Son marrying a woman with no career

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Anonymous wrote:My son is still a teen but I am planning to talk to him about opening a separate account in my name and putting part of his earnings there. It will be mine on paper but de facto it will be his to invest or spend the way he sees fit. It can be framed as parental support or something like that so that it’s not part of the divorce settlement. That way he doesn’t have to have an uncomfortable conversation about a prenup but he is also protected if something happens.
So no, if he agreed I would be ok with a DIL like you described.

Extreme paranoia and this person ^^ is likely creating a bizarrely extreme version of the mamma's boy...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

My niece has been modeling since toddler-hood and at 27 owns a house in LA. No college. Straight A's from private school K-12. Her mom (my gorgeous sister) paid for that schooling with her cocktail waitressing job in Vegas. She has 160 college credits, 3.8GPA while working full-time but no degree.

Some people have no clue there are imaginative ways of life to be successful.

I don’t understand the comment.

Everyone knows you can become a multi millionaire as an actor, but less than 1% achieve that status.

Same for musicians, models and other similar professions. College doesn’t help you in any way in these professions, so nobody cares about it.

I will comment that rarely do successful artists want their kids to pursue the same path with no college. Hence why Paltrow’s kids are in college…Affleck’s kids…etc.

They realize how hard a business it is and how unique a person you need to be successful.

PP from 13:39 here.

There are so many inaccuracies here that I'll just say ... yes -- you "don't understand the comment."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

My niece has been modeling since toddler-hood and at 27 owns a house in LA. No college. Straight A's from private school K-12. Her mom (my gorgeous sister) paid for that schooling with her cocktail waitressing job in Vegas. She has 160 college credits, 3.8GPA while working full-time but no degree.

Some people have no clue there are imaginative ways of life to be successful.

I don’t understand the comment.

Everyone knows you can become a multi millionaire as an actor, but less than 1% achieve that status.

Same for musicians, models and other similar professions. College doesn’t help you in any way in these professions, so nobody cares about it.

I will comment that rarely do successful artists want their kids to pursue the same path with no college. Hence why Paltrow’s kids are in college…Affleck’s kids…etc.

They realize how hard a business it is and how unique a person you need to be successful.

PP from 13:39 here.

There are so many inaccuracies here that I'll just say ... yes -- you "don't understand the comment."

There aren’t any inaccuracies here whatsoever.

Explain the stupid comment then. It made non sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is still a teen but I am planning to talk to him about opening a separate account in my name and putting part of his earnings there. It will be mine on paper but de facto it will be his to invest or spend the way he sees fit. It can be framed as parental support or something like that so that it’s not part of the divorce settlement. That way he doesn’t have to have an uncomfortable conversation about a prenup but he is also protected if something happens.
So no, if he agreed I would be ok with a DIL like you described.

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I feel sorry for your future DIL. Hopefully your son realizes what a nutter you are. You’re also going to eff up his lifetime gift exemption if he has a large estate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My son is still a teen but I am planning to talk to him about opening a separate account in my name and putting part of his earnings there. It will be mine on paper but de facto it will be his to invest or spend the way he sees fit. It can be framed as parental support or something like that so that it’s not part of the divorce settlement. That way he doesn’t have to have an uncomfortable conversation about a prenup but he is also protected if something happens.
So no, if he agreed I would be ok with a DIL like you described.

C R A Z Y
I feel sorry for your future DIL. Hopefully your son realizes what a nutter you are. You’re also going to eff up his lifetime gift exemption if he has a large estate.

Fukkin red flags 🚩 the MIL is Nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

My niece has been modeling since toddler-hood and at 27 owns a house in LA. No college. Straight A's from private school K-12. Her mom (my gorgeous sister) paid for that schooling with her cocktail waitressing job in Vegas. She has 160 college credits, 3.8GPA while working full-time but no degree.

Some people have no clue there are imaginative ways of life to be successful.

Who's gonna tell her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

My niece has been modeling since toddler-hood and at 27 owns a house in LA. No college. Straight A's from private school K-12. Her mom (my gorgeous sister) paid for that schooling with her cocktail waitressing job in Vegas. She has 160 college credits, 3.8GPA while working full-time but no degree.

Some people have no clue there are imaginative ways of life to be successful.

Well, she is about to age out of modeling , if she has not already.

The girl still does not have a degree, or obvious plan B. So, if she was my daughter I would rather that she had one or two degrees by now, instead of a house .

[Anonymous]

That raises an interesting question:

Is past spending a factor in asset division?

If a spouse spends or gives away half their earnings, of they get less in the split?

If a spouse hides their earnings like that before divorce, with intent to defraud daily court, is actionable?

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine if the scenario was reversed that anyone would be super supportive of their daughter marrying a late 20s minimum wage guy.

Yes, 1 in 1000 of those guys go on to some great career, but 999 end up as minimum wage workers for or generally underemployed for life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

Except if he hadn’t broken up with you and I guess you might have married him, you probably would never have become a lawyer.

Not sure what the moral of your story is.

It seems like OP’s son breaking off the engagement is the best thing that can happen to this girl.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

Except if he hadn’t broken up with you and I guess you might have married him, you probably would never have become a lawyer.

Not sure what the moral of your story is.

It seems like OP’s son breaking off the engagement is the best thing that can happen to this girl.

What? Of course I would have become a lawyer. I was a champion debater in high school -- it was kind of inevitable.

[Anonymous]

As a parent, I say MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is still a teen but I am planning to talk to him about opening a separate account in my name and putting part of his earnings there. It will be mine on paper but de facto it will be his to invest or spend the way he sees fit. It can be framed as parental support or something like that so that it’s not part of the divorce settlement. That way he doesn’t have to have an uncomfortable conversation about a prenup but he is also protected if something happens.
So no, if he agreed I would be ok with a DIL like you described.

You are a fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

Except if he hadn’t broken up with you and I guess you might have married him, you probably would never have become a lawyer.

Not sure what the moral of your story is.

It seems like OP’s son breaking off the engagement is the best thing that can happen to this girl.

What? Of course I would have become a lawyer. I was a champion debater in high school -- it was kind of inevitable.

Then… why didn’t you do that out of college? Why were you aimless for 5+ years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son is still a teen but I am planning to talk to him about opening a separate account in my name and putting part of his earnings there. It will be mine on paper but de facto it will be his to invest or spend the way he sees fit. It can be framed as parental support or something like that so that it’s not part of the divorce settlement. That way he doesn’t have to have an uncomfortable conversation about a prenup but he is also protected if something happens.
So no, if he agreed I would be ok with a DIL like you described.

C R A Z Y
I feel sorry for your future DIL. Hopefully your son realizes what a nutter you are. You’re also going to eff up his lifetime gift exemption if he has a large estate.

Fukkin red flags 🚩 the MIL is Nuts.

I am no gold digger and have always made more than Dh. I would divorce his ass if he and his mom had a secret bank account just to keep money away from me. Money earned during a marriage is half mine. Half the reason I would want to divorce is because what kind of monster husband agrees with their mom?