Ex won’t make food our daughter will eat

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

Ok, but this girlis American, so you bet she wants American food every night.

Fish isnt American food?
It’s not reasonable to say you don’t like ANY fish or you don’t like ANY vegetables. Members of my family have certain things they don’t like (mushrooms, coconut milk, sharp cheese) that are avoidable but not a whole food group that is verboten.

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document the abuse, call cps and neogtiate custody and have him pay you to cover more care and food.

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Anonymous wrote:document the abuse, call cps and neogtiate custody and have him pay you to cover more care and food.

HAHAHAHAHAAHAHHAAHAHAHAHHA

So much abuse!!!! A healthy meal every night. However will the princess survive?

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is not her cooking skills. The issue is that her dad is a d@ck.
Most of us with teens, especially teen athletes, make arrangements to cook for their needs, not for our middle aged needs. So for instance I’ll make a pasta dish with meat and veg and the teens get more meat and pasta and I’ll get more veg. But I’m not going to put a plate of roasted veg and fish in front of teen athletes and pretend that’s a complete meal for them. And some people just don’t like fish. It’s rude, bordering on emotionally abusive, to repeatedly cook fish for a teen that you know hates fish. Yes, she can make a sandwich but what does it say about him and his feelings for her that this is his approach? She’s a very busy teen athlete who probably doesn’t get enough sleep and probably doesn’t have enough time to do her homework and whose parents just got a divorce and she’s probably a little upset about that, and this is what the dad does to make her life easier?
I am team mom here because dad is going out of his way to be a d@ck or is so self-centered that he can’t even see that maybe he should be thinking more about how to make her life a little easier at this stressful moment in her life.

Right, but you know he's a d@ck, and that's not going to change. Fine to vent here about it, but venting to or with your daughter teaches her to fixate on things she can't change. Instead, empower her to take control of the situation and cook for herself.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

I'm American, and my parents raised me the same way. If you don't want the salmon and vegetables that we prepared, then you can go to bed hungry. Not all Americans let their kids live off mac and cheese and beef sliders.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know what’s so odd and weird about making your minor child meals everyday. I make my 17 year old a hot breakfast lunch, and dinner every single day. That’s my job as a parent.

NP. I guess in my household we don't think hot breakfasts daily are healthy. Eggs are, but pancakes, waffles, toast isn't that healthy. Not sure why you're the better parent for a "hot" breakfast?

A healthier breakfast would be yogurt, fruit, meats and cheeses. One of my kids like a hardboiled egg daily.

Cold cuts and cheeses are not healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

I'm American, and my parents raised me the same way. If you don't want the salmon and vegetables that we prepared, then you can go to bed hungry. Not all Americans let their kids live off mac and cheese and beef sliders.

It’s a pretty big leap from not making a kid eat fish to letting them live off sliders. I posted above, my kid doesn’t like salmon after trying it multiple times. So I make him chicken along with the salmon I make for myself. It’s really not that hard.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

Ok, but this girlis American, so you bet she wants American food every night.

Fish isnt American food?
It’s not reasonable to say you don’t like ANY fish or you don’t like ANY vegetables. Members of my family have certain things they don’t like (mushrooms, coconut milk, sharp cheese) that are avoidable but not a whole food group that is verboten.

If you go to the grocery store, you won't see many Americans getting fish.

If you go to an ethnic store, like HMart, you will see all different kinds of people buying fish, but not white people.

I *love* fish, but I'm Asian American. I grew up in CA, and we ate fish a lot (when it was cheaper; so expensive now). That's all I ate when we were in Iceland (they mostly seem to have lamb or fish).

Americans seem to eat salmon, but not much else unless it's fried or in tacos.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

I'm American, and my parents raised me the same way. If you don't want the salmon and vegetables that we prepared, then you can go to bed hungry. Not all Americans let their kids live off mac and cheese and beef sliders.

It’s a pretty big leap from not making a kid eat fish to letting them live off sliders. I posted above, my kid doesn’t like salmon after trying it multiple times. So I make him chicken along with the salmon I make for myself. It’s really not that hard.

I don't think it's helpful to cater to your child's taste buds. We don't always make something for dinner that everyone likes. Sometimes, I don't like something, but I'll eat it because that's what's for dinner. Same for DH, same for my kids.

And OP's DD is 16, not 6. She should eat the salmon and veggies.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

Ok, but this girlis American, so you bet she wants American food every night.

Fish isnt American food?
It’s not reasonable to say you don’t like ANY fish or you don’t like ANY vegetables. Members of my family have certain things they don’t like (mushrooms, coconut milk, sharp cheese) that are avoidable but not a whole food group that is verboten.

If you go to the grocery store, you won't see many Americans getting fish.

If you go to an ethnic store, like HMart, you will see all different kinds of people buying fish, but not white people.

I *love* fish, but I'm Asian American. I grew up in CA, and we ate fish a lot (when it was cheaper; so expensive now). That's all I ate when we were in Iceland (they mostly seem to have lamb or fish).

Americans seem to eat salmon, but not much else unless it's fried or in tacos.

I'm a white American and this isn't remotely true. We eat tons of fish.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

I'm American, and my parents raised me the same way. If you don't want the salmon and vegetables that we prepared, then you can go to bed hungry. Not all Americans let their kids live off mac and cheese and beef sliders.

Agreed. White bread American here. You eat dinner or there's nothing else coming. I do have an "unlimited" shelf in my fridge that kids can help themselves to, but OP's DD wouldn't be a fan. It's in season vegetables cut up, plus carrots. There's always a bowl with apples, oranges and bananas out too. Or they're welcome to have more servings of dinner.

And yes, fish is totally normal. We eat fish twice a week. Smoked salmon is my kids #1 requested meal. While we like and enjoy pasta or French fries, they aren't made often because they're just not that healthy. And yes, my DH is an athlete and needs to eat a lot of calories. You don't have to get all the calories from carbs.

My dad (autistic) has extreme food aversions that he had since childhood. He's been working with an occupational therapist and the results have been incredible. From what I've seen, it involved trying small portions of food and creating better associations. He's gone from gagging to now eating normal food like pasta, sour cream and sushi (and this is at 65! Never too old I guess). It makes me think that picky eating can be worked on by ensuring small exposures to kids and making food a positive thing. I feel like too many parents try fish once with their kids and "my kid hates fish."

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

Ok, but this girlis American, so you bet she wants American food every night.

Fish isnt American food?
It’s not reasonable to say you don’t like ANY fish or you don’t like ANY vegetables. Members of my family have certain things they don’t like (mushrooms, coconut milk, sharp cheese) that are avoidable but not a whole food group that is verboten.

If you go to the grocery store, you won't see many Americans getting fish.

If you go to an ethnic store, like HMart, you will see all different kinds of people buying fish, but not white people.

I *love* fish, but I'm Asian American. I grew up in CA, and we ate fish a lot (when it was cheaper; so expensive now). That's all I ate when we were in Iceland (they mostly seem to have lamb or fish).

Americans seem to eat salmon, but not much else unless it's fried or in tacos.

This is regional and it's going to depend on where you're from. I'm from Miami and ate lots of seafood. People who are from inland states will eat less fish.

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is not her cooking skills. The issue is that her dad is a d@ck.
Most of us with teens, especially teen athletes, make arrangements to cook for their needs, not for our middle aged needs. So for instance I’ll make a pasta dish with meat and veg and the teens get more meat and pasta and I’ll get more veg. But I’m not going to put a plate of roasted veg and fish in front of teen athletes and pretend that’s a complete meal for them. And some people just don’t like fish. It’s rude, bordering on emotionally abusive, to repeatedly cook fish for a teen that you know hates fish. Yes, she can make a sandwich but what does it say about him and his feelings for her that this is his approach? She’s a very busy teen athlete who probably doesn’t get enough sleep and probably doesn’t have enough time to do her homework and whose parents just got a divorce and she’s probably a little upset about that, and this is what the dad does to make her life easier?
I am team mom here because dad is going out of his way to be a d@ck or is so self-centered that he can’t even see that maybe he should be thinking more about how to make her life a little easier at this stressful moment in her life.

Just stop. Mom is wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.

Well after reading this I’m team dad.
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.

You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.

Ok, but this girlis American, so you bet she wants American food every night.

Fish isnt American food?
It’s not reasonable to say you don’t like ANY fish or you don’t like ANY vegetables. Members of my family have certain things they don’t like (mushrooms, coconut milk, sharp cheese) that are avoidable but not a whole food group that is verboten.

If you go to the grocery store, you won't see many Americans getting fish.

If you go to an ethnic store, like HMart, you will see all different kinds of people buying fish, but not white people.

I *love* fish, but I'm Asian American. I grew up in CA, and we ate fish a lot (when it was cheaper; so expensive now). That's all I ate when we were in Iceland (they mostly seem to have lamb or fish).

Americans seem to eat salmon, but not much else unless it's fried or in tacos.

Fish is $$$$

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Anonymous wrote:document the abuse, call cps and neogtiate custody and have him pay you to cover more care and food.

There's no abuse. CPS will laugh and hang up.