Woman here earning seven figures for the first time -- plan to date only men who earn more

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Why though?

OP here. I can't imagine the guy earning less for two reasons: the guy will have an inferiority complex, and because I like myself in a supporting role, just like in my previous marriage. I prefer someone successful to whom I can look up. From my point of view earning $1m+ per year is not a huge achievement, so that is my minimum standard.

So you still want to be the little woman in the relationship. That’s so effed up.

This. Wanting to "look up" to someone when you're in your 40s? Sounds like you need therapy.

Also, the kind of wealthy men who are looking for a support type partner aren't looking for someone in their 40s. This kind of man either is married to the woman he married decades ago or he's divorced and will remarry a woman who is much younger.

You are incorrect . Look at Bezos - he married a woman slightly younger from his circle. Not all wealthy men want a second set of kids. OP should be targeting men up to 15 years older, almost empty nesters who want a partner to enjoy life.

OP doesn’t need to marry a poor man - no point. She seems to be marriage oriented and marriage is a contract so she needs to find an equal

Bezos married a woman who dresses like a hooker. It’s clear what she brings to the relationship.

I disagree. I feel like they are really a great match.

There have been reports they pick up hookers together. So I guess they are a good match in a manner of speaking…

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This forum targets middle class Moms. To be sure, there may be some rich Moms on here, but they're the minority.

Women(and men) earning 7 figures are a minority of the population. So it seems trollish to post on a forum that doesn't cater to that niche.

If I posted I was a NBA player looking to date a hot model, I would seem like a troll because the people on this forum likely don't travel in those circles.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Why though?

OP here. I can't imagine the guy earning less for two reasons: the guy will have an inferiority complex, and because I like myself in a supporting role, just like in my previous marriage. I prefer someone successful to whom I can look up. From my point of view earning $1m+ per year is not a huge achievement, so that is my minimum standard.

So you still want to be the little woman in the relationship. That’s so effed up.

This. Wanting to "look up" to someone when you're in your 40s? Sounds like you need therapy.

Also, the kind of wealthy men who are looking for a support type partner aren't looking for someone in their 40s. This kind of man either is married to the woman he married decades ago or he's divorced and will remarry a woman who is much younger.

You are incorrect . Look at Bezos - he married a woman slightly younger from his circle. Not all wealthy men want a second set of kids. OP should be targeting men up to 15 years older, almost empty nesters who want a partner to enjoy life.

OP doesn’t need to marry a poor man - no point. She seems to be marriage oriented and marriage is a contract so she needs to find an equal

Bezos married a woman who dresses like a hooker. It’s clear what she brings to the relationship.

I disagree. I feel like they are really a great match.

Because they are both attention seeking and obsequious?

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Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

OP here. I look great (size 6, beautiful face, dress well), and can cook but I don't cook often.

This is all very believable. Beautiful woman, lawyer, on DCUM asking for dating advice regarding how to snag an equally rich man. OP, you forgot to mention that you look at least 10 years younger than your age. I totally believe this sort of person would be asking advice from people who aren’t likely to be in a position to help her.

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Anonymous wrote:Good luck staying single. Your priorities are messed up.

I don’t know… maybe not.

If OP is simply looking for someone with money, she’ll find someone searching for the same.

The two of them can rest contented that they are rolling in $$$, and that’s all that will matter to either of them.

I think we’re looking at this through a different lens with different values.

I mean 40s and 50s are where the foundation really matters. My parents have been together for 50+ years. I've seen my parents care for each other through brain surgery, heart surgery, cancer, through the deaths of parents and siblings.

You want to be with someone who helps you hold your IV tubes while you pee. Really. If it's just looks or money, what happens when that goes away?

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Anonymous wrote:So money is how you’ll initially judge a person’s worth?

How is this any different from how women typically date?

I fell in love with his personality

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Anonymous wrote:OP - I’m in a similar boat . You won’t meet that on the apps. I recommend enrolling in yachting club, your city social and business clubs, going to more conferences where you can meet people from your circle. That’s what my early 50s wealthy friend did right after her divorce - enrolled in all university clubs etc. And she indeed met an uber wealthy CEO of an insurance company in her tennis club. He’s not without skeletons himself (is a recovered alcoholic), but he’s rich and really loves her. They are engaged now

Generally wealthy women like you get snatched by men in their circle fast - don’t listen to the PPs

This is excellent advice. You have to be in the proper circles.

This is terrible advice. He is an alcoholic.

He’s in a relationship. I need people to read

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Anonymous wrote:OP, with all of your needs just get a matchmaker. You can certainly afford it.

Your pool will not be large so even though DC is a big metro area be open to the whole east coast.

You and your future man can afford private flights.

OP here. Lol, no, believe me, I can't afford private flights.

Ha ha. People are crazy. Private flights on a $1 million salary? Whut? No.

$15-30k? If she wanted to she could afford that, I know people who’ve taken private jets on less.

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Anonymous wrote:Any man who is earning over a million is not going to want you. He is going to want someone 10-15 years younger. I suggest you look for qualities other than money if you want companionship.

OP here. I'm fine with a man who is 10 years older.

So many bitter people on this board.

NP. What people are telling you is that men who are that wealthy are going to see you as being too old for him to find desirable, no matter how old he is. A mid 40s woman is too old, and men who are earning millions of dollars every year think they can do better. They don’t need to date someone older than 30, no matter how old they are themselves. Just as your primary or only concern is that the man is super wealthy, the men you seek have the primary or only concern that the woman have youth and beauty. You don’t.

Unfortunately, this is the case. Most of the men she is targeting don't really see women her age as desirable in the same way. "Beautiful" to them means beauty+youth, not a well-preserved middle-aged woman. Youth is powerfully attractive in general, and if a man can "afford" to attract a younger, beautiful mate, he will choose to do this. They might think the high salary is a nice perk, but they'd rather have a young beauty with a lower salary than a middle-aged woman (even if she has a "beautiful face") with a high salary.

OP here. As another PP said, 50+ year-old men who seek out 30 year-olds are not the type of men I would want to date anyway. There are plenty of men who are looking for an age-appropriate partner.

Really? Then why are you here looking for how to find a man? And why would you need to look on apps?

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Anonymous wrote:So money is how you’ll initially judge a person’s worth?

How is this any different from how women typically date?

It’s really not. The difference is that OP is bringing a large amount of money to table really narrowing the pool she can choose from. Most women make sub 150k so finding someone in DC making 250k is much more achievable.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - I’m in a similar boat . You won’t meet that on the apps. I recommend enrolling in yachting club, your city social and business clubs, going to more conferences where you can meet people from your circle. That’s what my early 50s wealthy friend did right after her divorce - enrolled in all university clubs etc. And she indeed met an uber wealthy CEO of an insurance company in her tennis club. He’s not without skeletons himself (is a recovered alcoholic), but he’s rich and really loves her. They are engaged now

Generally wealthy women like you get snatched by men in their circle fast - don’t listen to the PPs

This is excellent advice. You have to be in the proper circles.

This is terrible advice. He is an alcoholic.

He’s in a relationship. I need people to read

We read. Some lady is so desperate for a relationship that she thought it was better to pickup an alcoholic in her 50s than be alone.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, with all of your needs just get a matchmaker. You can certainly afford it.

Your pool will not be large so even though DC is a big metro area be open to the whole east coast.

You and your future man can afford private flights.

OP here. Lol, no, believe me, I can't afford private flights.

Ha ha. People are crazy. Private flights on a $1 million salary? Whut? No.

$15-30k? If she wanted to she could afford that, I know people who’ve taken private jets on less.

Not everyone is good with money.

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Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

Would you ask a man who makes that much money if he can cook?

Notwithstanding the fact that my DH does all of the cooking. But No I would not because such a man would be looking for a 20 year old to do all the cooking for him

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Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

Would you ask a man who makes that much money if he can cook?

Notwithstanding the fact that my DH does all of the cooking. But No I would not because such a man would be looking for a 20 year old to do all the cooking for him

I do think everyone should know how to cook. I'm a lawyer and I cook, my husband's an engineer and cooks, my Dad was a doctor and he cooked. That's just basic life skills.

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OP, you’re too driven by money. It doesn’t make a person more intelligent, more respectful, more appealing. It just makes them more rich, and that’s not as impressive as the other characteristics.

OP here. If I were a man, women would consider me a great catch. Instead, I am being criticized.

You can either turn gay or realize that the things that make men and women attractive are completely different. Money doesn’t factor into attraction for men once they have enough money to pay for everything they want.