Divorced women in their 40s seem to be doing better in the dating market

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Anonymous wrote:I am 32 and single. I think women in their 40s are beautiful. But women in their 30s still find me attractive and I prefer dating them. If a divorced woman in her 40s were to approach me, would I date her? No. Not because she is old, it's because women my own age still want to date me. Everytime I go on OLD I don't have an issue finding dates. But right now I am solely focus on building myself and dating is not on my radar.

So no one is talking about you dude. 32 is young. I agree with you. You will probably be married by your late 30s so its a moot point anyway. But single men in their late 30s have much fewer options than you at 32.

Life comes at you fast. People on this board love to talk about how women are dried up by their late 30s but trust me, if you are a man who is never married in your late 30s there’s a huge stigma for a lot of a lot of women below 35… why hasn’t some hottie snapped you up?

My friends in their 40s who are dating younger men, the topic of this thread, are mostly dating mid to late 30s or early 40s divorced guys. No one is talking about a 32 year-old never married single guy.

Not really, there is a small pool of men looking for late 30s women its a weird age because they are almost too old for a family and need to come to terms with that and date older men who are already divorced with kids or are looking not to start a family. Most men in their 40s are either divorced with kids or are at a point where their career is established and are looking to start a family. If it's the later it will be seeking a younger woman in prime children bearing age which is late 20s and early 30s.

No, actually people date in their age range. 20 something women are not looking to date 40+ men. A 40+ man who is “looking to start a family” all of a sudden missed the boat, the same way a 40+ in that scenario did. But if he’s sincere, the best way to settle down would actually be to find a woman in her mid to late 30s.

Thats incorrect, a man 40+ can still have children without issues a woman after 35 faces fertility challenges so its not the same, sorry. Look at David grohl he got someone pregnant and they are having a child and he is 55

Mr Divorced Middle Aged Schlub, just because Dave Grohl, a rock star, did something, it doesn’t apply to you.

Sure, most of us aren't rock stars like Dave Grohl, but biology doesn't change just because someone isn't famous. The reality is that men can have children well into their 40s and beyond without facing the same fertility challenges that women do after 35. It's not just about celebrity examples—this is basic biology. Men can still be very much in demand by younger women, especially when they're established, successful, and looking to start a family. Women, on the other hand, face more time-sensitive fertility concerns. That's why men in their 40s often seek partners in their late 20s and early 30s when considering starting a family. It’s not just social, it’s biological.

Except women don’t experience fertility challenges after 35.

Actually, it’s a well-known fact that women do face fertility challenges after 35. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, fertility starts to decline in the early 30s and drops more significantly after 35. By 40, the chances of conceiving each month are around 5%, compared to 20-25% in their 20s. Egg quality and quantity decline with age, increasing the risk of miscarriage and complications. So while pregnancy is still possible, the challenges after 35 are real and backed by medical data.

Fertility declines by 1% per year after 35, which is hardly anything. A 39 year old is pretty much as fertile as a 28 year old, on average.

Contrast that to men, whose sperm quality declines RAPIDLY with age, which is why sperm banks will not accept donations from men over age 30 or sometimes even 25.

Just biological reality, bro.

Men’s sperm quality declines slowly compared to women’s fertility. Starting at age 30, sperm motility drops by about 1% per year, so by 40, it’s around 90%, and by 60, it’s still at 70%. Compare this to women, whose chances of conceiving drop from 20% in their late 20s to about 5% by age 40. Men remain fertile much longer, even with gradual sperm quality decline.

Sorry, but you are wrong. It’s kind of a moot point whether or not the sperm quality is declining, the fact of the matter is only 9% of men become dads in their 40s, with less than one percent becoming dads in their 50s, so this dream that you can just put off getting settled down and having kids to your 40s if you were a man is just not true because the younger women having babies don’t want you.

Men have no idea of the stigma attached to not being settled down by late 30s, 40 at the latest. Younger women are thinking, why hasn’t anyone snapped him up?

Let’s also keep in mind, Brad Pitt became a dad in his 40s. So this 9% is loaded with really wealthy dudes and celebrities. Someone mentioned Dave Grohl. Come on guys, this statistic does not apply to the average man on DCUM. Statistically if you have not become a dad by your late 30s it’s not going to happen for you. You can talk about sperm mobility all you want, but this is the reality.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

Your 20 year age gap is quite rare though. This isn’t the norm.

And I really don’t think jealousy is what these women are feeling when they see a big age gap couple LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 32 and single. I think women in their 40s are beautiful. But women in their 30s still find me attractive and I prefer dating them. If a divorced woman in her 40s were to approach me, would I date her? No. Not because she is old, it's because women my own age still want to date me. Everytime I go on OLD I don't have an issue finding dates. But right now I am solely focus on building myself and dating is not on my radar.

So no one is talking about you dude. 32 is young. I agree with you. You will probably be married by your late 30s so its a moot point anyway. But single men in their late 30s have much fewer options than you at 32.

Life comes at you fast. People on this board love to talk about how women are dried up by their late 30s but trust me, if you are a man who is never married in your late 30s there’s a huge stigma for a lot of a lot of women below 35… why hasn’t some hottie snapped you up?

My friends in their 40s who are dating younger men, the topic of this thread, are mostly dating mid to late 30s or early 40s divorced guys. No one is talking about a 32 year-old never married single guy.

Not really, there is a small pool of men looking for late 30s women its a weird age because they are almost too old for a family and need to come to terms with that and date older men who are already divorced with kids or are looking not to start a family. Most men in their 40s are either divorced with kids or are at a point where their career is established and are looking to start a family. If it's the later it will be seeking a younger woman in prime children bearing age which is late 20s and early 30s.

No, actually people date in their age range. 20 something women are not looking to date 40+ men. A 40+ man who is “looking to start a family” all of a sudden missed the boat, the same way a 40+ in that scenario did. But if he’s sincere, the best way to settle down would actually be to find a woman in her mid to late 30s.

Thats incorrect, a man 40+ can still have children without issues a woman after 35 faces fertility challenges so its not the same, sorry. Look at David grohl he got someone pregnant and they are having a child and he is 55

Mr Divorced Middle Aged Schlub, just because Dave Grohl, a rock star, did something, it doesn’t apply to you.

Sure, most of us aren't rock stars like Dave Grohl, but biology doesn't change just because someone isn't famous. The reality is that men can have children well into their 40s and beyond without facing the same fertility challenges that women do after 35. It's not just about celebrity examples—this is basic biology. Men can still be very much in demand by younger women, especially when they're established, successful, and looking to start a family. Women, on the other hand, face more time-sensitive fertility concerns. That's why men in their 40s often seek partners in their late 20s and early 30s when considering starting a family. It’s not just social, it’s biological.

If he doesn't have kids and an ex-wife, a good-looking, established 40-something is attractive to women in their late 20s and early 30s. If he has the aforementioned baggage, he is either bringing so much money to the table that a younger woman is willing to put up with some significant compromises, or the only younger women he attracts are those with psychological issues.

I was once a late-20s women and NONE of us were looking to date 40 year olds. Not a single one. I’m not sure why you are confusing your trashy sugar daddy fantasies with what the actual women around here do. If you’re looking to kill time with a series of 28 years for a few weeks at a time until they dump you (and you are forever known in their friend group as “that creepy old guy Sara dated for a few weeks”) then sure, maybe.

It's completely different with the apps, sneaky links, etc. And Sara is just one of dozens of 26yos I slept with in my 40s. Works for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I would correct this thread title to “Good looking divorced 40s women”.
Yes, they do, particular if they are empty nesters.
It’s in fact much better for me at 46 than what it was at 24. Both in terms of the men’s quality and what they are looking for in long term relationships
I’m 46, my dating range for men is 42-59 so far. All for LTR never did flings . I had 2 serious relationships post divorce (at 42), both men were talking marriage. They were 1 year younger and 7 years older from my age, respectively.

You are very realistic and honestly a catch. Most women your age on this forum talk about men under 35. I am surprised you would even entertain going past 40 because we know on this forum women your age not only go much younger but often view man past 40 as sexually done

I don’t go younger/under 40. I like to feel the “more beautiful”, person when coupled. His baby, an arm candy elevating my man. So he can be strong and smart and show me off around.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 32 and single. I think women in their 40s are beautiful. But women in their 30s still find me attractive and I prefer dating them. If a divorced woman in her 40s were to approach me, would I date her? No. Not because she is old, it's because women my own age still want to date me. Everytime I go on OLD I don't have an issue finding dates. But right now I am solely focus on building myself and dating is not on my radar.

So no one is talking about you dude. 32 is young. I agree with you. You will probably be married by your late 30s so its a moot point anyway. But single men in their late 30s have much fewer options than you at 32.

Life comes at you fast. People on this board love to talk about how women are dried up by their late 30s but trust me, if you are a man who is never married in your late 30s there’s a huge stigma for a lot of a lot of women below 35… why hasn’t some hottie snapped you up?

My friends in their 40s who are dating younger men, the topic of this thread, are mostly dating mid to late 30s or early 40s divorced guys. No one is talking about a 32 year-old never married single guy.

Not really, there is a small pool of men looking for late 30s women its a weird age because they are almost too old for a family and need to come to terms with that and date older men who are already divorced with kids or are looking not to start a family. Most men in their 40s are either divorced with kids or are at a point where their career is established and are looking to start a family. If it's the later it will be seeking a younger woman in prime children bearing age which is late 20s and early 30s.

No, actually people date in their age range. 20 something women are not looking to date 40+ men. A 40+ man who is “looking to start a family” all of a sudden missed the boat, the same way a 40+ in that scenario did. But if he’s sincere, the best way to settle down would actually be to find a woman in her mid to late 30s.

Thats incorrect, a man 40+ can still have children without issues a woman after 35 faces fertility challenges so its not the same, sorry. Look at David grohl he got someone pregnant and they are having a child and he is 55

Mr Divorced Middle Aged Schlub, just because Dave Grohl, a rock star, did something, it doesn’t apply to you.

Sure, most of us aren't rock stars like Dave Grohl, but biology doesn't change just because someone isn't famous. The reality is that men can have children well into their 40s and beyond without facing the same fertility challenges that women do after 35. It's not just about celebrity examples—this is basic biology. Men can still be very much in demand by younger women, especially when they're established, successful, and looking to start a family. Women, on the other hand, face more time-sensitive fertility concerns. That's why men in their 40s often seek partners in their late 20s and early 30s when considering starting a family. It’s not just social, it’s biological.

If he doesn't have kids and an ex-wife, a good-looking, established 40-something is attractive to women in their late 20s and early 30s. If he has the aforementioned baggage, he is either bringing so much money to the table that a younger woman is willing to put up with some significant compromises, or the only younger women he attracts are those with psychological issues.

I was once a late-20s women and NONE of us were looking to date 40 year olds. Not a single one. I’m not sure why you are confusing your trashy sugar daddy fantasies with what the actual women around here do. If you’re looking to kill time with a series of 28 years for a few weeks at a time until they dump you (and you are forever known in their friend group as “that creepy old guy Sara dated for a few weeks”) then sure, maybe.

Exactly. No one wants them and that’s what bothers them

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

lol keep fantasizing that older women are seething in rage at the image of you with your wife. The reality is most of them left behind an older man exactly like you, and zero part of them is fantasizing about the 40 year old potbellied baldy pushing around a baby. Why is it men want the approval and attention of older women so bad? Why can’t you just be happy with your young wife? Why do you have to concoct this fantasy that younger women are staring with lust and envy and rage? You sound like a loser.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

lol keep fantasizing that older women are seething in rage at the image of you with your wife. The reality is most of them left behind an older man exactly like you, and zero part of them is fantasizing about the 40 year old potbellied baldy pushing around a baby. Why is it men want the approval and attention of older women so bad? Why can’t you just be happy with your young wife? Why do you have to concoct this fantasy that younger women are staring with lust and envy and rage? You sound like a loser.

I've been wondering this as well: Why is the person or persons so riled up about a certain demographic not being interested in them? They claim to not be interested either, so it's a mutual no.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

lol keep fantasizing that older women are seething in rage at the image of you with your wife. The reality is most of them left behind an older man exactly like you, and zero part of them is fantasizing about the 40 year old potbellied baldy pushing around a baby. Why is it men want the approval and attention of older women so bad? Why can’t you just be happy with your young wife? Why do you have to concoct this fantasy that younger women are staring with lust and envy and rage? You sound like a loser.

I've been wondering this as well: Why is the person or persons so riled up about a certain demographic not being interested in them? They claim to not be interested either, so it's a mutual no.

Because it was an older woman who threw them out on their behind and they can’t take it. Even the dating of a young woman is done not out of genuine desire, but spite and a desperate desire to get back at the woman who didn’t see their value. Hence the fixation never really goes away

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

What a 5'6 male thing to say.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

It's weird how when you're out with your young hot wife you're still focused on old ladies.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

It's weird how when you're out with your young hot wife you're still focused on old ladies.

One thing about this is plenty of men would love to date the attractive women their own age, but the problem is they don’t have the money or status to do so. A 26 year old is going to be impressed if you have a car (any car), job making 100k, and a house (any house). Successful 40 something women are looking for a lot more than that and have no desire to overlook the red flags with an overgrown man baby who couldn’t get married 20 years ago when all his male peers were getting picked. The reality is the hot and desirable men get snatched up young

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Anonymous wrote:I would correct this thread title to “Good looking divorced 40s women”.
Yes, they do, particular if they are empty nesters.
It’s in fact much better for me at 46 than what it was at 24. Both in terms of the men’s quality and what they are looking for in long term relationships
I’m 46, my dating range for men is 42-59 so far. All for LTR never did flings . I had 2 serious relationships post divorce (at 42), both men were talking marriage. They were 1 year younger and 7 years older from my age, respectively.

You are very realistic and honestly a catch. Most women your age on this forum talk about men under 35. I am surprised you would even entertain going past 40 because we know on this forum women your age not only go much younger but often view man past 40 as sexually done

I don’t go younger/under 40. I like to feel the “more beautiful”, person when coupled. His baby, an arm candy elevating my man. So he can be strong and smart and show me off around.

I am in love. How can I meet you? I am 45 recently divorced. Physically fit ...let me stop lol otherwise I will end up giving you my number without realizing it .

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

I am not buying that a 46-year-old man who just knocked up his 26-year-old wife is on this particular forum, on this particular thread, so riled up that he hast to post this drivel.

Your post screams 400 pound man posting from his mom‘s basement.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

lol keep fantasizing that older women are seething in rage at the image of you with your wife. The reality is most of them left behind an older man exactly like you, and zero part of them is fantasizing about the 40 year old potbellied baldy pushing around a baby. Why is it men want the approval and attention of older women so bad? Why can’t you just be happy with your young wife? Why do you have to concoct this fantasy that younger women are staring with lust and envy and rage? You sound like a loser.

I've been wondering this as well: Why is the person or persons so riled up about a certain demographic not being interested in them? They claim to not be interested either, so it's a mutual no.

Because it was an older woman who threw them out on their behind and they can’t take it. Even the dating of a young woman is done not out of genuine desire, but spite and a desperate desire to get back at the woman who didn’t see their value. Hence the fixation never really goes away

I am 45. I would love to meet and even marry a 26 years old in an IDEAL world..but I am realistic. I cannot offer anything to a 26 years old at my age. And sexually although I consider myself still really good she would be better better of with a 26 years clone of me from the past.

Personally I think am older woman is better off with a younger man especially if she wants to have some control over the relationship. Younger men tend be more open to changes and pleasing their partners than men my age. Most men my age are stubborn in their way and will not want to make changes to please a new woman. Another reason I believe older divorced women are better off with younger men has to with love. I think a lot of divorced women have not given up on love. The same cannot be said of men. Many of us to be honest are done with that. So an older woman going with a younger guy will enjoy better quality years of companionship with a younger man.