Whose Responsibility?

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Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.

It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.

FFS. They weren't going to retract her her offer until she had a chance to get the last of her paperwork in. A few students make this mistake every year. It needs to be fixed, but it's not the huge deal that you are making it out to be. It was a mistake. It was fixed. That's all the university wanted you to do.

The only way they would have retracted her offer is if you didn't fix the problem after at least a couple of warnings that there was a problem.

Exactly.

OP needs to chill on this one.

DP but transcripts were due like three weeks ago, so it's very likely it was waaaay overdue. Which also points to the school at fault.

You clearly are not up to speed. From OPs account - the school sent to UNC-Wilmington instead of UNC-Chapel Hill and when she called the HS to inquire, they said the DD had chosen Wilmington by mistake on a computer form drop down menu. OP is saying the HS lied about this....is looking for heads to chop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The counselor shouldn’t have placed blame with your daughter. It’s very irritating and low class when employees do this. She should have said, “Oh no! I will get them the transcript right away. No worries! So sorry that happened.”

I think you are thinking about 30-40 years ago. Now, there are so many tiger parents who try to blame everything including the student's errors on the school and school staff. Because of this, school employees have to be very clear when there was an error by the student that cause the problem. So many people blame the school and school employees for student errors that school employees now have to be defensive and establish when it was a problem created by the student to protect themselves.

OP is one of those parents who will try to blame the school and employees for her child's problem and error. She was already told that her child picked the wrong school from the drop down menu, but she is adamant that she find a way to blame the school for this error. She claims that she has moved on, but even though the problem is resolved, she is still trying to find a way to blame the school for the problem created by her child. I can't wait to see what she does when her child graduates from school and tries to get a job and loses the job because she did not send information that the employers asked for and they rescind an offer. Is Mommy going to call the corporate HR department to tell them that they need to hire her snowflake even though she can't follow directions?

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Nothing happened. This was resolved in days as you said. Let it go. Let it go.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD was admitted to UNC Chapel Hill. Yesterday, they called and said her admission is on hold because they never received her final HS transcript.

After much poking around and an hour on the phone with Parchment and three Chapel Hill AOs, we learned that the transcript was sent to UNC Wilmington, not UNC Chapel Hill.

We emailed her HS's college counselor who explained (we think) that this was my DD's fault. They allege that she 'mis selected' the school on a drop down somewhere. I find this very hard to believe as everything else Chapel Hill needed was given to them with no problem. Follow up emails to get clarity on what exactly happened have not been answered.

This is a large, well known, HS in the DC area. All seems to be rectified now after we emailed the counselor's boss who quickly sent the transcript. I have no problem admitting it was my DD's error if that is the case, but I'd like to know.

Does a HS have no part in verifying that they are sending the correct transcript to the correct school?

* School details have been changed to protect her identity.

It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.

Everything was resolved. You have manufactured a crisis where there is none. Your "what if" could not have happened. The whole point of your second sentence was that the university reviewed her admission documents, determined she was missing something and called the student (although you answered and fielded the question for your child) to let her know that something was missing. They were not going to "simply retract her offer". They found the omission and called the student to have the student follow up. This allowed the student to call the school and ensure that a transcript had been sent, or if, as the case happened, there was an error, she could request a new transcript be sent. Then she could call the admission office back and let them know that the issue was being resolved and a transcript was on the way.

You need to really move on and let it go. Nothing catastrophic happened and the situation was resolved. Your faux outrage to try and spin this so that it was the school's fault instead of your daughter's fault is sophomoric and you need to be an adult now.

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Anonymous wrote:The counselor shouldn’t have placed blame with your daughter. It’s very irritating and low class when employees do this. She should have said, “Oh no! I will get them the transcript right away. No worries! So sorry that happened.”

Public school employees are not in the service economy

And the counselor is not your daughter's employer. H/she is tasked with supporting her becoming a responsible adult, not keeping her business!

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OP about to have a REALLY hard time with her DD attending college if she's this worked up over something this simple. Yikes

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Sounds like she’s not ready for college. Have you considered a gap year or community college?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, the majority of you are not only rude af, but you are wrong. The college AO called us to say everything was squared away and nothing more was needed " after the HS corrected their error"

They admitted to them that they sent it to the wrong school.

Or that's what they said. I've often taken the blame for stuff like this because it honestly doesn't matter. They fixed the problem. You need to land your helicopter. Your kid is watching you act like a nut.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she’s not ready for college. Have you considered a gap year or community college?

This is like the 24th time you've posted in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:OP about to have a REALLY hard time with her DD attending college if she's this worked up over something this simple. Yikes

I can't wait for mom to post more things that are other people's fault all through college! It's great drama. Freshman year here we come!

OP, you need an identifier like Picklist Mom (because yah guys messed up a picklist selection)

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Anonymous wrote:My DD was admitted to UNC Chapel Hill. Yesterday, they called and said her admission is on hold because they never received her final HS transcript.

After much poking around and an hour on the phone with Parchment and three Chapel Hill AOs, we learned that the transcript was sent to UNC Wilmington, not UNC Chapel Hill.

We emailed her HS's college counselor who explained (we think) that this was my DD's fault. They allege that she 'mis selected' the school on a drop down somewhere. I find this very hard to believe as everything else Chapel Hill needed was given to them with no problem. Follow up emails to get clarity on what exactly happened have not been answered.

This is a large, well known, HS in the DC area. All seems to be rectified now after we emailed the counselor's boss who quickly sent the transcript. I have no problem admitting it was my DD's error if that is the case, but I'd like to know.

Does a HS have no part in verifying that they are sending the correct transcript to the correct school?

* School details have been changed to protect her identity.

She's admitted and the mistake was quickly rectified. Move on.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.

It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.

That's exactly what this is. You sound psycho.

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Anonymous wrote:OP about to have a REALLY hard time with her DD attending college if she's this worked up over something this simple. Yikes

I'm genuinely concerned with both the post and the follow-ups, about OPs well-being/mental state. The time period of sending your kid off to school is a stressful one and it can set people off in strange ways.

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Anonymous wrote:OP about to have a REALLY hard time with her DD attending college if she's this worked up over something this simple. Yikes

I'm genuinely concerned with both the post and the follow-ups, about OPs well-being/mental state. The time period of sending your kid off to school is a stressful one and it can set people off in strange ways.

+1

Getting strong mental illness vibes. Cheers to the DD for choosing an OOS school.

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Anonymous wrote:Are people really trying to convince others that high schools never send the wrong transcripts? They are infallible? That is the oddest thing about this thread. Are all these people admins in the guidance office?

Nope. Just that it doesn’t matter who was at fault in this case. Because the problem was solved. Without harm. So it’s time to stop the blame conversation and let it go.