Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

[Anonymous]

They look so old because they don't take care of themselves as we do. I don't want to say how much I spend per year between laser treatments, skin care, hair coloring and cuts, pilates, gym, teeth, clothes, supplements, and clean food. I mean, it's kind of nuts. Of course, men my age will look much older than I do. I p

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They look so old because they don't take care of themselves as we do. I don't want to say how much I spend per year between laser treatments, skin care, hair coloring and cuts, pilates, gym, teeth, clothes, supplements, and clean food. I mean, it's kind of nuts. Of course, men my age will look much older than I do. I p

This is hyper delusional. No one is mis judging your age. Women may tell you that you look younger to flatter you and be a good friend. Men will flatter you for engagement and potential conquest. NO ONE IS ACTUALLY MIS-JUDGING YOUR AGE. I'm in my late 50s, have told dozens of female friends over the years how "young" they look but it has never once been true. I have never yet found out someone's true age afterward and been surprised.

Yes, some people are more well maintained than others. That is not the same as looking a different age. If I have a 50-year-old Ferrari in mint condition, I still do not think it is a brand new Ferrari. No one would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

This is heresy on DCUM where every woman looks at least ten years younger than her age, but I guarantee that you look older than you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

This is heresy on DCUM where every woman looks at least ten years younger than her age, but I guarantee that you look older than you think.

I guarantee you if I post several photos of good looking women in their 30-40s you wouldn’t tell with any level of precision who is 39 and who is 49

[Anonymous]

DCUM is kind of like Lake Wobegon. All the women are strong, good looking, and above average.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

Hi Alex! I’ll take “things that never happened for $100, please.”

If you were as hot as you claim, hot men would find you. And you would not be "starting to date again" (i.e., dumped) after a 24-year relationship.

Dial back the (very unlikely) "fit and full of energy" without "wrinkles, saggy skin, or gray hair" bit and find a lane you can swim in.

All relationships have expiration date. Doesn’t need to be necessarily dumped. Divorced women typically look better than men of same age group.

What is your source for that information?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They look so old because they don't take care of themselves as we do. I don't want to say how much I spend per year between laser treatments, skin care, hair coloring and cuts, pilates, gym, teeth, clothes, supplements, and clean food. I mean, it's kind of nuts. Of course, men my age will look much older than I do. I p

This is hyper delusional. No one is mis judging your age. Women may tell you that you look younger to flatter you and be a good friend. Men will flatter you for engagement and potential conquest. NO ONE IS ACTUALLY MIS-JUDGING YOUR AGE. I'm in my late 50s, have told dozens of female friends over the years how "young" they look but it has never once been true. I have never yet found out someone's true age afterward and been surprised.

Yes, some people are more well maintained than others. That is not the same as looking a different age. If I have a 50-year-old Ferrari in mint condition, I still do not think it is a brand new Ferrari. No one would.

Wow, easily triggered there. I'm not saying I look younger than men my age, I'm just saying men my age look so much older than my friends and me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They look so old because they don't take care of themselves as we do. I don't want to say how much I spend per year between laser treatments, skin care, hair coloring and cuts, pilates, gym, teeth, clothes, supplements, and clean food. I mean, it's kind of nuts. Of course, men my age will look much older than I do. I p

This is hyper delusional. No one is mis judging your age. Women may tell you that you look younger to flatter you and be a good friend. Men will flatter you for engagement and potential conquest. NO ONE IS ACTUALLY MIS-JUDGING YOUR AGE. I'm in my late 50s, have told dozens of female friends over the years how "young" they look but it has never once been true. I have never yet found out someone's true age afterward and been surprised.

Yes, some people are more well maintained than others. That is not the same as looking a different age. If I have a 50-year-old Ferrari in mint condition, I still do not think it is a brand new Ferrari. No one would.

Wow, easily triggered there. I'm not saying I look younger than men my age, I'm just saying men my age look so much older than my friends and me.

Oh dear. Logic fail.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They look so old because they don't take care of themselves as we do. I don't want to say how much I spend per year between laser treatments, skin care, hair coloring and cuts, pilates, gym, teeth, clothes, supplements, and clean food. I mean, it's kind of nuts. Of course, men my age will look much older than I do. I p

This is hyper delusional. No one is mis judging your age. Women may tell you that you look younger to flatter you and be a good friend. Men will flatter you for engagement and potential conquest. NO ONE IS ACTUALLY MIS-JUDGING YOUR AGE. I'm in my late 50s, have told dozens of female friends over the years how "young" they look but it has never once been true. I have never yet found out someone's true age afterward and been surprised.

Yes, some people are more well maintained than others. That is not the same as looking a different age. If I have a 50-year-old Ferrari in mint condition, I still do not think it is a brand new Ferrari. No one would.

Wow, easily triggered there. I'm not saying I look younger than men my age, I'm just saying men my age look so much older than my friends and me.

Oh dear. Logic fail.

It was a joke. The point is, women who care look better than men at every age. We generally spend significantly more time, effort, and money on our appearance. It's just a fact. Even men who age well don't age as well as women who age well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They look so old because they don't take care of themselves as we do. I don't want to say how much I spend per year between laser treatments, skin care, hair coloring and cuts, pilates, gym, teeth, clothes, supplements, and clean food. I mean, it's kind of nuts. Of course, men my age will look much older than I do. I p

This is hyper delusional. No one is mis judging your age. Women may tell you that you look younger to flatter you and be a good friend. Men will flatter you for engagement and potential conquest. NO ONE IS ACTUALLY MIS-JUDGING YOUR AGE. I'm in my late 50s, have told dozens of female friends over the years how "young" they look but it has never once been true. I have never yet found out someone's true age afterward and been surprised.

Yes, some people are more well maintained than others. That is not the same as looking a different age. If I have a 50-year-old Ferrari in mint condition, I still do not think it is a brand new Ferrari. No one would.

Wow, easily triggered there. I'm not saying I look younger than men my age, I'm just saying men my age look so much older than my friends and me.

Oh dear. Logic fail.

It was a joke. The point is, women who care look better than men at every age. We generally spend significantly more time, effort, and money on our appearance. It's just a fact. Even men who age well don't age as well as women who age well.

I mean, I agree insofar as I like to sleep with women only. Maybe you're lesbian? Something to explore.

[Anonymous]

In general, this goes both ways, older men who take care of themselves and look good are not interested in older women.

[Anonymous]

I’m a 55 yo single man, 5’ 10”, 170 lbs, a little gray, with average looks based on what my female friends tell me. I’m well educated and wealthy (NW>$15M). I date older and younger women. There are pros and cons to both. Older women definitely spend the $ to disguise their ages. If they only want to date good looking younger men all power to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

Hi Alex! I’ll take “things that never happened for $100, please.”

If you were as hot as you claim, hot men would find you. And you would not be "starting to date again" (i.e., dumped) after a 24-year relationship.

Dial back the (very unlikely) "fit and full of energy" without "wrinkles, saggy skin, or gray hair" bit and find a lane you can swim in.

All relationships have expiration date. Doesn’t need to be necessarily dumped. Divorced women typically look better than men of same age group.

What is your source for that information?

Male obesity rates are higher after 40 and 60 yo in particular
https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db360.htm

[Anonymous]

I disagree. I think some men in their fifties look old and some look pretty good.

[Anonymous]

beggers can't be choosers