Husband received hickey from stripper

[Anonymous]

OP, I have some ocean front property in Arizona I'm looking to unload, if you're interested.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe how so many people are so sure of what actually happened that night.

9 years ago "a friend" Andy bought me a lap dance (no hickie though) & later I did blackout from 1 too many.

I didn't cheat but I didn't call home either which had my girlfriend going crazy. She had no idea where I was or if I was ok. Finally she got in touch with Andy, who told her I blacked out and was asleep on the sofa of some random chick he met.

I'm guessing since you called the hospitals you've known him to blackout before? But if he's never shown signs of cheating I wouldn't push the issue. If he wants to stop drinking encourage him. ( Don't push AA unless he gets another bad blackout)

The girlfriend in this story is now my wife of 8 years, I haven't talked to Andy in 7 years (wife very happy about that) and I haven't had been drinking for 6 years.

Honestly though, get rid of the friend. After that night I really saw how you have to choose your friends carefully.

Ps
If you want to judge me fine, but I would say if giving the benefit of the doubt, saves more relationships then jumping to conclusions would. If you want him to get tested and he'll go for it; do that too if it will bring you two close again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are going to strippers, you will cheat. It's like going to a bar not to drink.

I suppose by this logic then:

If you take a walk in central parkyou will be robbed and rapped too??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are going to strippers, you will cheat. It's like going to a bar not to drink.

I suppose by this logic then:

If you take a walk in central parkyou will be robbed and rapped too??

Cheating and drinking require an active choice on the part of the person going to the location. Being raped doesn't. But you know that, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how so many people are so sure of what actually happened that night.

9 years ago "a friend" Andy bought me a lap dance (no hickie though) & later I did blackout from 1 too many.

I didn't cheat but I didn't call home either which had my girlfriend going crazy. She had no idea where I was or if I was ok. Finally she got in touch with Andy, who told her I blacked out and was asleep on the sofa of some random chick he met.

I'm guessing since you called the hospitals you've known him to blackout before? But if he's never shown signs of cheating I wouldn't push the issue. If he wants to stop drinking encourage him. ( Don't push AA unless he gets another bad blackout)

The girlfriend in this story is now my wife of 8 years, I haven't talked to Andy in 7 years (wife very happy about that) and I haven't had been drinking for 6 years.

Honestly though, get rid of the friend. After that night I really saw how you have to choose your friends carefully.

Ps
If you want to judge me fine, but I would say if giving the benefit of the doubt, saves more relationships then jumping to conclusions would. If you want him to get tested and he'll go for it; do that too if it will bring you two close again.

Your wife is definitely a keeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how so many people are so sure of what actually happened that night.

OP' DH (D standing for dirtbag, deceitful, DamnedLuckySheNaivelyBelievesHim, take your pick) ended up with a hickey. You didn't. You got a lap dance and no hickeys because STRIPPERS DON'T GIVE CUSTOMERS HICKEYS.

There's the difference between your drunken lap dance and whatever (or whoever) the OP's husband got into.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how so many people are so sure of what actually happened that night.

9 years ago "a friend" Andy bought me a lap dance (no hickie though) & later I did blackout from 1 too many.

I didn't cheat but I didn't call home either which had my girlfriend going crazy. She had no idea where I was or if I was ok. Finally she got in touch with Andy, who told her I blacked out and was asleep on the sofa of some random chick he met.

I'm guessing since you called the hospitals you've known him to blackout before? But if he's never shown signs of cheating I wouldn't push the issue. If he wants to stop drinking encourage him. ( Don't push AA unless he gets another bad blackout)

The girlfriend in this story is now my wife of 8 years, I haven't talked to Andy in 7 years (wife very happy about that) and I haven't had been drinking for 6 years.

Honestly though, get rid of the friend. After that night I really saw how you have to choose your friends carefully.

Ps
If you want to judge me fine, but I would say if giving the benefit of the doubt, saves more relationships then jumping to conclusions would. If you want him to get tested and he'll go for it; do that too if it will bring you two close again.

Your story is not relevant to OP:

A) You didn't do this while married.

B) You didn't get a hickey "from a stripper", while married!

You simply got blackout drunk and didn't call your girlfriend. Tons of men have done that in the past. It's not the same thing as what OP's husband did.

[Anonymous]

STRIPPERS DON'T GIVE CUSTOMERS HICKEYS

+100

[Anonymous]

Op is a troll. Where is she??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op is a troll. Where is she??

I doubt she's a troll. People are too hard on her. Everyone wants to believe their spouse. She is/was probably in denial. In any event, no use returning here. She's probably trying to figure out what to do next.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your husband fell on the stripper with his neck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your husband fell on the stripper with his neck

+1

[Anonymous]

OP this is PP from page 1 who started the whole strippers dont give hickey talk.

you in denial like shit. the only benefit of the doubt i would give your husband is that he didnt mean to make out with a random woman and get a hickey. after that, you have no business believing this story.

again stripper dont give hickeys. they barely kiss a guy so what the fuck would make them give somebody a hickey?

you may think to yourself that if a stripper is willing to give head, give a hand job or even have sex with patron for the right price, that they can give something as "innocent" as a hickey but the answer is no.

so stop making excuses for your husband and seek the truth. again, this could all have been a mistake and im not going to suggest one bit that he got the hickey on purpose. he definitely though did not get it from a stripper at a club though.

[Anonymous]

strippers give a lot more then hicky's it only involves a promise of cash/drugs/booze and a motel6

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:strippers give a lot more then hicky's it only involves a promise of cash/drugs/booze and a motel6

just to add, those that are desperate enough to drop their pants for a few dollars have no issues dropping their pants and doing it for a few more.