What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.

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Anonymous wrote:This is actually hilarious. I don’t know a single person who owns a gun (and I’m a republican). I also don’t know a single person who owns a pitbull. And I would say the vast majority of people I know don’t do sleepovers.

I love how people hate when Americans stereotype non-americans and they just do the same exact thing.

And for the first time I am hearing that non-American teenagers tell their parents everything and never lie 🙂.

Sir, there are more guns in America than people, I guarantee you know someone who owns one.

People just don't have guns. They have arsenals. AK-47 and grenades. They are prepping for a different kind of hunting, IYKWIM.

This is ridiculous. I can only think you are so openly against anyone owning a gun that people are scared to mention it around you.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

How will you control this when your kid is in college?

DP. I think socialization, family dynamics and home culture also plays a part in how and when children become sexually active. Most gen-z are moving away from hook-up culture and I think this is also due to the culture and worldview that immigrants are bringing to the table. Hooking up as seen as trashy and poor people's behavior. Especially in the affluent and educated circles.

Not in the rich South/ Texas or the poor South/ Texas. It’s all about hooking in the guy fast.

Now I agree it’s trashy as a teen and lots to lose, but somehow everyone’s rich Moms are setting them up with other rich mom kids. It’s truly bizarre.

Of course they never really leave home or most certainly return fully hooked up after their SEC sorority/frat college life.

i don't think you know what hooking up means!

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Anonymous wrote:I have to start by addressing the pitbulls. Mine is currently laying on me and snoring as my laptop uses him as a desk. Only pitbulls bred to be aggressive will be aggressive; most pitbulls are big cuddle buddies! Mine's incredibly chill and the reason we adopted him from a shelter is because I've met so many loving pitbulls in the past.

Regarding not dating in high school: I didn't have a rule set by my parents but was raised with good morals. I chose not to be intimate until I met the man I eventually married. I'm not a conservative and I didn't grow up going to church. I also choose not to drink alcohol. It's possible to raise a child to have an innate sense of propriety and right vs wrong without laying down the law on them; my parents actually had very few rules and trusted me to do the right thing. I therefore had nothing to rebel against.

I don’t think good morals have anything to do with when a person chooses to have sex. Seems that our sex-negative culture wormed its way into your psyche.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to start by addressing the pitbulls. Mine is currently laying on me and snoring as my laptop uses him as a desk. Only pitbulls bred to be aggressive will be aggressive; most pitbulls are big cuddle buddies! Mine's incredibly chill and the reason we adopted him from a shelter is because I've met so many loving pitbulls in the past.

Regarding not dating in high school: I didn't have a rule set by my parents but was raised with good morals. I chose not to be intimate until I met the man I eventually married. I'm not a conservative and I didn't grow up going to church. I also choose not to drink alcohol. It's possible to raise a child to have an innate sense of propriety and right vs wrong without laying down the law on them; my parents actually had very few rules and trusted me to do the right thing. I therefore had nothing to rebel against.

I don’t think good morals have anything to do with when a person chooses to have sex. Seems that our sex-negative culture wormed its way into your psyche.

Exactly. I’m not sure why sex is still being seen as a reflection of one’s morality. I thought we were beyond this? I teach my kids to make good choices, to be always be safe, to make sure they have consent etc…do I hope they wait and have sex with someone they truly love? of course. But I also know that teenagers and young adults find ways to do what they want and i’d rather my children have facts and resources.

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We don't let our teens stay out late. They complain that we pick them up at 10pm unless it's a special occasion. No having their own car as teens.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to start by addressing the pitbulls. Mine is currently laying on me and snoring as my laptop uses him as a desk. Only pitbulls bred to be aggressive will be aggressive; most pitbulls are big cuddle buddies! Mine's incredibly chill and the reason we adopted him from a shelter is because I've met so many loving pitbulls in the past.

Regarding not dating in high school: I didn't have a rule set by my parents but was raised with good morals. I chose not to be intimate until I met the man I eventually married. I'm not a conservative and I didn't grow up going to church. I also choose not to drink alcohol. It's possible to raise a child to have an innate sense of propriety and right vs wrong without laying down the law on them; my parents actually had very few rules and trusted me to do the right thing. I therefore had nothing to rebel against.

I don’t think good morals have anything to do with when a person chooses to have sex. Seems that our sex-negative culture wormed its way into your psyche.

Exactly. I’m not sure why sex is still being seen as a reflection of one’s morality. I thought we were beyond this? I teach my kids to make good choices, to be always be safe, to make sure they have consent etc…do I hope they wait and have sex with someone they truly love? of course. But I also know that teenagers and young adults find ways to do what they want and i’d rather my children have facts and resources.

The choice to not engage in sexual intercourse, or not imbibe alcohol, is also linked to lower risk taking behavior. Which can largely be biological/genetic. (Some kids are still big risk takers but choose to do it in different ways like thrill sports.) Agree it's less about morals and more about kids being true to themselves and making choices that are right for them and what feels comfortable to their own body.

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I have my own life and don’t live through my kids. I’m not interested in talking about kid sports or micromanaging their social lives.

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Gun culture is not my culture so we don't do any of that. Also church and religion is not part of my beliefs so I don't force my children to partake in any of that besides history/education.

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Just leaving this here.

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Just leaving this here.

Why did you leave a wedding announcement?

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Wedding registry. In my culture, you don't ask for gifts. People give what they want to give or cash. So, pretty much we did that for our DD wedding. Some people did not give gifts, or donated to charities in the name of the couple, and most gave cash.

It was all good. Wedding is not a gift grab. It is a celebration and a witness of a marriage.

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Taking hallmark holidays like Mother's Day and Father's Day seriously.

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Disrespecting teachers or being disruptive and rude in the classroom. I will not allow my kids to do this.

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Using RoundUp in the yard.
Using glade or other perfumed stuff in the home.

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Anonymous wrote:Wedding registry. In my culture, you don't ask for gifts. People give what they want to give or cash. So, pretty much we did that for our DD wedding. Some people did not give gifts, or donated to charities in the name of the couple, and most gave cash.

It was all good. Wedding is not a gift grab. It is a celebration and a witness of a marriage.

How did you know some people didn't give gifts?