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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

I'm not sure a human being could be more removed from the "club world" than I am and yet I could follow the two lines of instructions that were detailed in both email and print form.

Unless this kid's parents are illiterate or senile they too could manage this task and it's quite demeaning to say that they could not because they "are not in the club world."
Frankly my son managed this invitation process completely on his own as he too can read and comprehend two lines of type.

Did your son send in a check and then end up on the WL?

DP. No my kid was invited and attended and had a nice time but I did hear of this happening to that boy after the fact and was so sad for him. I can’t imagine the humiliation. Worse off CCC parents discussing it had zero empathy. I realized these are not my people.

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Does anyone see a problem with someone hosting a dance, requiring payment for the dance, and then not even ensuring that everyone can attend? I don't understand this at all. I'm clearly not in the world (and have no desire to be).

The invitation for the dance stated that interested kids should send in a check and spots would be filled in the order of postmarks and a waitlist formed if interest exceeded spots. Kids not attending would have their checks destroyed (not cashed).
It was all very clear and 99.9% of kids followed procedure (both those who got a spot and those or did not). It's not just a Cathedral school dance but one attended by multiple schools (independent and Catholic).
Judging by when my kid and friends returned their invites, they definitely went by postmarks.

I agree that a kid who showed up (presumably in error) should have been let in. But the procedure itself was not cryptic or shady. It was completely spelled out and transparent even for those of us who have absolutely no experience or personal contacts
in the CCC world. Doing invitations in this manner is a reasonable way to extend the invitation to a very large pool of students across 6-8 schools while ultimately complying with fire code and space rules and not going over an absolute number of attendees. I know people would complain even louder if the final list of attendees had been hand selected from the beginning.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

There’s a family in the senior class that likes to blackball people at their clubs for sport. They have been involved with blackballing at least a few families at CCC and I just heard that she’s trying to blackball another parent from joining another club she belongs to despite that parent having a lot of support. What a crazy lady!

ok, I"ll bite. If the other families are already members at CCC, how is this mom "blackballing" them?

DP. Reading the post it’s clear they’re not members but want to be. This kind of thing goes on all the time. I have friends who have been blackballed at CCC and the Sulgrave for various petty reasons. It is very junior high. Since my fam is not interested in joining clubs I just sit back with a bag of popcorn.

Sulgrave too? It is such a beautiful club and friends mentioned I should apply to join there but if they are doing this there then I have no interest. I just want to have a nice lunch on occasion or attend an event but I would not want to have a chance of a group of women who peaked in junior high to blackball me. This is all new to me. I would never and have never put in a negative word about anyone trying to join our clubs.

Sulgrave, CCC, and Congressional have significant membership overlap. The whole point of a social club is to exclude the wrong people.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

There’s a family in the senior class that likes to blackball people at their clubs for sport. They have been involved with blackballing at least a few families at CCC and I just heard that she’s trying to blackball another parent from joining another club she belongs to despite that parent having a lot of support. What a crazy lady!

ok, I"ll bite. If the other families are already members at CCC, how is this mom "blackballing" them?

DP. Reading the post it’s clear they’re not members but want to be. This kind of thing goes on all the time. I have friends who have been blackballed at CCC and the Sulgrave for various petty reasons. It is very junior high. Since my fam is not interested in joining clubs I just sit back with a bag of popcorn.

Sulgrave too? It is such a beautiful club and friends mentioned I should apply to join there but if they are doing this there then I have no interest. I just want to have a nice lunch on occasion or attend an event but I would not want to have a chance of a group of women who peaked in junior high to blackball me. This is all new to me. I would never and have never put in a negative word about anyone trying to join our clubs.

Sulgrave, CCC, and Congressional have significant membership overlap. The whole point of a social club is to exclude the wrong people.

I can think of three people blackballed that have much better reputations, better morals, kinder, and their family pedigrees are all in a much higher different league than the people that blackballed them so I think your theory is incorrect. It’s more about spite, jealousy, and trying to feel powerful.

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Ignore the clubsters. They are the worst. I would be embarrassed to be a member of Chevy and yes I have the money and have been asked to join.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

There’s a family in the senior class that likes to blackball people at their clubs for sport. They have been involved with blackballing at least a few families at CCC and I just heard that she’s trying to blackball another parent from joining another club she belongs to despite that parent having a lot of support. What a crazy lady!

ok, I"ll bite. If the other families are already members at CCC, how is this mom "blackballing" them?

DP. Reading the post it’s clear they’re not members but want to be. This kind of thing goes on all the time. I have friends who have been blackballed at CCC and the Sulgrave for various petty reasons. It is very junior high. Since my fam is not interested in joining clubs I just sit back with a bag of popcorn.

Sulgrave too? It is such a beautiful club and friends mentioned I should apply to join there but if they are doing this there then I have no interest. I just want to have a nice lunch on occasion or attend an event but I would not want to have a chance of a group of women who peaked in junior high to blackball me. This is all new to me. I would never and have never put in a negative word about anyone trying to join our clubs.

Sulgrave, CCC, and Congressional have significant membership overlap. The whole point of a social club is to exclude the wrong people.

Nice try, we all know the real problem at DMV privates is from the CCC a-holes. Plenty of Congo families in our private preschool and lower and upper schools, and never seen issues, and Sulgrave the average age is 80, isn’t it?

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Can anyone speak to the parent communities at the Catholic high schools when it comes to families moving in from public? Are they welcoming or is it already a closed circle? Both independents and diocesan high schools.

I have DC at two private Catholic HS. Both are fine. They socioeconomics are very diverse and no one really cares. One has a pretty significant role for parents and lots of opportunities to get involved and meet people. Everyone has been very nice.
Other has less of a role for parents, but people have been equally nice at meetings l, events and sitting in the bleachers.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

I'm not sure a human being could be more removed from the "club world" than I am and yet I could follow the two lines of instructions that were detailed in both email and print form.

Unless this kid's parents are illiterate or senile they too could manage this task and it's quite demeaning to say that they could not because they "are not in the club world."
Frankly my son managed this invitation process completely on his own as he too can read and comprehend two lines of type.

You were done, right? Probably would have done better to stay away.

You’re not doing STA’s image any favors by insulting other parents and the kid involved. Just displaying more of the smug @$$ jerk attitude that makes STA look bad.

This!! We've had our eye on STA for several years (husband is an alum), but a number of posts like this over the past two years really give us pause. Classes are small, the community is tight. But this string (and others) that devolve into food fights doesn't make it sound like a wonderful place whose community lives its values.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

I'm not sure a human being could be more removed from the "club world" than I am and yet I could follow the two lines of instructions that were detailed in both email and print form.

Unless this kid's parents are illiterate or senile they too could manage this task and it's quite demeaning to say that they could not because they "are not in the club world."
Frankly my son managed this invitation process completely on his own as he too can read and comprehend two lines of type.

You were done, right? Probably would have done better to stay away.

You’re not doing STA’s image any favors by insulting other parents and the kid involved. Just displaying more of the smug @$$ jerk attitude that makes STA look bad.

This!! We've had our eye on STA for several years (husband is an alum), but a number of posts like this over the past two years really give us pause. Classes are small, the community is tight. But this string (and others) that devolve into food fights doesn't make it sound like a wonderful place whose community lives its values.

Please don’t judge any school, public or private, based on DCUM threads.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

I'm not sure a human being could be more removed from the "club world" than I am and yet I could follow the two lines of instructions that were detailed in both email and print form.

Unless this kid's parents are illiterate or senile they too could manage this task and it's quite demeaning to say that they could not because they "are not in the club world."
Frankly my son managed this invitation process completely on his own as he too can read and comprehend two lines of type.

You were done, right? Probably would have done better to stay away.

You’re not doing STA’s image any favors by insulting other parents and the kid involved. Just displaying more of the smug @$$ jerk attitude that makes STA look bad.

This!! We've had our eye on STA for several years (husband is an alum), but a number of posts like this over the past two years really give us pause. Classes are small, the community is tight. But this string (and others) that devolve into food fights doesn't make it sound like a wonderful place whose community lives its values.

You apply and make the community better.

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I’m not sure if we are still answering the original question but…

…the parents at Burke have been warm, approachable and fun so far in my limited experience (2nd year). Our family was very purposefully in avoiding certain other schools listed here and this was one of the reasons. Why be forced to be around insufferable people for years on end?

I would rather read their anonymous thoughts on DCUM at my leisure.

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FWIW I’ve heard that Maret has a nice parent community.

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I take the point that “you apply and you make the community better” but you also have to wonder what the kids are like if the parents act badly.

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Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

We are a newish SR family, not club members. Both club and not club people have been friendly, and the girls have been nice to our daughter. The school has also had plentiful community events, which helps. My husband has really enjoyed the dad's club activities too. Has felt like something for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

I'm not sure a human being could be more removed from the "club world" than I am and yet I could follow the two lines of instructions that were detailed in both email and print form.

Unless this kid's parents are illiterate or senile they too could manage this task and it's quite demeaning to say that they could not because they "are not in the club world."
Frankly my son managed this invitation process completely on his own as he too can read and comprehend two lines of type.

You were done, right? Probably would have done better to stay away.

You’re not doing STA’s image any favors by insulting other parents and the kid involved. Just displaying more of the smug @$$ jerk attitude that makes STA look bad.

This!! We've had our eye on STA for several years (husband is an alum), but a number of posts like this over the past two years really give us pause. Classes are small, the community is tight. But this string (and others) that devolve into food fights doesn't make it sound like a wonderful place whose community lives its values.

We're not a club family by a long shot and we've loved STA. The teachers are phenomenal, the school is well run and my son is very happy.

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I found the parents at Holton to be very warm and inviting, but I know not every class is the same.