"Don't Text Me So Early!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PPs saying learn to silence your phones are clueless about real life with teens and elderly parents. Calls and texts can come from any number in an emergency. Enjoy your years of having the luxury to silence your phones or choose phone numbers that can break through. That is not real life with teens and elderly parents. Or maybe you don’t care if you are reachable in an emergency. I which case, be my guest and silence your phones.

In this case, SIL could silence notifications from OP. Problem solved.

She can moving forward. She probably thought it was a good idea to be able to receive texts from her in case her sibling had an emergency and didn't realize that op was is an inconsiderate ogre

Who is texting someone in a true emergency??

Everyone.

You're wrong.
Op was wrong.
Stop you're trolling and what ifs and deflecting.
Learn from this and do better

Someone texting me in an emergency will likely have to wait hours for a response. If you need immediate help, it’s always best to call.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PPs saying learn to silence your phones are clueless about real life with teens and elderly parents. Calls and texts can come from any number in an emergency. Enjoy your years of having the luxury to silence your phones or choose phone numbers that can break through. That is not real life with teens and elderly parents. Or maybe you don’t care if you are reachable in an emergency. I which case, be my guest and silence your phones.

In this case, SIL could silence notifications from OP. Problem solved.

She can moving forward. She probably thought it was a good idea to be able to receive texts from her in case her sibling had an emergency and didn't realize that op was is an inconsiderate ogre

Who is texting someone in a true emergency??

Everyone.

You're wrong.
Op was wrong.
Stop you're trolling and what ifs and deflecting.
Learn from this and do better

Someone texting me in an emergency will likely have to wait hours for a response. If you need immediate help, it’s always best to call.

Some emergencies are more pressing. A text in emergencies is not unheard of.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PPs saying learn to silence your phones are clueless about real life with teens and elderly parents. Calls and texts can come from any number in an emergency. Enjoy your years of having the luxury to silence your phones or choose phone numbers that can break through. That is not real life with teens and elderly parents. Or maybe you don’t care if you are reachable in an emergency. I which case, be my guest and silence your phones.

In this case, SIL could silence notifications from OP. Problem solved.

She can moving forward. She probably thought it was a good idea to be able to receive texts from her in case her sibling had an emergency and didn't realize that op was is an inconsiderate ogre

Who is texting someone in a true emergency??

Everyone.

You're wrong.
Op was wrong.
Stop you're trolling and what ifs and deflecting.
Learn from this and do better

Someone texting me in an emergency will likely have to wait hours for a response. If you need immediate help, it’s always best to call.

I would be concerned if I received a text that early. An invite is not worth this early morning text; that would annoy me as it would have raised concern prior to reading it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're in the wrong. Period.

+1. Op is wrong. Nothing more, nothing less.

Strongly disagree. There are no limits on texts, only calls.

No one wants unlimited texts at all hours of the day and night including yourself.
You’re a hypocrite and rude.

Of course no one wants unlimited texts but I know how to silence my phone when notifications would be inappropriate. I wouldn’t expect everyone to know my schedule.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're in the wrong. Period.

+1. Op is wrong. Nothing more, nothing less.

Strongly disagree. There are no limits on texts, only calls.

No one wants unlimited texts at all hours of the day and night including yourself.
You’re a hypocrite and rude.

Of course no one wants unlimited texts but I know how to silence my phone when notifications would be inappropriate. I wouldn’t expect everyone to know my schedule.

No one needs to know your schedule to know that an invite is not needing an answer at this early hour.
No one should have to silence their phone because you need to know an answer about a party. You aren’t that special.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're in the wrong. Period.

+1. Op is wrong. Nothing more, nothing less.

Strongly disagree. There are no limits on texts, only calls.

No one wants unlimited texts at all hours of the day and night including yourself.
You’re a hypocrite and rude.

Of course no one wants unlimited texts but I know how to silence my phone when notifications would be inappropriate. I wouldn’t expect everyone to know my schedule.

Which is why no one should text this early. You agree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work 7p-7a. I realize I'm the odd one out so keep my texts 8a-9p. She could have handled this better, but you really shouldn't text so early, especially for family members who probably have your numbers on the list of contacts to go around the DND

Who keeps their SIL as a break through emergency contact?

NP. I do. She lives close to my elderly ILs. DH and I would want to know if anything is going on, and she’d likely text both of us if something were happening. Yes, she would call if one of them died, but she’d probably text if it was, like, “We just arrived at the ER because FIL was having chest pains; they’re doing his initial checks now. Will update soon.”

This SIL is married to her brother. She'd want to know if something happened to him. Think about this from her perspective. She was probably jolted out of bed thinking there was an emergency. Now she can't go back to sleep due to adrenaline and might have been woken up at at bad part of the sleep cycle that will affect her whole day. That's what she was reacting to.

Plus it was rude to text her about a non-emergency that early. Her only potential rudeness was not saying please, but setting the boundary itself was not rude.

Indeed. I bet she is at the ER right now getting diagnosed with PTSD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PPs saying learn to silence your phones are clueless about real life with teens and elderly parents. Calls and texts can come from any number in an emergency. Enjoy your years of having the luxury to silence your phones or choose phone numbers that can break through. That is not real life with teens and elderly parents. Or maybe you don’t care if you are reachable in an emergency. I which case, be my guest and silence your phones.

+1. My MIL has dementia and lives at home w my FIL who cares for her. We have gotten calls related to something w my in laws many different numbers over the years, often unrecognizable numbers to us. I’d never silence any numbers. I do silence texts though. People don’t really text if it’s an emergency in my experience…they always call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if its ok to text???

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

Not really. What you are really saying is people have to out think those that are too dumb to know how to use their phone. There are simple settings that allow any call or text to come through even when a phone is silenced or on do not disturb. My phone, for instance, can be set to never silence notifications from certain people. Other settings allow any number (in your contacts or not) to get through if two attempts are made back to back. The police and hospitals know this so they will always call multiple times.

Don't encumber me because you don't know how to use your own phone.

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How about controlling your impulses like an adult and wait for a decent hour? The world does not revolve around you.

Those of us with older parents who are not familiar with how to "break through" or maybe we have our teen out and want to be alerted to a strange number calling in the middle of night because of an accident. Because, ahem, it may not be the police calling. JFC.

You sound like a crappy child, to be honest. Why don't you teach your elderly parents how to use the phone? Heck, why not set it up for them?

Me me me me indeed. You can't even look after your own mom!

[Anonymous]

1) people rarely text if something is an emergency. An emergency typically warrants an actual phone call. I therefore do not silence calls from any number bc I’ve sometimes gotten calls from unknown numbers that were indeed urgent. I do silence text notifications though as like I said in an emergency people will almost certainly call rather than text.
2) morning people who think everyone else must be up and responding to non urgent texts in the 6am hour are super annoying. I’m a night owl. I don’t text people after 8pm unless they text me first so I know for sure they’re up. Bc I know a lot of my friends and relatives go to bed early. They do not extend me that same courtesy. I am rarely up before 7:30 on weekdays and 8 weekends and will sleep later if I can plus don’t want first order of business in the morning to be RSVP’ing to a grad party! so I’d prefer ppl don’t bother me w a text that can wait til 9-10am

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I’d never text someone that early (or anytime before 8 and really I usually wait til 9:30-10 to text just to be sure) unless it was really urgent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I turn on DND on individual people who I know lack the social graces not to contact me early in the morning, late at night, or will continuously blow up my phone during the workday. That’s not a problem with most and there are legitimate business reasons why my phone needs to alert me to things out of the social grace timeframes.

You can also hide alerts for any text conversation. I do this for chains with groups of more than two people because they can blow up and I don't want my phone vibrating 47 times while I'm doing something else.

Correct. I have a years long 7 person college grup text going that is basically running dialouge of all of our lives. I keep it muted and check on it every couple days.

The luddite is strong with the old lasdies on this board.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

There are settings that take care of all of this

There area settings that take care of op not sending unimportant text at inappropriate times.

You're wrong. Iphones (which 99% of the people I know own) can't schedule timed delivery of texts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Learn and use your phone settings.

Like SIL who will learn to use the block feature.

Yes. I'm sure we will all cry if she estranges herself from the family because she got a text early one Saturday morning.