Librarian with provocative t-shirt

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty much as progressive as they come and I'm shocked anyone thinks this would be appropriate to wear in any workplace, especially a public/customer facing job.

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Why are you afraid to "explain" lesbians to your kid? What is there to explain? These are people married to one another the same way you are married to your husband. When you encounter heterosexual parents, do you feel the need to "explain" to your kid what they do in the privacy of their bedroom?

OP, is this you adopting a less insane persona to see if we'll get on board your crazy train?

No, I’m a new poster who finds this conversation interesting and it is making me think through how I would react in this scenario.

For me, there is a difference between “Larlo has two moms” and “Larlo’s mom is a lesbian” to which my kid would immediately follow with “What is that?” and I wouldn’t want to go into the actual answer “it’s someone who prefers marry women instead of men” (“Marry” just for the kid convo).

To echo my response above, I also wouldn’t describe couples as heterosexual or straight. It seems like an unnecessary qualifier that would lead to conversations we’re not wanting to have right now with a young elementary student.

But your kid would not assume any sexual connotation out of either of those explanations. You’re doing that. May I offer “lesbians are women who merry other women.” Very likely the kid goes “ok” and moves on. They’re not overthinking it or sexualizing it like you are.

It seems like you are offended but unfortunately you don’t decide how people raise their children or how topics are introduced to them

By fourth grade, your son has already heard all about sex, masterbation (and maybe even tried it), gay people, trans people, and lesbians. Other kids are talking to your son about this at school, at baseball practice, at playdates, and even at Sunday school. By performing this cliched, pearl-clutching trope of a 1980s era mom who doesn't want her preteen child to know what a lesbian is, you can certainly make your son uncomfortable around you and afraid to have frank and open discussions with you, but you will not succeed in protecting him from learning basical biological and social facts about the world.

Are there no boundaries or expectations of professionalism in schools? Should a fourth grade teacher wear a “Masterbation is awesome!” shirt because a lot of the kids know about it?

Heavens no!

That spelling is atrocious!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty much as progressive as they come and I'm shocked anyone thinks this would be appropriate to wear in any workplace, especially a public/customer facing job.

Same. But now I’m rethinking how progressive I am bc I would not want to have to explain this shirt to my elementary school student.

We have had two-mom families in our classes, but I did not and would not have explained them as lesbians. We explained as “Larlo has two moms and there’s many types of families and that’s okay.” DC said “oh” and moved on

So yea I think the shirt shouldn’t be worn at school

Why are you afraid to "explain" lesbians to your kid? What is there to explain? These are people married to one another the same way you are married to your husband. When you encounter heterosexual parents, do you feel the need to "explain" to your kid what they do in the privacy of their bedroom?

OP, is this you adopting a less insane persona to see if we'll get on board your crazy train?

No, I’m a new poster who finds this conversation interesting and it is making me think through how I would react in this scenario.

For me, there is a difference between “Larlo has two moms” and “Larlo’s mom is a lesbian” to which my kid would immediately follow with “What is that?” and I wouldn’t want to go into the actual answer “it’s someone who prefers marry women instead of men” (“Marry” just for the kid convo).

To echo my response above, I also wouldn’t describe couples as heterosexual or straight. It seems like an unnecessary qualifier that would lead to conversations we’re not wanting to have right now with a young elementary student.

But your kid would not assume any sexual connotation out of either of those explanations. You’re doing that. May I offer “lesbians are women who merry other women.” Very likely the kid goes “ok” and moves on. They’re not overthinking it or sexualizing it like you are.

It seems like you are offended but unfortunately you don’t decide how people raise their children or how topics are introduced to them

By fourth grade, your son has already heard all about sex, masterbation (and maybe even tried it), gay people, trans people, and lesbians. Other kids are talking to your son about this at school, at baseball practice, at playdates, and even at Sunday school. By performing this cliched, pearl-clutching trope of a 1980s era mom who doesn't want her preteen child to know what a lesbian is, you can certainly make your son uncomfortable around you and afraid to have frank and open discussions with you, but you will not succeed in protecting him from learning basical biological and social facts about the world.

Are there no boundaries or expectations of professionalism in schools? Should a fourth grade teacher wear a “Masterbation is awesome!” shirt because a lot of the kids know about it?

Heavens no!

That spelling is atrocious!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty much as progressive as they come and I'm shocked anyone thinks this would be appropriate to wear in any workplace, especially a public/customer facing job.

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Why are you afraid to "explain" lesbians to your kid? What is there to explain? These are people married to one another the same way you are married to your husband. When you encounter heterosexual parents, do you feel the need to "explain" to your kid what they do in the privacy of their bedroom?

OP, is this you adopting a less insane persona to see if we'll get on board your crazy train?

No, I’m a new poster who finds this conversation interesting and it is making me think through how I would react in this scenario.

For me, there is a difference between “Larlo has two moms” and “Larlo’s mom is a lesbian” to which my kid would immediately follow with “What is that?” and I wouldn’t want to go into the actual answer “it’s someone who prefers marry women instead of men” (“Marry” just for the kid convo).

To echo my response above, I also wouldn’t describe couples as heterosexual or straight. It seems like an unnecessary qualifier that would lead to conversations we’re not wanting to have right now with a young elementary student.

But your kid would not assume any sexual connotation out of either of those explanations. You’re doing that. May I offer “lesbians are women who merry other women.” Very likely the kid goes “ok” and moves on. They’re not overthinking it or sexualizing it like you are.

It seems like you are offended but unfortunately you don’t decide how people raise their children or how topics are introduced to them

By fourth grade, your son has already heard all about sex, masterbation (and maybe even tried it), gay people, trans people, and lesbians. Other kids are talking to your son about this at school, at baseball practice, at playdates, and even at Sunday school. By performing this cliched, pearl-clutching trope of a 1980s era mom who doesn't want her preteen child to know what a lesbian is, you can certainly make your son uncomfortable around you and afraid to have frank and open discussions with you, but you will not succeed in protecting him from learning basical biological and social facts about the world.

Are there no boundaries or expectations of professionalism in schools? Should a fourth grade teacher wear a “Masterbation is awesome!” shirt because a lot of the kids know about it?

Heavens no!

That spelling is atrocious!

[Anonymous]

A better t shirt would have said Jesus loves lesbians.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty much as progressive as they come and I'm shocked anyone thinks this would be appropriate to wear in any workplace, especially a public/customer facing job.

Same. But now I’m rethinking how progressive I am bc I would not want to have to explain this shirt to my elementary school student.

We have had two-mom families in our classes, but I did not and would not have explained them as lesbians. We explained as “Larlo has two moms and there’s many types of families and that’s okay.” DC said “oh” and moved on

So yea I think the shirt shouldn’t be worn at school

Why are you afraid to "explain" lesbians to your kid? What is there to explain? These are people married to one another the same way you are married to your husband. When you encounter heterosexual parents, do you feel the need to "explain" to your kid what they do in the privacy of their bedroom?

OP, is this you adopting a less insane persona to see if we'll get on board your crazy train?

No, I’m a new poster who finds this conversation interesting and it is making me think through how I would react in this scenario.

For me, there is a difference between “Larlo has two moms” and “Larlo’s mom is a lesbian” to which my kid would immediately follow with “What is that?” and I wouldn’t want to go into the actual answer “it’s someone who prefers marry women instead of men” (“Marry” just for the kid convo).

To echo my response above, I also wouldn’t describe couples as heterosexual or straight. It seems like an unnecessary qualifier that would lead to conversations we’re not wanting to have right now with a young elementary student.

But your kid would not assume any sexual connotation out of either of those explanations. You’re doing that. May I offer “lesbians are women who merry other women.” Very likely the kid goes “ok” and moves on. They’re not overthinking it or sexualizing it like you are.

It seems like you are offended but unfortunately you don’t decide how people raise their children or how topics are introduced to them

By fourth grade, your son has already heard all about sex, masterbation (and maybe even tried it), gay people, trans people, and lesbians. Other kids are talking to your son about this at school, at baseball practice, at playdates, and even at Sunday school. By performing this cliched, pearl-clutching trope of a 1980s era mom who doesn't want her preteen child to know what a lesbian is, you can certainly make your son uncomfortable around you and afraid to have frank and open discussions with you, but you will not succeed in protecting him from learning basical biological and social facts about the world.

Are there no boundaries or expectations of professionalism in schools? Should a fourth grade teacher wear a “Masterbation is awesome!” shirt because a lot of the kids know about it?

Heavens no!

That spelling is atrocious!

[Anonymous]

None of DC’s teachers ever came to school in a t-shirt. What private schools have staff wearing t-shirts?

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Anonymous wrote:It''s wild that you think loving a certain person is bad.

Is it okay to love men, women, football players, dogs, pirates, dancers, softball players?

What specifically bothers you?

Never said that. My main question is about the dress code. I can imagine several t-shirts used by conservative Christians that would be offensive to the LGBTQ community. My point is whether it’s ok to bring the culture wars to school.

You mean, would it be OK to wear a Nazi shirt? And you’re comparing that too I love lesbians?

Very balanced comment: conservative Christians = Nazis.

Some conservatives Xtians = white supremacist.

What exactly do you think people would object to that a conservative Christian would wear? I love Jesus. I love Mary. I love Joseph.

I love pedophiles?

See the problem is when you read I love lesbians it’s the same to you as I love pedophiles

When I read, I love Mary. I think it’s the same thing as I love lesbians.

The dress code in my job limits my freedom of speech. I am glad that in your job you can wear anything you want even if it upsets the clients. Lucky you!

Yes, I can wear Star Trek rules in Star Wars lovers have to just get over it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of DC’s teachers ever came to school in a t-shirt. What private schools have staff wearing t-shirts?

The one that the OP completely made up in order to troll in this thread

[Anonymous]

There is definitely one poster on this thread continually accusing people of being the OP, of being “obsessed” and “over-sexualizing,” over and over because they really *wish* that most people didn’t associate the word “lesbian” with sexual orientation. —Which they clearly do, at least here in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty much as progressive as they come and I'm shocked anyone thinks this would be appropriate to wear in any workplace, especially a public/customer facing job.

Same. But now I’m rethinking how progressive I am bc I would not want to have to explain this shirt to my elementary school student.

We have had two-mom families in our classes, but I did not and would not have explained them as lesbians. We explained as “Larlo has two moms and there’s many types of families and that’s okay.” DC said “oh” and moved on

So yea I think the shirt shouldn’t be worn at school

Why are you afraid to "explain" lesbians to your kid? What is there to explain? These are people married to one another the same way you are married to your husband. When you encounter heterosexual parents, do you feel the need to "explain" to your kid what they do in the privacy of their bedroom?

OP, is this you adopting a less insane persona to see if we'll get on board your crazy train?

No, I’m a new poster who finds this conversation interesting and it is making me think through how I would react in this scenario.

For me, there is a difference between “Larlo has two moms” and “Larlo’s mom is a lesbian” to which my kid would immediately follow with “What is that?” and I wouldn’t want to go into the actual answer “it’s someone who prefers marry women instead of men” (“Marry” just for the kid convo).

To echo my response above, I also wouldn’t describe couples as heterosexual or straight. It seems like an unnecessary qualifier that would lead to conversations we’re not wanting to have right now with a young elementary student.

But your kid would not assume any sexual connotation out of either of those explanations. You’re doing that. May I offer “lesbians are women who merry other women.” Very likely the kid goes “ok” and moves on. They’re not overthinking it or sexualizing it like you are.

It seems like you are offended but unfortunately you don’t decide how people raise their children or how topics are introduced to them

By fourth grade, your son has already heard all about sex, masterbation (and maybe even tried it), gay people, trans people, and lesbians. Other kids are talking to your son about this at school, at baseball practice, at playdates, and even at Sunday school. By performing this cliched, pearl-clutching trope of a 1980s era mom who doesn't want her preteen child to know what a lesbian is, you can certainly make your son uncomfortable around you and afraid to have frank and open discussions with you, but you will not succeed in protecting him from learning basical biological and social facts about the world.

Are there no boundaries or expectations of professionalism in schools? Should a fourth grade teacher wear a “Masterbation is awesome!” shirt because a lot of the kids know about it?

Heavens no!

That spelling is atrocious!

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of DC’s teachers ever came to school in a t-shirt. What private schools have staff wearing t-shirts?

How do you know what your children's teachers wore to school every day? Also what decade was this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is definitely one poster on this thread continually accusing people of being the OP, of being “obsessed” and “over-sexualizing,” over and over because they really *wish* that most people didn’t associate the word “lesbian” with sexual orientation. —Which they clearly do, at least here in this thread.

I happen to know it's more than one person, because I wrote some, but not nearly all, of those comments. In contrast, 100% of the anti- lesbian and "what about professionalism" comments have come from you, OP. Which we know because your writing style, spelling, and vocabulary are distinct and fill they us with wonderment.

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Anonymous wrote:There is definitely one poster on this thread continually accusing people of being the OP, of being “obsessed” and “over-sexualizing,” over and over because they really *wish* that most people didn’t associate the word “lesbian” with sexual orientation. —Which they clearly do, at least here in this thread.

I happen to know it's more than one person, because I wrote some, but not nearly all, of those comments. In contrast, 100% of the anti- lesbian and "what about professionalism" comments have come from you, OP. Which we know because your writing style, spelling, and vocabulary are distinct and fill they us with wonderment.

That poster is right.

[Anonymous]

Stupid thread. Of course it is inappropriate. Why is that even a question. If you think it's okay, there is something wrong with you. Can we just get back to common sense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Of course it is inappropriate. Why is that even a question. If you think it's okay, there is something wrong with you. Can we just get back to common sense?

You mispelled repressed and self-loathing.