Son marrying a woman with no career

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be happy about it at all. Some of these responses are crazy. I’m sure if genders were flipped the responses might change a little.

I would like my children to marry someone who matches or compliments their ambitions and achievements. What OP is describing doesn’t sound like it to me.

Depends. Many ambitious men and women want someone who can support their ambitions by managing house and kids.

[Anonymous]

If your son loses his job or becomes sick or disabled, would this woman step up and find higher paying work or take on extra jobs for income? What is the backup plan here?

I’ve told my 12th grader to never date, marry or bring home any dumb, lazy and/or mean women, unless he wants a lifetime of grief and being taken for granted. Unambitious with no career at almost 30 yrs old falls under one of the first 2 categories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your son loses his job or becomes sick or disabled, would this woman step up and find higher paying work or take on extra jobs for income? What is the backup plan here?

I’ve told my 12th grader to never date, marry or bring home any dumb, lazy and/or mean women, unless he wants a lifetime of grief and being taken for granted. Unambitious with no career at almost 30 yrs old falls under one of the first 2 categories.

Well OP's son should keep enough life, dependent and self disability insurance. She has a job so can get health insurance or they can do COBRA or Obamacare. She isn't ambitious and has job flexibility to care for him and home. He can't depend on high earning one to actually physically or financially stand by him and not abandon with prenup and divorce.

[Anonymous]

It's interesting how everyone just assumes that because she has a dead-end career that she really wants to be a stay-at-home mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about your son (who has a semi lucrative career but nothing crazy) marrying a woman who is college educated but makes close to minimum wage in her late 20’s? This is my son. She’s pretty and nice but has no career or money of her own. They’re both the same age.

stay out of it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about your son (who has a semi lucrative career but nothing crazy) marrying a woman who is college educated but makes close to minimum wage in her late 20’s? This is my son. She’s pretty and nice but has no career or money of her own. They’re both the same age.

Perfect for Gilead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about your son (who has a semi lucrative career but nothing crazy) marrying a woman who is college educated but makes close to minimum wage in her late 20’s? This is my son. She’s pretty and nice but has no career or money of her own. They’re both the same age.

Pretty
Nice
Educated
Employed
Relationship skills
Similar age

She sounds fine if not ideal but she can go back to grad school and improve her earning potential. How are her parents financially? Would they be helping her in life or would need her help? Does she have college or credit loans?

[Anonymous]

A college friend married someone nonchalant with low ambition against his family's opposition, only to find out her net-worth was more than his whole family combined through a trust from her god mother. However, she gave most of it away to her own nephews and charities as she didn't care for money or children.

[Anonymous]

If that's who makes him happy and they are figuring out their own finances, it's on them. Some women are content not to be career-ambitious and that's ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that's who makes him happy and they are figuring out their own finances, it's on them. Some women are content not to be career-ambitious and that's ok.

That's not okay because it doesn't align with collective's narrative and outliers make collective uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? She’s employed. If they have kids she will probably be more involved than a work at home mom. Money isn’t everything.

[Anonymous]

OP I would just be glad that your DS found his SO. So many adults (20 - 40) are never finding their soul mate. Its sad to live your life alone IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be happy about it at all. Some of these responses are crazy. I’m sure if genders were flipped the responses might change a little.

I would like my children to marry someone who matches or compliments their ambitions and achievements. What OP is describing doesn’t sound like it to me.

Well I agree that is what most parents want. But ultimately it is up to the kid to decide who they fall in love with and what they want out of life. I know plenty of marriages that are good where one person "wants a lot more from life/career mostly" and they are successful and happy couple.

[Anonymous]

I would want my kids to marry hard workers. That’s a quality that will always come in handy. Wouldn’t care if it is the hardest working Starbucks barista, homemaker or doctor. Whatever it is I would want them to partner w a contributor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting how everyone just assumes that because she has a dead-end career that she really wants to be a stay-at-home mom

I was just thinking this. Shows the sexist double standard of how little we think of women. It couldn’t be because she is looking to expand her horizons or she is still young or she will eventually move up. No she must be a SAHM