Nicest parent communities which schools?

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Parent behavior matters a ton in younger grades because there are way more social events for the whole family or parents in the LS/MS years. In high school, there’s less but I do think parent attitudes and social circles filter into high schoolers behavior as it influences who that kid is. If they’ve spent their entire lives at the country club that’s going to come through. It’s also tough when huge swaths of the parent community already knows one another because they are all from the same parish/CC/grew up together. Their kids will have interacted a lot prior to HS too.

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Agree with the poster about parent personalities coming through during school tours!!!

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If your child plays a sport, I recommend going to some of the games to see how parents interact with each other. We ruled out a popular school because of rude the parents were.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

He had sent in his check etc…

Last year

my kids went this year and it's spelled out very clearly by written invite and email how the process works. it sounds like he did not read the instructions and just showed up. i don't see how this is the fault of anyone but this kid (and secondarily his parents). I'm the last person who will defend bad behavior by jerkish parents but when the invite clearly says "you must do X, Y and Z to claim your spot" and everyone complies but one kid who just shows up then this 100% on him. And if he's in high school (and STA at that) then he's clearly bright enough to read an invite and follow instructions.

There’s a concept of extending grace to people who make mistakes. Look it up. It’s part of the tenets of Christianity that St. Albans supposedly espouses.

+1 Shows a lack of grace and hospitality. One should accept the stranger at the door as Christ himself.

Don't people typically post that it isn't a very religious school?

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Anonymous wrote:I will add that we are touring schools now and there is a definite difference in vibe among fellow parents touring schools. But these are really really superficial impressions. And I don’t know how much I’m expected to hang out with them while DC is in school.

That's tricky though because not everyone you see on a tour will be admitted to the school. Though I suppose the crowd a school attracts does say at least something about its vibe.