When your spouse buys the cheap stuff but eats the good stuff

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

Maybe they felt shy/embarrassed to cook “real food”? So they ate snacks all day?

[Anonymous]

Who needs 20 lbs of apples?

Why buy two types? Just buy the fancy apples!

Only buy good beer! Never buy the crap beer!
You sound crazy about your salad dressing. Seems like a strange thing to hoard.

You all eat way too many apples, drink too much beer, and gulp vinaigrette. I cant with you all. Maybe you deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

Maybe they felt shy/embarrassed to cook “real food”? So they ate snacks all day?

No. They also made a pie or cake or cookies each day. Didn’t like my turkey noodle soup so pureed it with cream (they don’t like soup with things or chunks in it! Must puree it!). And we had big bags of pretzels, taco chips, etc they still had to eat. They just don’t give a damn and want to use up everything. And don’t get me started on all the appliances or electronic feature that “suddenly stopped working.” Or broken class is fine in the garage and ask to go vacuum the area with the super vacuum as we have little kids. Silence every time we asked about something broken.

It’s like they got developmentally stunted at age 4

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

Maybe they felt shy/embarrassed to cook “real food”? So they ate snacks all day?

No. They also made a pie or cake or cookies each day. Didn’t like my turkey noodle soup so pureed it with cream (they don’t like soup with things or chunks in it! Must puree it!). And we had big bags of pretzels, taco chips, etc they still had to eat. They just don’t give a damn and want to use up everything. And don’t get me started on all the appliances or electronic feature that “suddenly stopped working.” Or broken class is fine in the garage and ask to go vacuum the area with the super vacuum as we have little kids. Silence every time we asked about something broken.

It’s like they got developmentally stunted at age 4

Sounds awful!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I almost feel like this has to be a troll. What person in their right mind buys red delicious apples?

NP

My husband buys them too. Because they are cheaper. He doesn’t eat them either. I’ve asked him to not buy apples anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You each buy your own groceries. Some couples do this. Or you make a grocery list that includes brands of the items to purchase.

DP
DH leaves crumbs in my delicious salted European butter, so I buy a separate one and clearly label it with my name in big fat sharpie. It got to be a joke in the house, but I cannot stand crumbs in the butter and he cannot butter anything without them.

Luckily we both like good food and buy the same brands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

Maybe they felt shy/embarrassed to cook “real food”? So they ate snacks all day?

No. They also made a pie or cake or cookies each day. Didn’t like my turkey noodle soup so pureed it with cream (they don’t like soup with things or chunks in it! Must puree it!). And we had big bags of pretzels, taco chips, etc they still had to eat. They just don’t give a damn and want to use up everything. And don’t get me started on all the appliances or electronic feature that “suddenly stopped working.” Or broken class is fine in the garage and ask to go vacuum the area with the super vacuum as we have little kids. Silence every time we asked about something broken.

It’s like they got developmentally stunted at age 4

Stop having these awful people in your house.

[Anonymous]

Buy the apples on your way out of the market so you just have to lug them for a short period of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aldi has good apples and they are cheap. The ones called honey crisp

I love Aldi's apples too, except I get the gala variety as I like a little more tart. I like that their bagged apples are the small size, perfect serving size for a snack for kids, adults, and pets (my dog eats 2-3 apples weekly).

I just wanted to say WOW and share my condolences to all the women on this thread who are living with these issues. This is today's moment to celebrate my singledom, for sure!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take the hint: you're spending too much money on "the good stuff"

This is the weirdest take on the thread.

I don't know. There might be an element of truth to it.

Is he just really frugal? There's nothing wrong with that.

But if you "splurge" on better things, why should those better things be reserved just for you? You could have a conversation about how much you're spending on "luxury" groceries and how certain items should be consumed equally when purchased.

But if DH is trying to save money, and DW is ignoring that, its not fair for DH to just let DW spend the money on all the luxury groceries while DH is stuck with the bad stuff

[Anonymous]

Cheap people are the worst! I dated someone like this when I was in my early 20s.

She bought the cheapest soaps, shampoo/conditioner, lotions, etc. but had no problems using my expensive products.

If we went to dinner and she was paying, no appetizer or the cheapest on the menu. If I was paying, totally different story.

She did the weekly grocery shopping at Aldi when it was her turn.

She only bought Target clothes and shoes for herself. She saved up a list of expensive items she wanted and would send it out before her birthday or Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take the hint: you're spending too much money on "the good stuff"

This is the weirdest take on the thread.

I don't know. There might be an element of truth to it.

Is he just really frugal? There's nothing wrong with that.

But if you "splurge" on better things, why should those better things be reserved just for you? You could have a conversation about how much you're spending on "luxury" groceries and how certain items should be consumed equally when purchased.

But if DH is trying to save money, and DW is ignoring that, its not fair for DH to just let DW spend the money on all the luxury groceries while DH is stuck with the bad stuff

DP. You're twisting the story to push a weird agenda. This is not about frugality vs. splurging. OP's DH is just cheap and selfish. He ends up wasting more money and food with his thoughtless way of purchasing and consuming. He clearly prefers the nicer stuff, but unwilling to pay for it, but will consume most of it, leaving nothing for his own wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I almost feel like this has to be a troll. What person in their right mind buys red delicious apples?

NP

My husband buys them too. Because they are cheaper. He doesn’t eat them either. I’ve asked him to not buy apples anymore.

Agree. They’re total mush and too sugary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Write your name on the things you want. My husband said I needed to do that once when I brought back half a pizza from a dinner out with friends because he didn't know he wasn't allowed to eat everything in our house. I had been planning to eat the remaining half for lunch but when I went to get it, he had already eaten it. Another time I bought a specific kind of cracker to go with a specific kind of cheese that I wanted to have at some point during the week. When I went into the pantry, the crackers were all gone because he had eaten them. So now I do literally write my name on the items that I have purchased for myself and that I plan to eat. My husband isn't a jerk like yours - he didn't argue with me when I expressed frustrating at him having eaten something I had planned to eat myself - so maybe that won't work in your case.

We tried this....my adult daughter still living with us buys all her own groceries (except for when she eats dinner with us she will eat what I have made), and usually puts her name on the bottle of specific condiments, baking mixes, etc (some of which is gluten free) to protect it from her ravenous teen siblings, but my husband gets offended. "Oh I guess I'm not allowed to eat her food even though she eats ours?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheap people are the worst! I dated someone like this when I was in my early 20s.

She bought the cheapest soaps, shampoo/conditioner, lotions, etc. but had no problems using my expensive products.

If we went to dinner and she was paying, no appetizer or the cheapest on the menu. If I was paying, totally different story.

She did the weekly grocery shopping at Aldi when it was her turn.

She only bought Target clothes and shoes for herself. She saved up a list of expensive items she wanted and would send it out before her birthday or Christmas.

That’s rude, not just cheap.

Taking advantage of someone else and making them pay for you and you have zero intent of ever matching their kindness or generosity or quality. And not for monetary reasons