Tween guest wasted all the food we bought him. Would you be offended by his mom's pretentious remark?

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Anonymous wrote:He was trying to conceal because the one bite didn’t work out. You were rude to point it out.

I want to know if my kid was eating or not on a long day trip. If you don't point it out, such a boy will most likely tell his parents he's starving and wasn't fed all day. His parents will never circle back to verify, so OP's family forever looks trashy, cheap, and negligent.

The kid is 11, not 5. OP could casually mention they stopped for food if she was actually worried about this. But I don’t think she was worried about the tween claiming he wasn’t fed. She was obsessed with “wasting” fast food.

Np. Lots of us were raised to not waste food. I’m middle class too and never had food insecurity. At home we didn’t throw out leftovers.

I don’t throw out leftovers, but not the partially eaten leftovers of non-family members! Ew, just ew.

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Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

Maybe the situation made him anxious, maybe he has an issue with food and didn’t want to bring attention to it. Have some empathy.

Ordering food then not eating it all brings more attention to it than just saying you aren’t hungry.

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On the spectrum? Sounds like mild autism ie Asperger's

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Anonymous wrote:If you ever buy kid food again tell him if he decides not to eat it, please just save it and you will take care of it.
(You can do whatever with it but stop the balling it up.)

Repeatedly balling up and hiding food waste in someone’s car is not normal behavior for a sporty tween boy. Something is off here.

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Anonymous wrote:I want to hear more about OP's truck.

That's a big 'ol SUV right? Or are we calling Tahoes "trucks"? What about Expeditions?

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Anonymous wrote:My kids’ best friend was like this too. It bugs me and I try so hard to get “kid food” she’ll eat. I think it’s the adhd meds that just make her not hungry. The main issue is that she spends all day at our house and keeps asking me for food but not liking anything I make, nor eating it. I’ve offered chicken nuggets, Doritos, apples, cheese sticks, applesauce, yogurt… I’ve even asked the mom in advance what I should buy.

Id never say this in real life but it does make me grateful for my kids. They eat what’s on their plate and don’t comment on food they dislike. They always eat any vegetable on their plate in full.

I’ve noticed similar behavior of friends of my child on adhd meds

Thank you - this explains a lot about one of my son's friends at this age. I would make lots of choices, he did have a favorite vegetable and I'd ask his mom what he would actually eat because he would turn his nose up at the pasta with (european) butter that he requested, the chicken nuggets, and just ask for chips and desserts. Constantly. Of course I let his mom know what he ended up eating. I wanted her to know that I tried. He drank milk at least.

I too am grateful for my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine anyone saying "they're more of a Shake Shack family" with any level of pretension, SS is disgusting. I think the lady was trying to be funny maybe and it fell sort of flat with you.

Shake Shack and Sweetgreen are top rung fast food to upper middle class strivers. McDonald's is firmly bottom rung. Panera is basically hospital food at this point, although maybe its status is still mid-rung. It's absolutely a status-conscious striver flex to claim your kids are above eating low tier fast food. Strivers are super obsessive in jockeying for status and making it known where their family stands.

Sorry, those of us just trying to keep kids calm on a travel day aren't studied up on the Diabetic Glutton Fast Food Status Scale

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Anonymous wrote:He was trying to conceal because the one bite didn’t work out. You were rude to point it out.

I want to know if my kid was eating or not on a long day trip. If you don't point it out, such a boy will most likely tell his parents he's starving and wasn't fed all day. His parents will never circle back to verify, so OP's family forever looks trashy, cheap, and negligent.

Yeah, trashy, cheap, and negligent for babysitting someone else's kid all day for free.

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Anonymous wrote:Right or wrong about buying the kid food, why one earth would he waste it?

Why couldn't he have had the decency to say, "I'm not very hungry now, but will take this home and eat it later." And then proceed to take it into his house and toss it. Or give it to his Dad who would probably scarf it down.

Today, a meal at McD's and Panera's isn't cheap.

And I don't even know how to respond to the we don't do McD's but Shake Shack. Whatever.

If he ordered it it implies he is hungry, but not eating it and lying about not being hungry makes that super weird. Not sure why you can’t see how weird it would be, he did.

Yea, if he ordered food, it implies hunger. But, then, decided to ball it up regardless if hungry or not, is just wasteful. IDK, maybe it's just how I was raised, but I would have not been a good thing if my parents found out that I was getting food bought for me and then balling it up and wasting it and not bringing it home for someone else in my family to have. This is coming from a kid that only ever went out to eat on pretty special occasions - heck, getting the Book It certificates for a free personal pan pizza at Pizza Hut was a huge deal.

WTF, you think he should have saved it and given his family cold McDs??? that's not even safe from a food perspective!

you're weird, op.

Yes. Absolutely. Given how much artificial crap is in McDs food, it probably could have been saved for the next day and reheated and they would be fine.

Seriously. It wasn’t said whether the food was bought hours from home or minutes away. You and I are from different places and this would have not been wasted in my home growing up. Sorry.

Good for you. Enjoy eating garbage.

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Throwing away McDonald's food is a charitable act to prevent anyone else from being victimize.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine anyone saying "they're more of a Shake Shack family" with any level of pretension, SS is disgusting. I think the lady was trying to be funny maybe and it fell sort of flat with you.

Shake Shack and Sweetgreen are top rung fast food to upper middle class strivers. McDonald's is firmly bottom rung. Panera is basically hospital food at this point, although maybe its status is still mid-rung. It's absolutely a status-conscious striver flex to claim your kids are above eating low tier fast food. Strivers are super obsessive in jockeying for status and making it known where their family stands.

Sorry, those of us just trying to keep kids calm on a travel day aren't studied up on the Diabetic Glutton Fast Food Status Scale

Are your kids in travel sports or any other ECs which require travel? There are only so many options off the interstate.

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Are you a McDonald’s American or Shake Shack and sweetgreen American? lol

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Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

Maybe the situation made him anxious, maybe he has an issue with food and didn’t want to bring attention to it. Have some empathy.

Ordering food then not eating it all brings more attention to it than just saying you aren’t hungry.

what a response

Listen it's great that you're perfect but sounds like this tween boy is like most kids who have insecurities and are nervously doing what they need to to fit in.

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Anonymous wrote:If you ever buy kid food again tell him if he decides not to eat it, please just save it and you will take care of it.
(You can do whatever with it but stop the balling it up.)

Repeatedly balling up and hiding food waste in someone’s car is not normal behavior for a sporty tween boy. Something is off here.

I would not describe twice as some sort of recurring issue that needs to be addressed. And some kids ball up trash to make it more compact. There is no indication they were hiding it.
Simple explanation of what could have happened:
1. Hit McDs on way to extracurricular. Orders cheeseburger and fries, takes a bite and decides it tastes funny. Balls it up. (My kid balls up their trash in the car - not trying to hide anything, it’s just what he does, probably to make it compact)
2. On way home, hit Panera. Order some sandwich which ends up with garlic aioli and doesn’t taste good to the kid. Again, balls it up.

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I think it's crazy you're wondering if the other mom is pretentious when you are talking about a kid "wasting" food in this situation. I am sure the way you "mentioned" this to the mom was not good-natured at all. You don't seem nice.

Also why two restaurants?