Nicest parent communities which schools?

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

We are a newish SR family, not club members. Both club and not club people have been friendly, and the girls have been nice to our daughter. The school has also had plentiful community events, which helps. My husband has really enjoyed the dad's club activities too. Has felt like something for everyone.

I have two friends there and they are considering applying out. They say the parent community is very clubby and not inclusive in their prospective grades.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

We are a newish SR family, not club members. Both club and not club people have been friendly, and the girls have been nice to our daughter. The school has also had plentiful community events, which helps. My husband has really enjoyed the dad's club activities too. Has felt like something for everyone.

I have two friends there and they are considering applying out. They say the parent community is very clubby and not inclusive in their prospective grades.

That’s interesting to hear. I have 2 girls at SR who have been there for years and because my spouse and I both work a lot we don’t participate in almost any of the social activities. We go to support our girls’ sports when we can but we don’t make much of an effort to reach out to other parents. We are not members of any country clubs and I hope we don’t seem like snobs, but maybe a new family would see us that way.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

We are a newish SR family, not club members. Both club and not club people have been friendly, and the girls have been nice to our daughter. The school has also had plentiful community events, which helps. My husband has really enjoyed the dad's club activities too. Has felt like something for everyone.

I have two friends there and they are considering applying out. They say the parent community is very clubby and not inclusive in their prospective grades.

That’s interesting to hear. I have 2 girls at SR who have been there for years and because my spouse and I both work a lot we don’t participate in almost any of the social activities. We go to support our girls’ sports when we can but we don’t make much of an effort to reach out to other parents. We are not members of any country clubs and I hope we don’t seem like snobs, but maybe a new family would see us that way.

No is taking offense at you because they don't even know you exist.

the snobby parents are those who attend every event but ignore anyone not in their clique. the ones you can meet 10 times because your kids are friends and yet they still look through you in the hallway.

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Sounds about right about SR and the Cathedral Schools. Maybe the same overlap of parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I found the parents at Holton to be very warm and inviting, but I know not every class is the same.

Same! There are a few annoying/clubby folks, but for the most part, down-to-earth and nice.

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Not holy trinity

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

We are a newish SR family, not club members. Both club and not club people have been friendly, and the girls have been nice to our daughter. The school has also had plentiful community events, which helps. My husband has really enjoyed the dad's club activities too. Has felt like something for everyone.

I have two friends there and they are considering applying out. They say the parent community is very clubby and not inclusive in their prospective grades.

I'm confused... If they are there what does prospective grades mean? Just upcoming year if they stayed on?

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are older now, but the parent group when we were at NPS was amazing.

Our kids are at NPS, and we’ve also found parents to be a great group! Generally down to earth.

Ditto!

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

We are a newish SR family, not club members. Both club and not club people have been friendly, and the girls have been nice to our daughter. The school has also had plentiful community events, which helps. My husband has really enjoyed the dad's club activities too. Has felt like something for everyone.

I have two friends there and they are considering applying out. They say the parent community is very clubby and not inclusive in their prospective grades.

I'm confused... If they are there what does prospective grades mean? Just upcoming year if they stayed on?

NP. They meant “respective”?

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

We are a newish SR family, not club members. Both club and not club people have been friendly, and the girls have been nice to our daughter. The school has also had plentiful community events, which helps. My husband has really enjoyed the dad's club activities too. Has felt like something for everyone.

I have two friends there and they are considering applying out. They say the parent community is very clubby and not inclusive in their prospective grades.

I'm confused... If they are there what does prospective grades mean? Just upcoming year if they stayed on?

NP. They meant “respective”?

This. Yes meant respective!

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The nicest school communities are the ones people don’t feel the need to come to DCUM to brag about or defend.

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Anonymous wrote:The nicest school communities are the ones people don’t feel the need to come to DCUM to brag about or defend.

Oh, I don’t know. There are tools in every school that brag and defend.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

There’s a family in the senior class that likes to blackball people at their clubs for sport. They have been involved with blackballing at least a few families at CCC and I just heard that she’s trying to blackball another parent from joining another club she belongs to despite that parent having a lot of support. What a crazy lady!

ok, I"ll bite. If the other families are already members at CCC, how is this mom "blackballing" them?

DP. Reading the post it’s clear they’re not members but want to be. This kind of thing goes on all the time. I have friends who have been blackballed at CCC and the Sulgrave for various petty reasons. It is very junior high. Since my fam is not interested in joining clubs I just sit back with a bag of popcorn.

Sulgrave too? It is such a beautiful club and friends mentioned I should apply to join there but if they are doing this there then I have no interest. I just want to have a nice lunch on occasion or attend an event but I would not want to have a chance of a group of women who peaked in junior high to blackball me. This is all new to me. I would never and have never put in a negative word about anyone trying to join our clubs.

Sulgrave, CCC, and Congressional have significant membership overlap. The whole point of a social club is to exclude the wrong people.

NP. Who are the wrong people? I can think of a few that belong to these clubs that would traditionally be the wrong people from their ill mannered behavior and lack of pedigree. Maybe some of the wrong people are actually already in?

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

There’s a family in the senior class that likes to blackball people at their clubs for sport. They have been involved with blackballing at least a few families at CCC and I just heard that she’s trying to blackball another parent from joining another club she belongs to despite that parent having a lot of support. What a crazy lady!

ok, I"ll bite. If the other families are already members at CCC, how is this mom "blackballing" them?

DP. Reading the post it’s clear they’re not members but want to be. This kind of thing goes on all the time. I have friends who have been blackballed at CCC and the Sulgrave for various petty reasons. It is very junior high. Since my fam is not interested in joining clubs I just sit back with a bag of popcorn.

Sulgrave too? It is such a beautiful club and friends mentioned I should apply to join there but if they are doing this there then I have no interest. I just want to have a nice lunch on occasion or attend an event but I would not want to have a chance of a group of women who peaked in junior high to blackball me. This is all new to me. I would never and have never put in a negative word about anyone trying to join our clubs.

Sulgrave, CCC, and Congressional have significant membership overlap. The whole point of a social club is to exclude the wrong people.

NP. Who are the wrong people? I can think of a few that belong to these clubs that would traditionally be the wrong people from their ill mannered behavior and lack of pedigree. Maybe some of the wrong people are actually already in?

Clearly the criteria is much higher for certain families. That is the answer.

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Anonymous wrote:The nicest school communities are the ones people don’t feel the need to come to DCUM to brag about or defend.

Oh, I don’t know. There are tools in every school that brag and defend.

And really nice people will also defend themselves if unjustly attacked.