How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

Do you have a book out Rico? Or at least a website with a lot of flashing testimonials, teasers, and autoresponders aimed at selling a very exclusive (and expensive) e-book? Because you should man if you don't.

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Anonymous wrote:DOMW here. So 11:54, do you think Rico Suave actually knows what he's talking about? It sounds like he's reading out of a manual, but if not, he should write one, no?

Rico, the situation is more bizarre than you realize, but I do appreciate your philosophizing. You are a Gangster or Love. I'm not worthy.

But continue.

Well, he doesn't know your specific situation but yes, he is very good. I like to think it wouldn't work on me but who knows.

It might not work on you. There are a few people who cannot ever be physically seduced for religious or other reasons. At the other end of the spectrum are those who can be "seduced" by almost anyone, nymphos and sex addicts. Most people cannot be seduced at any time by anyone but can be seduced by the right person at the right time. The window of opportunity is there but does not remain open indefinitely.

Oh no! That is not what I meant. I can be seduced but he has to come across as halfway human. Also, I think I actually prefer to do the seducing.

Heavens? All this time I thought I had done the seducing, and now I learn. . .

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Anonymous wrote:DOMW here. So 11:54, do you think Rico Suave actually knows what he's talking about? It sounds like he's reading out of a manual, but if not, he should write one, no?

Rico, the situation is more bizarre than you realize, but I do appreciate your philosophizing. You are a Gangster or Love. I'm not worthy.

But continue.

Well, he doesn't know your specific situation but yes, he is very good. I like to think it wouldn't work on me but who knows.

It might not work on you. There are a few people who cannot ever be physically seduced for religious or other reasons. At the other end of the spectrum are those who can be "seduced" by almost anyone, nymphos and sex addicts. Most people cannot be seduced at any time by anyone but can be seduced by the right person at the right time. The window of opportunity is there but does not remain open indefinitely.

Oh no! That is not what I meant. I can be seduced but he has to come across as halfway human. Also, I think I actually prefer to do the seducing.

Heavens? All this time I thought I had done the seducing, and now I learn. . .

You didn't think that really? If that is the case, you need to work on your game.

[Anonymous]

Hence the absolute necessity for a seducer to master the art of the indirect compliment. Most 8s in a professional environment would find a remark about their physical appearance off-putting and uncomfortable in the beginning. "You look great in that dress" makes them think "Danger - DOMW alert!" But a comment like "Oh. Is the gem in your bracelet a tiger's eye? I've never seen one with such a defined pattern" tells the target that you see her individuality, style, sentimental or quirky interests, etc. A woman who likes to do the seducing must be given opportunities to initiate, i.e. "Diane, I know that IPR is your specialty. Could you take a look at this?"

Have you ever watched a lesbian try to pick up a straight woman? The conversation doesn't begin with "I'd love to feel your wetness on my fingers." It is far more subtle and skillful.

[Anonymous]

No, I am joshing. We do that with each other (or used to).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hence the absolute necessity for a seducer to master the art of the indirect compliment. Most 8s in a professional environment would find a remark about their physical appearance off-putting and uncomfortable in the beginning. "You look great in that dress" makes them think "Danger - DOMW alert!" But a comment like "Oh. Is the gem in your bracelet a tiger's eye? I've never seen one with such a defined pattern" tells the target that you see her individuality, style, sentimental or quirky interests, etc. A woman who likes to do the seducing must be given opportunities to initiate, i.e. "Diane, I know that IPR is your specialty. Could you take a look at this?"

Have you ever watched a lesbian try to pick up a straight woman? The conversation doesn't begin with "I'd love to feel your wetness on my fingers." It is far more subtle and skillful.

Where can I find a place to observe such cross border seductions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hence the absolute necessity for a seducer to master the art of the indirect compliment. Most 8s in a professional environment would find a remark about their physical appearance off-putting and uncomfortable in the beginning. "You look great in that dress" makes them think "Danger - DOMW alert!" But a comment like "Oh. Is the gem in your bracelet a tiger's eye? I've never seen one with such a defined pattern" tells the target that you see her individuality, style, sentimental or quirky interests, etc. A woman who likes to do the seducing must be given opportunities to initiate, i.e. "Diane, I know that IPR is your specialty. Could you take a look at this?"

Have you ever watched a lesbian try to pick up a straight woman? The conversation doesn't begin with "I'd love to feel your wetness on my fingers." It is far more subtle and skillful.

OMG, now you are totally creeping me out. You are such a sociopath!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I am joshing. We do that with each other (or used to).

We can still do that. Just not the other thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on who. Different women want different things. Did you see the movie Notes on a Scandal and wonder how a pretty upper-class woman with a loving family could end up giving a 16-yo blowjobs in the classroom? The character Cate Blanchett portrayed felt invisible. She missed being admired by someone under the age of fifty. She wanted to be f'd by someone who really wanted to f her. The boy could see that so he told her what he knew she wanted to hear. Many women want to hear that they are irresistibly bewitching but not all. Find out what your prospective fling wants to hear by listening to her jokes.

This is interesting to me. I would never broadcast what I want to hear in a joke. It feels like fishy for a compliment and little too needy. In fairness, I likely did this when I was much younger.

I fear you have misunderstood me. Analyzing jokes is an important component of an overall personality assessment. People often reveal their niggling insecurities and big concerns in jokes without even being aware that they are doing so. For example, a middle-aged woman deflecting a compliment with a self-deprecating joke indicates her unconscious desire to be reassured that she is still attractive. The would-be seducer should find a woman's vanity point, another key to her personality. Does she change her jewelry often? Keep nicely manicured nails? Wear long blond curls although she's in her sixties? Have plenty of plants in her office or ethnic pottery or literary journals? Does she talk about the trips she's taken or planning? Her participation in a sport or activity?

You as the seducer must tap into her self-image. Does she pride herself on being clever, adventurous, nurturing, high-maintenance, intellectual or tough? If her spouse is not doing his job of reinforcing her self-image in a way that fulfills her then you have a prime opportunity. An innocent conversation about what she and her family did this weekend should somehow lead to "How did you meet your husband?" The look on her face -- be it annoyed, neutral, brusque, dreamy, nostalgic, regretful or simply joyful -- when she answers will speak volumes about the state of their relationship and your chances of winning her over.

who the fuck hits on a woman in her 60's

[Anonymous]

Dude in his 80's?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on who. Different women want different things. Did you see the movie Notes on a Scandal and wonder how a pretty upper-class woman with a loving family could end up giving a 16-yo blowjobs in the classroom? The character Cate Blanchett portrayed felt invisible. She missed being admired by someone under the age of fifty. She wanted to be f'd by someone who really wanted to f her. The boy could see that so he told her what he knew she wanted to hear. Many women want to hear that they are irresistibly bewitching but not all. Find out what your prospective fling wants to hear by listening to her jokes.

This is interesting to me. I would never broadcast what I want to hear in a joke. It feels like fishy for a compliment and little too needy. In fairness, I likely did this when I was much younger.

I fear you have misunderstood me. Analyzing jokes is an important component of an overall personality assessment. People often reveal their niggling insecurities and big concerns in jokes without even being aware that they are doing so. For example, a middle-aged woman deflecting a compliment with a self-deprecating joke indicates her unconscious desire to be reassured that she is still attractive. The would-be seducer should find a woman's vanity point, another key to her personality. Does she change her jewelry often? Keep nicely manicured nails? Wear long blond curls although she's in her sixties? Have plenty of plants in her office or ethnic pottery or literary journals? Does she talk about the trips she's taken or planning? Her participation in a sport or activity?

You as the seducer must tap into her self-image. Does she pride herself on being clever, adventurous, nurturing, high-maintenance, intellectual or tough? If her spouse is not doing his job of reinforcing her self-image in a way that fulfills her then you have a prime opportunity. An innocent conversation about what she and her family did this weekend should somehow lead to "How did you meet your husband?" The look on her face -- be it annoyed, neutral, brusque, dreamy, nostalgic, regretful or simply joyful -- when she answers will speak volumes about the state of their relationship and your chances of winning her over.

who the fuck hits on a woman in her 60's

A sociopath. They'll fuck anything.

[Anonymous]

Rico Suave sure knows the vulnerability of women.

I recently met a man (not at my workplace but his; I was a client) who basically did everything but the lunch and champagne that Rico mentioned. Given his line of work, at first I thought he was like that to all the women he sees on a daily basis until it became obvious by me and staff members he works with that I was getting extra attention. I must say I liked the thrill of the chase. He eventually got me to the point I would have been willing to have sex with him but he never initiated closing the deal. I think he was a man whore tease who didn't actually want to have the affair, just know that he could.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is amazing. I know we're all supposed to be shocked and horrified but honestly, I have more respect for the people on this thread who cheat, whether married or affair partner, than the boring whining martyrs stuck in sexless marriages on the other threads. Or the women whose husbands don't lift a finger around the house or with the kids.

Life is too short. Enjoy it!

Yeah I'm sure my ex-husband is really enjoying his life now that he's a single dad, broke from the divorce and paying child support and for his own apartment, missing out on half his kid's lives and doesn't even have his affair girlfriend since they (shocker!) fizzled out shortly after he moved out on his family. His life seems really enjoyable!

Bitter much?

Yeah actually, I am. Even more so after he started begging me to come back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hence the absolute necessity for a seducer to master the art of the indirect compliment. Most 8s in a professional environment would find a remark about their physical appearance off-putting and uncomfortable in the beginning. "You look great in that dress" makes them think "Danger - DOMW alert!" But a comment like "Oh. Is the gem in your bracelet a tiger's eye? I've never seen one with such a defined pattern" tells the target that you see her individuality, style, sentimental or quirky interests, etc.

Rico, if you are the work colleague who complimented me on my opal necklace last week at HH, you have been totally outed! Your method was pretty transparent anyway. And you can't hold your liquor - or maybe that's just another one of your ruses.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I've got to call creepy on that complimenting me on a piece of jewelry or something so detailed. A male coworker shouldn't be looking at me so closely and I would feel instantly uncomfortable if one did. That seems totally transparent as an "I'm feeling you out."