unfortunately)

Whoever you are are, you are not familiar with the situation at all. You are totally clueless. The three girls being bullied were never part of the "popular" group. Get your facts straight.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely delusional.

[Anonymous]

I wish to God I could be a fly on the wall of that middle school counselors office...
If anyone knows what goes on there if anything please share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish to God I could be a fly on the wall of that middle school counselors office...
If anyone knows what goes on there if anything please share.

That would be unethical to say the least. Let's hope you asked in jest. Folks, think about what you are posting online and the potential for hurt.

[Anonymous]

To 19:40. I am current parent and really wish that at least we as current parents could be kind to each other on this board. Clearly we are talking about different situations. I apologize for confusing your issue. Here's to hoping that we model kindness for our girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish to God I could be a fly on the wall of that middle school counselors office...
If anyone knows what goes on there if anything please share.

They try to correct the damage done at home.

[Anonymous]

Au contraire 7:24 the damage done at school. Is that not what all these posts are about. true to form it could NEVER be the school. Hmmmm...

[Anonymous]

Maybe 7:24 meant damage done at home from mean moms creating mean daughters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I have a current 7th grader who is quite happy at NCS. I am familiar with the situation as described and I think the 3 girls at different times were no longer welcomed in the poplular group because the girls in that group felt that those 3 girls were not being nice. Sort of ironic because that popular group often displays that queen bee exclusive behavior. I think the school and the counselor are being very proactive about dealing with this issue. There was a middle school chapel dedicated to it and the counseler has been having conversations about kindness. I also think that there has been an outpouring from other 7th grade girls to forgive and embrace the 3 girls realizing that everyone makes mistakes and they should be forgiven not shunned. That popular group is slowing becoming the not so popular group. I think this is par for the course in middle school and especially among girls (unfortunately)

Whoever you are are, you are not familiar with the situation at all. You are totally clueless. The three girls being bullied were never part of the "popular" group. Get your facts straight.

Oh, well, in that case, it must be okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe 7:24 meant damage done at home from mean moms creating mean daughters.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Au contraire 7:24 the damage done at school. Is that not what all these posts are about. true to form it could NEVER be the school. Hmmmm...

You seriously don't think the entitled selfish behavior is learned by most at home?