Taking care of your appearance isn’t fake. It reflects very real and important qualities, including respect for yourself and for others. If your partner (male or female) stops taking care of their appearance, that’s a real and unmistakable signal of how they regard themselves and you. In its extreme form, not attending to dress and hygiene is a symptom of mental illness, which is a real thing, not just them casting aside “fake” stuff. |
You must have a lot of down time. |
What does that mean and why?? |
Taking care of your appearance starts with the inside: eating well, exercising, sleeping, minimizing stress. That’s how you really show care to yourself. Not whether you blow dry your hair and wear eyeliner. |
Those things are necessary but not sufficient. Keep trying, you’re almost there! |
Yes, you condescending tw@, that really is sufficient. "dolling up" the externals is extra, unless you're pathologically obsessed with appearances or trying to hide something. True health is accepting reality, including the reality of the human body in its natural state. Forced conformity to a standard created to sell product is NOT a sign of health. If you really enjoy fashion and/or makeup for yourself, for the art of those things, because they truly bring you pleasure, by all means, enjoy what you like. But the idea that these things are obligatory has deep roots in classism and control, neither of which are healthy for humans. Deal therewith. |
I'd also find this a bit sus, but not for the reasons you do. I know way too many gays who don't GAF about things like this.
What I'd find sus about it is that he's as indoctrinated into beauty culture as most women, which shows a lack of self-esteem, personal style, and critical thinking skills, IMO. If they can tell you how to dress, they can tell you what to do. Way too many women are already sick with this, and it was being aimed at men long before the "metrosexual" movement, too. |
Thank you! |
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You sound like a sad/angry person. Or maybe you're depressed. |
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Does wearing an underwire bra around the house count?
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Taking care of your appearance doesn’t need to include changing your face or lip color. Basic hygiene is not makeup. It’s really sad you don’t think women can be beautiful naturally bare faced. |
I guess you are right. As long as you make every decision in your life from the time you wake up in the morning to your bedtime routine to your career to your family size to what you eat and how you spend your free time based on how it affects your appearance, it doesn’t matter if you spend 10 minutes a day fixing your hair and makeup. |
| Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you? |
Some men want to be with him
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