High Value Man - AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP?

30s.

[Anonymous]

HVM:

1. You break your leg during your favorite sport SkiFishRockGliding. How do you not pack on the pounds during your convalescence? How do you maintain fitness? Who gives you rides to work?

2. You meet a HVL and really hit it off. How many days until you text her?

3. You have an Executive Business Trip coming up. Do you invite the potential HVL (early days so risky) to join you and try to impress her with the Bellagio accommodations, or do you look up some old flames (too Low Value for permanance) and try to get some sweet hookups?

4. Every time you break up with the aforementioned "too Low Values" --2LVs- do they go on to find true love and get married?

[Anonymous]

give any woman 1 hour and ask her what she is looking for in a high value man. She will ask you for an extra hour to tell you everything she is looking for in that man.

Give a man 1 hour and ask him what he is looking for in a high value woman. In 2 mins he is done.

If you have so much free time to sit around and think about what women want honestly just stay single make a lot of money and hire escorts when you are horny. You will save yourself a lot of headaches

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

So...none? In the past month, you've not found a woman willing to go on more than two dates with you? Interesting.

Also "if things came to that" means if things came to what? If they had no more options?

I'm not in the dating market right now and even when I was there were periods when I was so consumed with other endeavors that I was not tallying up the number of dates I had been on. I have had four serious relationships if that is what you are asking.

If it came to that means that if in the future we both found ourselves single and I expressed desire to rekindle, they would likely not be opposed. People change and you never know, but that is the impression I have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You arent a high value man if you are still single past 30. Sorry not sorry. All the good ones (the actual good ones, not whatever you think you are) are snapped up early and stay committed.

Sorry, you're just wrong. Would you say that about a woman who is single past the age of 30? Thought so.

So you can't get a woman.
And you can't keep a woman.

How are you any value at all?

This has already been addressed. Thnx.

I just re-read the thread and don't see it mentioned. So why can't you get or keep a girlfriend, let alone a wife? How can you say you are high value if no one wants it? Isnt that the basis of supply and demand?

I have already addressed what is meant by value and what some indicators are. Still, I think your framing is a bit askew. There is a difference between having inbound interest and you entertaining that interest. I am coupled up and out of the dating market, but still get intermittent inquiries and expressions of interest.

Does your boyfriend know you are trolling for attention on mommy forums?

Ask yourself why your impulse is to resort to homophobic insinuations and then have a word with yourself. Do better.

DP. I had assumed the first poster was a woman challenging OP, not another man. You thought it was one male poster challenging another on whether he got enough female attention?

What do you think the purpose of invoking a "boyfriend" in that context would be?

Mocking the poster for saying she was coupled, but still got it on, and was still looking for attention on anonymous forum. Maybe it resonated with me because I find the people who say they have a partner and talk about getting hitting on are usually seeking attention.
What did you think?

[Anonymous]

Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:HVM:

1. You break your leg during your favorite sport SkiFishRockGliding. How do you not pack on the pounds during your convalescence? How do you maintain fitness? Who gives you rides to work?

This a bit of what I was referring to earlier in the thread. I have good genetics, so I don't pack on weight that easily and when I do, it does not take me that long to get into fairly decent shape with a few months of consistent cardio or in the gym. This is pure luck. I don't have a typical 9-5, so rides to work are not needed. I would probably just take most meetings or calls from home until recovered.

2. You meet a HVL and really hit it off. How many days until you text her?

When I was on the market, it depended on what was going but usually within 3 days. I generally preferred not to play games counting days. If I got the sense that a woman was engaging in those shenanigans, I lost interest fairly quickly.

3. You have an Executive Business Trip coming up. Do you invite the potential HVL (early days so risky) to join you and try to impress her with the Bellagio accommodations, or do you look up some old flames (too Low Value for permanance) and try to get some sweet hookups?

Neither. Business is business. Stay focused on your purpose and limit distractions. If you need to angle to impress a woman with the Bellagio, I would have questions about the man and the woman in that scenario. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy nice hotels and nice trips, but it's not really something you use to try to impress women, it's just an outgrowth of the life you have built for yourself

4. Every time you break up with the aforementioned "too Low Values" --2LVs- do they go on to find true love and get married?

Not every time. A few of them have pretty exacting standards and it's harder to find men that meet their standards the older they have gotten.

Answers in italics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you such a loser?

I was a dork in high school and still harbor resentments.

And guess what, you have joined the ranks of the all the other dorks who get some mediocre job on the Hill and a bit of money and think they finally have a seat at the cool kids' table, but you're still a dork.

Found the guy who never got out of Ass Crack, Ohio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP?

30s.

So 30s and unmarried - is there a reason? Are you waiting for the right HV woman? Why did your last relationships end? Are you going to propose to your current partner?

[Anonymous]

I'm 5 ft 6, 51, make 88,000 a year (in DC) and I've never once been turned down by a woman. I've slept with 70+ easily and they were all at least an 8.

Women aren't hard to figure out. Most they like being listened too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite:

1) What is your biggest fear, and how much of your life is spent/has been spent trying to avoid it?

My biggest fear is dying young and leaving those close to me vulnerable. I've tried to pay close attention to fitness and diet. In some senses I have not been great at avoiding certain aspects of this, because I deal with a lot of stress. This weighs on me a lot.

2) What has been your greatest joy in your 30(ish) years on the planet so far?

Honestly, I really enjoyed college. It was a time of a lot of learning and growth and I had a great deal of exposure to some incredibly talented and bright people from very different walks of life. It's very tough to recreate that dynamic and freedom in the working world. Beyond that, I get a tremendous amount of joy from investing in friends and family and watching them blossom. I'm a bit selfish in that I like to see the tangible fruits of my "investments". Seeing that sort of thing up close and personal is more appealing to me than contributing to some macro cause on which I probably won't make a dent.

3) If money were no issue, where would you live, what would you do there, and why?

I like Capetown a lot, but it would probably be somewhere in the States that is a smaller town but with a major city close by. I would read and write more and cultivate hobbies that I have forgone. I would also try to recreate the vibe I mention in the previous answer with friends and interesting people just getting together and talking. I would also try to get really immersed in a smaller community. This is something that is increasingly lacking with increased geographic mobility in modern society. I don't think money will be the limiting or determinative factor though. It will be the degree to which I can scale back ambition.

4) Do you have any pets? If so, plz describe.

No pets.

Answers in italics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP?

30s.

So 30s and unmarried - is there a reason? Are you waiting for the right HV woman? Why did your last relationships end? Are you going to propose to your current partner?

The biggest reason is I have taken lot of risks in business and that does not always leave as much excess capacity as I would like. I've grown from my younger years and from the scar tissue though. Yes, I think so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5 ft 6, 51, make 88,000 a year (in DC) and I've never once been turned down by a woman. I've slept with 70+ easily and they were all at least an 8.

Women aren't hard to figure out. Most they like being listened too.

Congrats? I believe you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

Omg. This is better than anything on Comedy Central.