Husband received hickey from stripper

[Anonymous]

Is your husband named Bob?

[Anonymous]

Also take a picture. It's is demonstrative of opportunity and propensity for adultry.

[Anonymous]

Oh! What if it was the friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Herpes 1 and 2 for you

That's mean. This could be a real post.
Hon, don't forget to check yourself for HPV too

[Anonymous]

OP, strippers aren't there to please men, they are there to make money. Strippers just don't give out hickies or make out, that is what prostitutes do, or affair partners. There are also rules, dudes aren't allowed to touch etc.

He is probably having an affair. It sucks, it doesn't have to be a deal breaker to the marriage, but you can't get past it unless you call him on it. He needs to admit it, and you should probably get counseling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Let's move beyond whether he had an affair or not. I do not believe he did anything more than make out with a random stripper. He's never shown any signs of cheating before so I do think this is a one time thing. It's an incredibly stupid thong and I am not dimishing that. It's still cheating. He admits that there was making out involved with the stripper and he and his friends were buying her drinks. I do believe that he blacked out as he does do this when he drinks a lot. Another indication that he needs to stop drinking.

Now I wonder what to do next. I will give him the benefit of the doubt when he says he wants to be a better man and husband and doesn't want this to happen again. He is a good guy but he did an incredibly stupid thing and I just need to figure out how to move beyond it. How not to look at him and imagine him making out with another woman. How to look at happy families and feel resentment at my husband because i have to fake being happy and trusting with him out in public because of his complete stupidity.

Wake Up!!!!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HugWl-2TA0E&feature=youtube_gdata_player

[Anonymous]

This is what I think happened.

I think your husband went out, got drunk, and had sex with another woman. He stayed at her place, not his friend's. He's a liar and a cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Let's move beyond whether he had an affair or not. I do not believe he did anything more than make out with a random stripper. He's never shown any signs of cheating before so I do think this is a one time thing. It's an incredibly stupid thong and I am not dimishing that. It's still cheating. He admits that there was making out involved with the stripper and he and his friends were buying her drinks. I do believe that he blacked out as he does do this when he drinks a lot. Another indication that he needs to stop drinking.

Now I wonder what to do next. I will give him the benefit of the doubt when he says he wants to be a better man and husband and doesn't want this to happen again. He is a good guy but he did an incredibly stupid thing and I just need to figure out how to move beyond it. How not to look at him and imagine him making out with another woman. How to look at happy families and feel resentment at my husband because i have to fake being happy and trusting with him out in public because of his complete stupidity.

Wake Up!!!!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HugWl-2TA0E&feature=youtube_gdata_player

This is unfair to the OP. you fon't know either the OP or the OP's husband. Yes, sounds like husband is a class A idiot but it could very well have been a one time thing.

There's so much bitterness on this blog and do many stones thrown.

Op, I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope you seek counseling if you decide to work through it.

[Anonymous]

His future actions should dictate how you react. If he was my DH and kept drinking to the point of blacking out and getting hickies from strange women, I would kick his ass out or pack up my stuff and leave. If however he did learn his lesson and stopped his childish behavior, I would forgive and forget.

[Anonymous]

Now I wonder what to do next. I will give him the benefit of the doubt when he says he wants to be a better man and husband and doesn't want this to happen again. He is a good guy but he did an incredibly stupid thing and I just need to figure out how to move beyond it. How not to look at him and imagine him making out with another woman. How to look at happy families and feel resentment at my husband because i have to fake being happy and trusting with him out in public because of his complete stupidity.

Seriously, even if your husband is telling the truth, he needs to stop drinking immediately. If, in fact, he got super drunk and made out with a random stripper, that's ridiculous behavior and completely inappropriate for a grown man. He needs to either step up and show you that he's definitely going to change right now.

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with PPs - strippers don't give hickeys. He was with someone that night. That being said, it may be true that he blacked out and this whole incident occurred because he was very drunk.

[Anonymous]

He is cheating cheating cheating
Will you stay or will you go?

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with PPs - strippers don't give hickeys. He was with someone that night. That being said, it may be true that he blacked out and this whole incident occurred because he was very drunk.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for the double post!

[Anonymous]

Op, he is an alcoholic. They are expert liars. He needs to stop drinking and you need to go to couples counseling to figure this out. I am sorry you are going through this. You need to get him tested and you too just in case he is lying about the extent of what happened.