If people regularly think you look a decade younger

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who don’t think it’s possible have not had a doctor or nurse look up from the computer and say, well, you may not look 48…

Or say, you don’t look 49, you don’t even look 35.

I’m serious.

Oh I have, I just know it’s bull. I look my age. I look good and so do the women I know. I also don’t care. Let the 36 year olds be 36, I assume they will likely be 45 one day too, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who don’t think it’s possible have not had a doctor or nurse look up from the computer and say, well, you may not look 48…

Or say, you don’t look 49, you don’t even look 35.

I’m serious.

People say this crap as nice small talk. And I’ve also had both old and young doctors say this when I was pregnant at 42. The old ones, it used to be a different thing to be 42. The young ones don’t have a frame of reference. It’s like how you have no idea how old kids are until you have one. People, the young people have NO idea. It’s mindless flattery. Just enjoy looking good. Young isn’t the goal.

[Anonymous]

Agree it is mindless flattery. Also sad that an obsession with looking young makes it so effective.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in an arts field and have lots of 20 something people coming in to our organization all the time. They regularly are shocked when they find out I'm 45 and thought I was mid-30s.

I am a healthy-thin weight (like a size 8, medium), have no gray hair and don't dye my hair - it's cut in a long bob, use sunscreen regularly and have very few wrinkles, get good sleep. I keep up with clothing trends but don't overdo that.

But I agree that it's mainly heredity and your perceived lifestyle.

Unless you are very tall, size 8 is not thin, ever, never, ever ever.

DP. At 5'9 a size 8 puts me in healthy/thin. When I'm a 6, people try to feed me.

Obnoxious. I’m also 5’9 and wear size 8 pants but smaller shirt sizes and dress sizes and I’m thin, like people comment I wish I were skinny like you thin. Like previous poster, if I slim down even more people think I’m sick or ask me to eat.

Size 8s look fine and healthy but it's not thin. I've been a 2 for the last 20 years -- I feel thin. People don't try to feed me, I just look fit. For the 6 months post partum with my second kid, I needed to buy pants that were more like a 6/size 27 waist and I did not feel thin.

You sound like you have BDD.

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All of the people who post *solely* to insist that size 8 isn't thin are beyond words.

Size 8 is huge though. At 5'2 size 8 is my fat weight for sure.

[Anonymous]

Another Asian here. I’ve stayed the same size over the years and can share clothes with my teen girls. My mom is nearing 80 and doesn’t look it at all.